I am confused

Not about my sexuality or anything, but life in general. I recently got back from a trip to northern california (lake tahoe) and absolutely loved it up there. I always thought I was a so cal guy for life, but I am seriously considering dropping out of college (im only in community college right now) and moving up there. I know it would be good if i completed college though for a better career oportunity, but I really have no interest in any of these subjects. Maybe i could just sell my car, (i can easiy get 13-15k for it) and have plenty of starting off money if i were to make the move.

It would be easier though if I had a girlfriend to go with me. Or just a friend. But thats a big choice for someone. They have cool jobs up there working at the ski resorts/lake/casinos etc.. but i mean are those really careers? Thats the part im concerned about. I dont wanna be living paycheck to paycheck, i want to have a decent amount of money if i were to start a family. And without a college degree it can be harder to get a high paying job. Any insight would be appreciated. Thanks for reading.

 

this would be a good conversation for a chat room but there are to many questions and possibilities to just throw out some advice.

 

Umm...did you read these ideas somewhere? Are you really that plugged in to believe that you can only have a decent career with a college degree?

Expand your horizons man. First of all, why are you even thinking about starting a family when you don't even have anyone to start a family with?

Secondly, there are plenty of people with college degrees who live paycheck to paycheck. A college degree represents a sense of security if you have no creativity and are willing to settle for the first job you can get or stay within a set field.

In that case those with a college degree may be lucky to get a job in their field that turns into a career.

However, anyone with or without a degree with some creativity and dedication can create and/or maintain a career for themselves. Also, you can have a job and not live paycheck to paycheck. It is not all about the money, your life doesn't have to revolve around the work you do...there are ways to live in ways in which you can live on a lot less money than the mainstream media and government will admit is possible.

Also, most people don't stay in the same career and have happiness with it. Those who do are afraid of making a change and are usually miserable about it.

Rather you live paycheck to paycheck has nothing to do with your career. It has to do with your lifestyle.

I see why you're confused. You're holding onto some seriously limiting belief systems. Let 'em go and you might discover what you really want to do and then make it work for you.

 

ehhh to much goin on it chat rooms at once lol. But thanks!

 

for the stuff i bolded: Its called looking towards the future...
I know some people are fine without a college degree but in this day its better to have one.
You never give advice you just ramble and try to sound all high and mighty. Im looking for personal experience and positive advice. Please dont respond with any of your negative shit.

 

you can attend community college anywhere. I would recommend continuing with school for as long as you can. I would also not recommend making current life decisions around a vague future goal like starting a family. There are way too many variables involved there and when the time comes making a lot of money isn't the Most important thing. Having a degree doesn't guarantee a lot of money but it may help with job satisfaction

Also when the time comes you'll realize you were only free enough to drop everything and move to lake Tahoe during a specific time in your life.

 

I don't understand this last part. Please explain further if you have time.


Yes they do have community college up there but like i said i am not interested in school to be honest. And the family thing, im not sure how to explain but starting a family wasnt my point, i meant like.. i dont wanna be one of those people who has a kid and a stupid job and cant pay for anything and has to give the kid up etc... it was kind of an example.
Thank you for responding.

 

From a person who has dropped material possessions many times to go and do something crazy like that makes you better I think.

Money can't buy you happiness, and everyone wants a good career but sometimes I think just go with the flow of things

 

With you being from SoCal, you may also want to take Northern CA winters into the equation... Down in the valley it's okay weather wise, but the valley sucks. Being at any altitude though can get you into some cold ass times. Are you ready for that?

 

I am more than ready!!! I hate the heat and love thr cold. Ive been to the east coast, utah, mammoth, big bear etc and am fine with cold weather

 

Cool, man....



Pun intended.

 

Well from the research I've done and things I've heard from a gf's family who lives there, it's hard to make money up there unless you are growing a lot of good weed. It can be done but don't expect the same opportunities available in socal.

Have you considered the bay area? More jjobs and weekend trips to Tahoe are easy.

 

By the way, I have had the same concerns about providing for a future family. People who have that ride the wave attitude are most likely independently wealthy, living off their parents, or don't have a pot to piss in. Most people have to fight for their future, and that isn't going to happen without worrying about it to some degree.

 

Well i was in the bay area recently as well, ive been there a few times and its not really the place for me.
I wont grow pot lol im not realy into the weed scene anymore. I mean i would love to just work at a ski resort or on the lake because those are some of my favorite things to do. But i know i cant make a living off those kinds of jobs unless i moved into some type of management position. Thank you for your input Deviate

 

well i'm confused about your sexuality...

now that i got that out of the way, you are better off making the move now than if you did have a girlfriend. it's much easier for one person to start over than two. you can go to college there, take different subjects if you don't like these. living paycheck to paycheck is basically a personal decision. it's possible to make minimum wage and still save money, as long as you're only supporting yourself. it will probably be hard to get a job at one of those resorts in the first place, but once you get in, just take the job seriously and work your ass off and you should be able to move up and start making fairly decent money.

all that said, everyone who takes a trip goes through a period immediately afterward where they think they want to move there. the feeling generally doesn't last long though. just because you like attending a resort does not mean you'll like working at one. it's something you'll need to think long and hard about before making a decision.

 

Well I mean i have been there before and when I was younger I always kinda wanted to move up north. Maybe not for good but atleast for a decent amount of time. Snowboarding/skiing/lake stuff is basically my only interest in life so i would have no problem working with that stuff. Even if it involved scrubbing shit off bathroom floor.
Thank you for your input

 

Yeah, I've done it too, many times, many times already. In fact, I just did it. Told my work I was leaving, they tripped out because I had no plans... but to hell with plans it has always been worth the experience... just have a little bit of heartache over the girl but we had already broken up... however it didn't have to be for good, after all, I did stay there my last night but... damn im rambling...:love:

 

oooooohh..Utah...its gets so damn cold there

 

Well im sorry I dont live in canada where it gets to -20 farenheit
But yes I have been in 5-10 degree weather which is cold for a person from southern california.

 

Utah is cold as fuck hiking around the top of Jupiter bowl with a storm coming in. No different than the northeast.