How Do You Break Up With Someone

If you're not sure you want to break up with them?

I have a friend who has a boyfriend she doesn't exactly trust, I don't know why she stays with him...

but she knows no real reason to break up with him, no real reason to stay either, but it's easier to stay where you are than to change something.

So how do you decide if you want to break up with someone?

 

I guess the main factor in deciding to break up with someone is thinking about whether you're actually benefitting positively from the relationship. If it's holding you back in any way, or you're having doubts, it's time to let go.


Seems like your friend should break up, since she has no reason to stay OR go. Being with him will just be like a dead weight. And the fact that she doesn't completely trust him makes it even worse. The change that happens when you break up with someone really does suck for a little while, but in the long run, is much better.

I'm sure people have worked through things like that and made their relationship work in the end, but, IMO, your friend would be better of single. Hope things get worked out well!

~Nova

 

No reason to break up but no reason to stay sounds stale so thats the reason.

 

Ask yourself what are YOU getting out of the relationship.
Take it from there and try being honest with the person.
But more important be honest with yourself.

 

i broke up with my last boyfriend in a sort of spur-of-the-moment thing. i didn't have real reasons for it, i just did it. it was terrible. i've felt bad about it ever since. a huge part of me wishes i never ever would have done it. now i'm almost positive he doesn't trust me as much as he did before all this. it sucks. i want to get back together, but i'm afraid it won't be the same. man, i suck.

 

realy its almost always a big mistake to go back ....you must have had a reason [although they are not mandatory ] to want out . so stop the useless guilt - feeling bad about it and just move forward . give us 3 +billion other guys a chance ....realy youll both live it aint the end of the fucking world for him or you ....and best of luck

 

She knows of a very good reason to break up with him....she doesn't exactly trust him. You should never have to stay with someone that you don't trust. It tends to end badly.....

As for the how to part, well that depends.....she could try "this really isn't working out the way that I had hoped for" or "I think we need some time apart to see if this is what we both want" or "I cannot be with someone that I cannot trust" and so on....one thing there is in the world is an abundance of "break up lines"

 

Well there, I will disagree. I know so many people, who have broken up often, or broken up for long periods of time, and gotten back together and stayed together for much longer than they were together before they broke up and are also more functional in a relationship and happier. I think that may go with being in love when you're young, for most situations I know about anyway. :H

 

just remember that no relationship is perfect so if you think you can do better, well chances are you can, but your still going to have your ups and downs. the real question to ask yourself is "do you love the guy"? if you friend is have doubts then it's probably best that she does break up with him, but i don't really know anything because i haven't been in very many relationships. good luck.

dannayelli

 

Lack of trust is a good reason to break up with someone. The less trust you have, the more problems you will have. It's best to deal with it as early as possible, by working through it, or breaking up now, before you both put more time and effort into your relationship. The longer it goes on, the more damage it can cause.

Also, being honest with yourself will help you decide what to do.

 

does your friend wake up every morning looking forward to see/ hear from her bf? does she smile around him in a way that only he can make her do? does she seem like an overall person when shes around him?

if the answer is YES to ALL of these questions, then they should work out their problems. if not, i dont see any point in trying to save something that doesnt nessessarily make her happy in the first place. the fact that your even asking this on hipforums is a red flag; i think you already know the best thing she should do.

 

Hmm I think she should break up with him if she doesn't trust him. You can't build love when there's no trust or not enough. I suggest for her to ask herself is she happy most of the time, or sad? what is she getting out of the relationship? and how does she feel? then decide from there.

Here's hope that helps and wishing you luck.

 

if you can't trust someone then there is not point in a realationship. Cause one of the main foundations of a realationship is trust.. so be honest with that you feel and tell him that there is nothingin the relationship

 

I say to tell your friend to take a bit of time when she is alone....relax....clear her mind of everything, and then ask herself if she should break up with him.....the first gut feeling will be what she should do....ALWAYS trust your intincts !!!

 

I talked to her today and she ended up breaking up with him. She feels pretty good about it.

I'm glad she did.

 

Sometimes you'll get lucky and the person will do you a 'favor' and fuck up bad enough to close and delete that chapter of your life, other times there is no spark and it's not fair to stay with somone you are luke warm with. You'll treat him like crap because you don't love him and you'll damage him. I would say your friend is being a shitty person for staying in a relationship she is not passionate about and should end it in a kind way