confront my ex. we went out for a couple of monthes. and i let him borrow 300$ so he could get his car on the road so i wouldnt be the only one driving around ( to his house is about half an hour) i havent spoken to him in a month. he actually didnt even break up with me. he was too much of a pussy to even confront me. the last week or so i would go by his house and he would either be sleeping...or "sleeping" i really want to move on but knowing i let him borrow money and he still hasnt paid me back when he said he would is really making him look like an asshole..and i have to keep reminding myself that he has my money. i am friends with his friends and have brought the fact that he still owes me money but even they cant get a hold of him.
Park outside hits house, just sit out at the door and wait for him maybe? does he live with his parents at all still? They might be good someones to contact about this too, depending on their relationship with him.
Yeah Ive had that happen to me before. The relationship ended and the guy didnt act like he was going to repay me $200 he borrowed... and he wasnt someone I wanted to deal with anymore either because he was manipulative and aggressive and I didnt want confrontations.... so anyways... I found the best thing to do was, while talking to his parents I mentioned to them that he borrowed the money and I hadnt gotten it back yet. They must have gotten on his case, cuz ... I had it back within a week.
i wouldnt sit outside his house but further down the road where he wont see you but you can see the house that way you can collar him off guarde so to speak.
consider yourself lucky. I have two different guys I dated...the first one I let borrow $600 (I still think someday I might get that one back) and the last...$1700 (I know I'll never get that one back). I swear to god I will never do it again. Instead of taking them to court, which I should ahve done...I cut my losses and decided to vow to never monetarily help anyone out again (to that extent).
There is nothing to be gained by confronting him. If he was going to pay the money back he would. Your only two options is to just write it off and learn a lesson or take him to small claims court. You wouldn't need a lawyer.
helping out people is great - ex's on the other hand... i'd cut my losses and use the fact he's avioding the scenario as a sure indicator that its not a good idea to try and help him out anymore - your own health and sanity should come first and if moving on is what you intend to do - then you don't wanna be messing up your own plan
Why is it that ex's will be sweet and nice when they need something? Because it works! I have a friend that is broke because she helped out her ex. Now she is mad because he won't pay her back. I feel for her, but this is not the first time she has done this. I agree with mama.....but if you have to loan an ex money write out a contract with "strict and well-defined" repayment terms....see if he still wants to borrow it when he has to sign his name to a contract.
I understand the desire to cut ones losses and move on but then what does that teach the ex? Maybe that he can keep doing such things to the women he dates without any concequences what-so-ever. No advice here, just another of the things to consider.
good advice. I've been in this situation, and just wrote it off as a mistake. there isnt even a guarantee you will get anything from court either. you have to prove that he "borrowed" it and it wasn't just a gift. just let it go, and move on.
You had to pay $300 bucks to get rid of this creep? Consider yourself lucky! It could have been much worse. Bustramp
Very sad to loose money but $300 is a small loss to get rid of the looser, be happy that was all it was.
you have to let go your ex and move on! forget the money as well! you can get it again in some other ways! let his CONSCIENCE work!
