Yeah, les see, that'd be statutory fer you, buddy. So les try to keep the trouser snake locked up until she's 18
i dont see the problem. as long as shes gone through puberty, lol. the more i talk to people from different places, the more i am starting to think that only in california is it normal to date people who arent exactly their age. here, age isnt really a factor in a relationship, everyone is friends with everyone. people from the ages of like 13-25 hang out in the same groups, have sex, date, and just hang out together. so i get kinda frustrated when people act like they should feel guilty about their feelings for someone. as long as your feelings for her are genuine, i think that you should pursue the relationship.
dont compare this to ancient times. in ancient times, people also had wooden teeth and had a life span of maybe 35 years. and ya know what else? back then girls were married off and having kids by the age of 13 or 14. so yeah, bad example. yours do? well i can see why, i have read some of your threads, and youre a fucking creep. they find nothing? rrrright.
based on the age difference, which is the only specifics i have, i'd recommend that you avoid her. i say this for the legal issues, initally. i don't know about the age of consent and the laws where you live, so i'm just making generalizations based on what could happen, legally. first, obviously, her parents could press charges. even if her parents consent, you can still be held accountable because the state can press charges. let's say you two are parked somewhere scenic, making out in the car. if a cop drives by, s/he's likely to stop. perhaps the vehicle is suspicious, or you're tresspassing, or s/he just wants to make sure the car isn't abandoned/broken down. if she looks a lot younger than you, the cop will i.d. both of you. i don't know where you live, and cops are different in different places. something like that happened to a kid i knew in high school, and the state pressed charges against him. so yes, it does happen. also, if you plan on having sex and she gets pregnant, you could be reported for that, as well. i'm not trying to come up with the worst case scenarios and freak you out or anything... but at the same time, i don't want you to think you're untouchable. i just want you to be aware of everything that could happen to you. bloody kisses is right; it's sad that people have to be ashamed about who they are attracted to. people cannot help it when they feel attraction... but be careful if that attraction has the potential to incarcerate you... i don't know your specific situation, but it's probably not worth the risk. legality aside, can i ask a couple personal questions? don't feel pressured to post your answers, but do consider your answers. -- has she started menstruating yet? -- do you plan on having sex with her? -- is she a virgin? are you? -- how mature is she, and how mature are you? i'm not questioning your maturity to be rude... you're just unknown to me and i think it's pertinant. i'm going to assume she has started menstrating, because the average age for mensus is now 11 in the states. is she well informed when it comes to sex ed? is she able to talk to her parents about birth control? i know that you can get birth control without parental consent. she's 13, so if she doesn't want her parents to find out, she will probably have to go in uninsured... if she's unemployed (you're not legally old enough to work at 13, so i assume she doesn't) and uninsured, it's going to be harder to afford birth control. for me, my birth control is $8/month with insurance... without health insurance it would be $45/month. if you have sex with her, don't rely on condoms alone. if the condom slips or breaks, again, she will have limited access to e.c. or an abortion (again: no car, no job, no insurance makes it a lot harder)... and if dna can prove you're the father, you're screwed. not to mention the horrible impact that carrying out a pregnancy or having an abortion would have on a 13 year old girl. and michael, what do you mean by, "pesky," just out of curiosity?
These days it's hard to tell how old a girl/woman is by looks alone. A couple of years ago I got out of a band and started a production company doing local all age shows, man some of the girls that would show up looked to be in their 20's but where really in their early teens. That can be trouble. At any rate, These folks are right, legally speaking, I'd just be friends...she'll come of age. Good luck.
I remember when I was 13 I looked a little mature for my age and I attracted older guys. I was flattered and felt special. But I was immature and didn't know everything like I thought I did. I was clingy and thought they would stay with me forever. I'm sure you are attracted to this girl, but you don't want to marry her. She is still dealing with middle school drama and adding you in her life will create more drama and emotional stress. Let her be a kid still. Even though she probably wants to be grown up and have a grown up boyfriend, she needs to grow into a woman more before she is able to be a good lover and partner. I would guess you would have to keep this on the down low because of her parents. If you two are caught, she will lose all her parents trust and probably some privleges. If you love her, let her be the kid she still is, don't screw up the relationship with her parents, and don't create emotional drama in her life. I'm sure at 13, she's got enough. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but take it from someone who was in her position... I wish those older boys would have left me alone. Another few things you may want to keep in mind, is the legal issues (of course) and what her reputation may become if she is seen running around with an adult. That's the biggest issue that still haunts me. Even when I was not sexually active, it did not look good at all for me to be dating older guys. I still have an awful reputation that I can't escape for that reason alone. If you really love her, wait. It may hurt, but I'm guessing you would rather hurt for a while than screw up her life.
i dont want to hurt anyone, i will wait, i just rekon its weird that i love a girl so much younger than me, it usually doesnt happen to me like that..
I agree with you wholeheartedly Headymoechick! And I'm terribly sorry for you guyshank to be stuck in a situation like that. Maybe you could check in with her periodically over the next four years. If you are good to her and leave sex alone, she will remember you when SHE is 18
