How often do you talk about/mention your sexuality?

I was just wondering how often everyone here talks about or mentions their sexuality.

I'm wondering this because I was at a party last night with my brother, his girlfriend, and a bunch of his friends that I didn't know too well. I was a bit tipsy we'll say. I had a bunch of conversations with a bunch of really cool people, and mentioned it in at least half of them, and right now I can't remember why... Maybe that's more of a drunk thing than a being comfortable with my sexuality thing, but I don't know, I just felt like I didn't care at all what people knew about me and thought about me, and I still don't now that I'm sober.

Then again, in a completely different setting, like at school, I tend to not be so open about it. I mean people still know, but I don't mention it in conversation as much.

 

I'm not exactly out about being bi. My good friends all know, and if we are chillin watching a movie or at the mall and I see a hot chick, I always say something about it. My guy friend who is gay always does the same thing with guys. If we're drunk at a party where we are close with most people we'll say something about our sexuality. Usually for the same reason of being drunk and not caring.

 

I mention my sexuality if it comes up. Ive never hid the fact that Im gay, I tend to say it quite easily, and I dont need to be drunk to do that. I tend to be pretty comfortable with myself in general, and I think its due to the people Im surrounded by, because Ive NEVER had a problem with anyone for being gay, so Ive never even thought of it as being "wrong" or a social taboo or whatever.

For example, if Im with people, and I go to tell a story that has to do with my first boyfriend, Ill say "boyfriend" in reference to him, and then people will either ask me "oh youre gay?" or theyll look conufsed, like they think they misunderstood, and then I usually say somethin like "oh, have I told you?" and theyre like "what?" and I say "yeah, Im gay." and then I continue with the story. Or if someone asks me why I dont have a girlfriend, or something like that. So, I never hold back making references that show Im gay, but I also dont bring up my sexuality just to "get attention" or whatever other annoying motive one might have.

I 'unno.

 

As has been said, when it comes up. But that's more often than you'd think. I don't feel the need to keep it to myself, so if the guys I hang out with are talking about sex in general, dating or whatever, I don't stay out of the conversation or anything, because I know that they're cool.

I'm not making like this is a big achievement, but a lot of the out guys I know aren't like this; they'll make like they're cool talking about it and whatever just because they don't actually deny it, but when it actually comes up they either go quiet or take it as a cue to go to the toilet or whatever.

 

Well....everyone around me already knows...when I have a lady...we dont hide it....so , I never have to bring it up....its just there...my entire life

 

me and my friends make little jokes about it a lot (in good fun, of course...), usually just when we're doing some everyday thing and I happen to say/do something that is slightly stereotypical. The thing that more often comes into the conversation isn't so much just the fact that I'm gay itself, but more my feelings for this guy at school. And I bring THAT up a good deal around my close friends, because i sorta feel the need to vent a lot

 

i think its probably a "gay thing", cuz u feel somewhat uncomfortable with sexuality... dont get me wrong, im not saying u should feel uncomfortable, but its still a big deal to come out of the closet these days, so sadly enough it has to leave marks on u. it doesnt matter tho. most of the friends ive had who were gay were very much into making sexual comments all the time, but its all good. its the straight pple who are uptight =P.

 

It comes up quite often.

Usually in humor, but if i'm out anf find a guy attractive in most cases i make a comment to the person i am with. I also talk about my boyfriend often.

I don't know, I've never given it much thought.

 

i think it's just something that is so intrinsically a part of who you are, and it's something that is, for many people, a very important point. i consider it to be a point of fairness to declare outright something that a new person would consider important, frivolous though it may be. if i'm a christian, and i'm at a satanist gathering, it would probably be pretty important to mention that i'm a christian, right? it's very much the same thing. one's sexuality is never really an issue in an homogenous society, but to be fair, if you're at a party with a group of people who clearly aren't gay, it's probably a point of fairness, and i also think, a point of bravery, to declare yourself.

 

well at the satanists, saying your not would be important then you don't get involued in the rituals, why would it be important at the party?
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One's sexuality isn't unimportant in a homogenous society, whatever that is. So much of socialisation is informed by sexual urges and gender interests, it's bound to affect one's perspective. But I don't see why one should feel obliged, like they're being unfair, if they don't tell everyone that they're gay. I mean, fair enough if it comes up, and if you're hanging with a load of straight guys for long enough the conversation probably will turn to sex at some point. But I don't know, the bravery angle seems to miss the point a lot. If you're in a situation where divulging your sexuality would have negative consequences, then doing so is foolish more than brave. If I was the Christian at the Satanist party (I hear they have awesome dips), it'd probably be the one thing I kept to myself.

 

I have been out for a long time. I am honest about my sdexuality and do not hide it in any situation. I am so proud to say I am comfortable with my sexuality and I do not concern myself with the reactions of potential homophobic people.

 

i did say that we have a homogenous society, i said that if we did, it wouldn't be an issue. but for some people, even nice ones, it tends to be a topic that comes up. i have a hard time not being totally open, even if it means thaton occaision someone decides to stop being my friend. better now than later, when i'm attached.

 

Whenever... I am madly in love with the woman of my dreams and like anyone in a serious and happy relationship I mention my partner. we spend a lot of time together, live together part time, and so I often have reason to mention her, at least in passing. And I say "She" and her name and of course all friends know about her. I don't care who knows I'm bi- everyone knows, my classmates, professors, etc... of course my school is small and close. We start back today... I bet my prof and fellow students all ask me about her... same students and prof I had last semester

 

It's part of your identity. Ideally we shouldn't have to feel that we're lying just be not confessing to it, anymore than we should feel deceitful for not immediately telling people that we're insecure or lonely or whatever. It should just be an aspect of your character. I think it's only because some people feel threatened by it that we feel obliged to mention it and deceitful if we don't.

 

Two points- satanists don't worship the Devil, and while they certainly aren't Christian, they don't believe that Satan exists either, since he is a Christian creation. I know nobody said they did, but I think it's a common misconception And no, I am neither LOL

Also... I don't think it's unfair not to reveal one's sexuality... but I personally don't care who knows!

And I was right- I got asked all day how my girl's doing and if we had a fun holiday together. Not everyone's an asshole about this stuff, and it's really refreshing!

 

lol. i didn't say anything about satanists worshipping the devil. i already know better.. but anyway, i prefer to reveal pertinant facts about myself right up front, since there's any number of things i get up to that someone may find to be highly offensive. mainly because until recently i've lived in the bible belt. to be honest, i don't want to waste time become friends with someone when i know for a fact they're gonna give me the brush if they find out about my sexuality and my leanings. i'm not saying everyone has to do it. that's all up to the individual and the situation. i've not been in a position where i was physically threatened should i reveal who i am. but i'e been in a few situations where out of basic respect for what someone is willing to reveal to me that i be fully honest about who i am.

 

In my opinion, telling people who don't ask, or care, that you're gay is fueling the problem of discrimination and homophobia. By all means, be proud of your sexuality, but there's no need to parade it around like it's a novelty. You don't see people having huge "Straight Parades" for being straight. If you feel that being gay is normal to you and natural (in a personal sense, not an ethical sense), treat it just like that without the pretty ribbons and packaging.

 

that would depend on which branch of satanism we are talking about, some do, but worship him as the 'real god'
prechristian and often disguised as other gods, they would see the christian concept of a corruption of their god, like I said depending on which branch.
other branches believe in the concept of serving yourself and like you said no devil, but it really does depend what branch you hark from.
(i'm not a satanist ethier btw, but have an interest in a lot of spiritual paths)
this is off topic, so we can explore the basics of this elsewhere, but it is not really appropaite carrying on here
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yeah I agree
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