how you look

does how you look affect how people treat you? if you could look different, would you? do you think people would like you more if you were prettier, or less if you were uglier? would you rather have everyone like you for how you look, or would you appreciate the people who get to know your personality before they decide to like you or not? i am assuming that people will say that they would rather have people like them for their personality, but doesn't everyone like to be complimented, especially by people they don't know? or does it give you a false sense of youself? if someone is constantly being praised by how they look, does it somehow give them a better personality? or at least make them more outgoing? isn't that kind of unfair? i don't know why but i have been wondering a lot about this lately.

 

How I look affects how people treat me so much. Constantly in fact.. except around my family and close friends who just don't look at me. But other people.. they're obsessed with how I look. The clothes I wear. How I fix my hair. And it's all very very positive I'm not gonna complain and say oh I wanna look ugly and fat I can't take all these complements.. it's just that.. I don't agree with people most of the time.. I think they exagerate and don't see all the problems I do see when I look in the mirror! lol Looking good got me my waitress job. Looking good got me the guy I had a crush on.

But looks aren't everything and I hate HATE HATE not having my personality taken into account. Because I have a great personality. But no one seems to care. Sometimes it makes me sad.

 

I'm completely plastereed right now so the above post has gotta sound horrible hahahaha I don't even know if I'm being serious but if I am.. it sounds so funny in the dramatic way I think it may be on pirpose

 

Yea it sucks, I can never be friends with girls because they all love me so much and they are always trying to take my clothes off. I mean I want to make them happy but I dont even know their names sometimes they just hide in my apartment and wait for me to come home and then they attack me.

 

lol! you poor thing.

 

I am without a doubt judged by how I look so much. I can only imagine how much worse it would be to be a woman.

A modell with a 75 IQ is commonly considered more desirable partner then a slightly overwight nobel prize winner.

On the one hand, looks are the first thing you notice about a stranger, but I oft think I put too much weight in them. A cute bitch is still a bitch.

I would say looks are the #1 way in which women are juged in society.

Probably #2 for men, behind success, which usually means money.

By the way, Joy, Laety, you're both beautiful!

 

good looking people will say that they would rather be judged by thier personality..

ugly people will say that they'd like to be good looking.. lol

i personally think looks matter at first... but then in the end its all up to your personality.

and yes, good looking people get praised a lot more. lol
- people wont hire you if you're ugly! lmao.

 

Thank you green faeire. Im learning how to deal with this troubling problem, I guess it just takes time and healing like everything else

 

I reccomend a scar right between the eyes.

Of course it might backfired and look too cool.

 

yeah, theres lots of times that i wish i was thinner, prettier, more proportionate, etc. i've never really gotten attention from good looking guys, and it can be a little depressing sometimes. but really, i think the people who aren't always told how gorgeous they are and grow up "popular" develop less of a dependence on that praise and love, and in the end its beneficial. if you arent beautiful outside, you work hard to make yourself beautiful inside because you want people to love you.

 

I'm ridiculously attractive.

Anyhow, girls usually approach me because of my crazy accent... and those are the girls I automatically ignore. Hitting on me because of my accent is lame. Get to know me first, women.

 

I need to move somewhere where ladies'll appreciate my southern charm.

I'll hold open doors and say mam, and then bam. Their having my kid.

 

At least their not hitting on you for your worldly taste in beer Pavel.

 

i hold doors open and say ma'am...i must be missing the southern charm then

 

i'm a big guy...so i do get judged on how i look. i don't like it most of the time. i do get some nice compliments on my eyes and smile though

 

its the accent.

 

i have a cool accent

 

to be a southern gentleman you need a southern accent.

but what accent do you have?

 

i have a southie accent

 

oh. well idk whats up with those crazy bitches you hold doors for then. you should have fathered dozens of children by now!