I almost made my girlfriend cum again!

I swear it's been at least a year.

So, I've been with her for four years; she has never cum, and has expressed only minimal interest in doing so. When we were first messing around, she would stop me after a little because it started to feel 'weird' -- as the relationship grew and intimacy became more frequent, her stopping me became less frequent and took longer to happen.

This time, she stopped me while I was rubbing her clit because it became "really sensitive".

I won't lie, partially, I want to make her cum for my own ego's sake; but I am also concerned that she is not getting the full amount of pleasure that she could, and that if she holds it off it will just become harder and harder for her to reach.

Is this proper? Should I be worried for her? Is it my right to be worried for her? What should I do?

I refuse to "just keep going" as my (virginal) friend suggested

 

I know this sounds kinda bad, but my advice is don't stop when she tells you to stop. It sounds like she's afraid of losing control, so at this point maybe you should take control and make it your duty to get her past the point of being in control of herself.

of course, there is always the possibility that it isn't a control issue or anything in her head; maybe you just aren't pleasing her. has she ever masturbated in front of you? can she cum this way? if so, pay close attention to the way she gets herself off.

it kinda sounds like a weird situation; i know a lot of females have trouble climaxing but it sounds almost like shes afraid to even get to that point. it could be entirely psychological, are you guys able to discuss it completely openly and honestly?

either way, i wouldnt worry about it too much because then it might get to the point where you're subconsciously putting pressure on her to orgasm, and that will only make things worse for her.

edit: didnt you start a thread not too long ago about the importance of foreplay? you mean to say youve been investing all that time into foreplay without getting her off?

 

Yes she has, no she has not. Though it seems she probably could; at any rate, she has even less experience has me at it =P

Would you think that this is the best chance of her reaching that point?

Yes, but she is not a very reflective person and she is not a very vocal person; she shows some interest in trying it, though not a lot; and the most she has been able to describe her feelings when she stops me are 'weird' and 'really sensitive'.

As far as the whole psychological thing: one thing I feel I should note is that she is not always very open to new experiences. The bedroom is usually the antithesis of this, but in this case, it is not.

Yes, I do agree -- which is why I haven't pursued the interest too much with her (aside from pleasing her, of course).. but that doesn't lead to much progress.

What do you mean investing? The full exploration of erogenous zones is an experience we both enjoy..

 

congratulations

 

Why not, she does all the time


You probably make her cum everyday, its just that, well you dont have to be there

 

been there, I figured it was fantastic because I pretty much got oral sex for almost no work whatsoever :biker:

 

I really don't get why this scenario is so unbelievable..

She lives with 5 siblings and shares a bed with her 8 year old brother.

I know! And this part makes me afraid of making her cum a little, because then there will be more work to our pleasure, but then I remember how sweet of a person I'm with, and that she wouldn't require too much of me (and that some day I'll have money to buy her a vibrator!)

 

so the full exploration of erogenous zones is an experience you both enjoy, but you definitely enjoy it more because you're not having to do nearly as much work and you actually get off

i'm just giving you shit. but seriously..coming from a woman..I dont get off all the time during sex. and the times when I don't get off are still enjoyable because I know i'm giving someone else pleasure. BUT, giving someone else pleasure would start to lose its appeal after four years of one-sided orgasms. Just sayin...she's probably not enjoying the full exploration of your erogenous zones as much as you think she is.

get the girl a vibrator and teach her how to orgasm, damnit!

 

4 years...that must be quite a blow to your ego?:mickey:

 

She needs to masturbate...alot...a whole lot...then she needs to openly communicate to you what to do and encourage you if what you are doing it right.

Also, her sleeping arrangements are highly inappropriate!

 

So alternate between thrusting and rubbing her clit. Then rub it really fast

 

Duck, you cant take advice from the chicks on this either

What if she is too sensitive down there, even for herself to touch, or doesnt even need anyone to touch her to get off

What is she going to communicate to you?. "Sorry Honey, you are more likely to make me cum if you stare me in the eyes and run your fingers through my hair, or us just taking a walk together, you being by my side whilst my thighs are rubbing together will do it"

And encourage you if you are doing it right? If sometimes all thats required is for you to stand next to her, or do something manly, or get angry

The girls that arent like that, are less sensitive down there, need physical contact, arent going to understand that, arent going to understand your girlfriend

How to make a girl climax through oral sex, I would be the very last guy to ask advice from, no idea

Doesnt mean I dont have any experience with girls that can cum simply if you just stare in their eyes, dont even have to touch them. That sounds ridiculous right? Thats not possible right? I mean....why wouldnt they tell you about that?

Heres a tip, get her in a quiet place, be very still and calm, tell her you are not going to touch her below the neck the rest of the night, your fingers through her hair, tell her to keep looking in your eyes and hold that stare, use your hands to massage the back of her head down near the neck, keep looking her in the eyes the whole time...........watch what happens

 

What? Sleeping with Duck?

 

no, sleeping with her 8yr old brother!

she needs to figure out, however that may be, through masturbation what gets her off. whether it is like vanillagorilla suggested or whether it isn't as sensitive as she thinks she just hasn't experimented enough yet. is she even an adult yet?

 

maybe she is ten



(Im joking )

 

No, she is. But you gotta figure, you're coming from the perspective of a girl who likes orgasming; hers is a girl that never has.

She gets creeped out by staring, though I'm sort've an exception, she still never holds a stare quite as long as me.

One of our first times hanging out, we saw a doe (in the city), and she goes "Oh my god it's so creepy!" 'What?! It's a doe!' "So, it's staring!!"
And I've never stopped teasing her.

... are you serious? +_+

Yes, she's twenty.

Yeesh, and yours is the advice I liked the best! =P (so far?)

:rofl:

 

so she's a twenty year old that still shares a bed with her 8yr old brother. what the hell?! that's fucked up!

 

yep..a twenty year old sharing a bed with an 8 year old sibling of the opposite sex is enough to get child protective services here to take the kid away believe it or not

 

not to mention, neither of them can naturally explore themselves since they have no privacy.

 

Her momma had way too many kids and has way too little money.

She does sleep over here a bit though, and he sleeps on the couch a lot now.

I don't like it either (and have told her so), but I think you're making a rather big deal out of it.