How long do you spend of foreplay before penetration ? Part 2

OK I want to see how many guys are prepared to go all out at an attempt to achieve orgasm with the partners.

Like I have been saying I believe its the amount of foreplay (really slow and gentle kissing, caressing, etc) that gets women to REAL ORGASM.

This is not for those that are just too lazy or not really interested in their partners ultimate sexual pleasure.

Forget about porn movies your being dupped into believing that women in these movies are enjoying it, I dont know any women that can get off with a crowd around them, being filmed whilst they are doing it.

If all your sexual information is coming from porn I would say you will most likely will not get your women to orgasm.

Oral is affective so thats not what I mean when I talk about porn.

From what I know about the real thing is you need the light off, of just moon light, this probably means most women are inhibited to a certain extent.

The temperature of the room does not make any difference, in fact it may be better if the room is cold ?

I dont know why that is ?

Basically I'm not sure if temperature makes any difference.

But it may turn out that a cold room is better than a warm room.

You dont have to be in love with a women either.

I think you do have to have some kind of rapport with a women though.

Being very gentle works which I guess is pretty logical.

A lot of foreplay I believe works, that means a very long time maybe even 5 hours or more.

Now a women can get aroused over a long time even if shes not in bed with you.

So all the petting before sex is important.

I remember one gf that I took out for dinner and we had a good time and walked home and I was kissing her and touching her most of the way, so that probably does have an affect on her.

I want to see how far other couples have gone in regards to caressing and kissing etc.

How long do you spend on foreplay ?

 

If you are talking actual physical stimulation, then I'd say at least 30 minutes. Mostly caressing, massaging, kissing breasts, etc, gradually touching/stimulating the genital area. Then when properly lubed, concentrate on the clitoris until she orgasms (that's the only way she can cum).

 

Hey thats great, I was about to give up on female orgasm.

You have the right attitude, and if you spend more time it just gets better, for you and your partner.

I think its a good idea to use your own body as feedback that way you have some idea of what it must be like.

Have a go at more than one hour, keep teasing her, look for those sex flushes and wetness around her vagina but keep going take it to the next level just as an experiment dont let her know though.

See how you go with it.

 

Maybe 10 15 minutes. Sometime real horny and maybe half hour or more

 

All Friday and Saturday then finally get into it Sunday.

 

Being able to tick box here would suggest to me a predictable pre programmed root.

You spend as long as the mood strikes you to in any given instance, and if you are pre deciding some sort of time frame, then you are going in to it like a robot imo.

BORING!

 

What if you are heavily into mutual masturbation, and she gets more turned on by watching play with my thing than me touching and kissing her?

Sometimes I penetrate-other times well I finish elsewhere.

I don't have a clue where this would fit in with your survey.

All I know is that it always ends with both parties satisfied, and as Ivana said the amount of time we take is not preprogrammed.

 

Are you arguing for less foreplay ?

What I'm trying to get across here is foreplay not really the amount of time.

Some women could get off on much less time it really depends of the girl or women.

I firmly believe that most women are inhibited by what they call "primary sexual dysfunction" which is mostly negative psychological programming.

For example if a girl women is constantly told not to touch down their then perhaps that has an affect of her ability to be able to relax and just let orgasm happen.

I think this may even be true for a guy, that is what happened to me I initially felt fearful of what was about to happen when I was with my partner on the threshold of her orgasm.

A womens brain starts to loose control of her body now that may be very frightening if you dont know what is going to happen.

At the time (at the threshold of her orgasm) I did feel quite frightened because I could not work out why her keegle muscles where gripping my penis so tightly, I made a mental decision to just go with it and whoa and wow what a pleasant surprise to say the very least.

I think women must just not worry about making a mess in bed, you have to understand we are animals to a certain extent and it does get very messy when you have an orgasm, the bed gets soaked in sweat ( for lack of other word to describe water coming off you body during orgasm), so you must not worry or be concerned about peeing the bed or getting messy.

Orgasm is really messy but who really cares when this is the ultimate sexual experience that women and man can have.

GB.

 

anywhere up to forty seconds .... imma very curteous lover

 

*Sorry for the length - skip if too hard basket - tho I think a few might appreciate the comments in the latter half*

No GB, I am not arguing for less foreplay. I'd like more oral for starters lol. I just think it is strange if people would go in to sex planning ahead how long they should spend on foreplay instead of going with the flow in each instance. Sorry if you were angling for foreplay in general, but all the time frames in the poll well, they look like time frames and I took that to be the topic.

I like foreplay as much as the next person, ... and marathon all nighter sex sessions rock, ... but sometimes I like to just be banged straight off the bat too. Lucky for me I can orgasm for penetration alone, and prefer g spot orgasms to clitoral too, so always spending ages on foreplay could actually frustate me if I was craving the penetration and pressure on my g spot instead. It is just situationally dependant.

And yes, as you said, different girls can get off easier than others. I happen to be one of the lucky ones. So, right situation/guy, and I can be 90% there before anything even really gets started.

Only 3 guys tho have given me 'super super knock out, dont try to get any sense out of me coz my brain has already departed the planet, and I'm gunna giggle to myself like a twit for the next half an hour coz I cant even talk', variety orgasms, ...and yeah, 2 of them shit themselves the first time coz they had never caused a reaction like that in someone before. The other knew what he was doing.

Both the first guy and my current bf, were baffled as fuck about the volume of sweat coz it was like upending a bucket on the bed/couch, ..and both actually questioned if I had peed myself (lol) but knew at the same time that made no sense coz it was saturated under my back, head, the pillow, everything - and in places where pissing would not reach. Both even smelt things to try to check what it was. My bf even went checked again the next day (lol) coz he figured if it was pee it would dry with a pissy smell. No scent, so he had to conceed it really was sweat and, .... and then patted himself on the back for being a super stud lol.

At the time tho, he was asking almost in a panic while were were going for it and asking if I was ok. He was scared and did not know if he was doing something wrong coz he had never seen anyone go off like that (and the dirty man slut that he is, has had around 50 women) ..and in that first incident with him, there was no foreplay at all!

I will admit tho, I was so super horny at the time I pretty much jumped him and told him I had never wanted to fuck him as much as I did right then, and it was absolute truth. The urge was in the stratosphere, so to hell with messing around, clothes started fllying off, and the second he went in, I started having a screaming orgasm, .... and it was unrelenting ecstacy for the entire duration. I completely lost the plot, ..and did not get it back for a good while after lol. I was jut that far gone already just from looking at him.

So, no, I'm not opposed to foreplay, nor tho am I in favour of particular lengths of time to be spent on it. I am glad you have expressed a bit of a flexibility in approach may just work out fine for some, ...coz no offence, but it has come across at times like 'your way' is the 'only right way', ..and I think that can be perhaps a little offensive to the other guys when it could appear that you're suggesting they are not doing it right, or pleasing women, if they dont go about it as you do.

I suppose too, whilst it does not bother me personally, as I have had all variety of orgasms at all sorts of intensity, enjoy em all, and dont need to justify them to anyone else, ... but maybe you might even seem to some women like you are discounting their orgasms, when you did not experience them for them.

Not knocking the all nighters, or you, I think your trying to be helpful, you put effort in to your posts, and maybe you have even encouraged some to make more effort for their partners, .. all good things. Thumbs Up! Yet, as said, I was pleased to see your writing conceeding (even if you have thought it all along and just not expressed it as such -or I have missed you saying it) that different strokes for different folks can work out just as well.

So, phew gang, ..we can all be fine little fuckers in our own minds again lol

j/k :cheers2:

 

My main concern is that most men try harder and dont take your info from pornography because pornography is about making money not making love.

 

I'd say on average about 10 minutes. On special occasions or when we're feeling extra horny you could probably double that. Do people really regularly spend multiple hours on foreplay? Don't you guys have jobs?

 

Thank you for your well thought response.

re: your inhibitions comment. Yeah, maybe it is telling that in parallell to your own comments about women being body conscious, preferring subdued lighting, etc, - and it's possible relativity to the abilty to reach such ecstatic heights ... my own bf has said I am only the 2nd he has encountered who does not give a rats what he see's. He's seen things no doctor even has lol. Yeah, maybe it is that I am not preoccupied with such things/thoughts with him, that I can get there so easy.

That said tho, I have been a bit reserved with other people before, ... just not this person. I'd give him a spotlight and a magnifying glass if he wanted - and get off on him being a perv lol.

Making love to my bf is awesome, ..but meh, me, ..I like to just fuck sometimes too.

I think the prob more so is when you only get it one way. Variety being the spice of life and all., ..but that's just me. Hopefully those who only know the 'wham bam thank you mam' approach will take heed of your words and get a some variety in the repatoire.

 

Depends in where hes going to put it , some none some a whole lot

 

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Depends on the mood, like ivana said.

I personally enjoy foreplay.... making out can be as fun as sex, maybe I'm just a weird guy.

 

normally I put the hemorrhoidal cream on the applicator and get it over with..

 

4 years...

 

I like to take a lot of time when I can, prefer like 30 minutes of lead up. However it doesn't often work that way just due to being too busy tired to really dedicate all that much time to lovemaking, so it often ends up being less than 10 minutes.

 

Actually at the time no, I wasn't working - actually I think I was only working part time ?

I guess thats probably part of the problem, these days we are all so busy that we dont have time to have good sex.