how much is too much for the one that got away?

How much is too much for a lost love? Moving away from family, giving up alcohol or weed or what ever vice. How much can one bend for a loved one before they break and are no longer the same person? Such is the insanity of love, I am faced with these very questions, and I find myself at a loss of just how much I could bend. But when we kiss, the world dissapears...

 

I think it all depends on the reasons, really.
If my husband wanted me to move far away with him, well... I don't have much family here anyway, but still. If it was for something like a better job, so we can own a house a little sooner than we planned or whatever, of course I'd be up for it. He gave up alcohol, only after he really understood that it made us BOTH unhappy. We both smoke (weed) so that's not an issue.

It all depends on the reason for the sacrafices.

 

the sacrifices ultimately have to be things you want as well... otherwise you'll end up bitter and resentful. there also needs to be give and take. the sacrifices shouldnt' be all one-sided either.

 

I understand her reasons for the most part, there are 4 things that stand in our way. She is going to school bout four hours away, she is from the same town I am, I don't want to move too far away from town, cuz this is where my family is, so is hers. She doesn't want to live here. She has decreed that there will be no alcohol, porn, or weed in her house. She's a recovering addict, and she did a stint with alcohol, so I understand that one, I'm not a big drinker by anymeans, I do like having a drink from time to time, but almost never to drunkeness. Porn, she views it as cheating(sotra)(more because she thinks it's addictive), Don;t have a huge prob with this, but porn is nice from time to time and there is the vintage playboy collection to think about. And now it comes to weed, this one I don't really see the motive for, other than NA views all drugs the same. I need to mention tho that I am a medicinal MJ patient. So that one is a real sticking point for me.

Tigerlily, exactly what I have been thinking.

So help me out here, I'm torn