How do people generally react to...

Ok when two people are friends, there's never really a thought of a relationship most of the time, well when that happens and it is seemingly mutual (more comments about looks, more smiles, contact, shit like that), where does one go from there? Personally I wouldn't want to risk ruining anything, and am wondering what could come from certain words. Relaying feelings is a good start for one, but I'm unsure personally how people react to others just straight up telling them (instead of hinting around it forever, that shits easy) that they like the other person.


Any thoughts? I might be less vague next time, I dunno.

 

well...i had been freinds with someone, incredibly close freinds a good while..with ocassional lil lighthearted hints that we found eachother attractive..but nothin serius..i mean wed been as close of freinds as freinds could be
then one day..nearly simultaniusly we both just blurted out "i think i love you"..i mean we'd said i love you many many times as freinds ofcourse..but in that momment i think we realized we'd always been more in love then we realized

but thats just what happened with us..& might not be the typical reaction..at worse it might cause a ll disconfort, but real freinds can get past that easily enough, as long as ya dont let the disapointment consume u if you dont get the reaction u hope for

 

Oh god if that would happen shieeeet, I'd be happier than I've been in awhile.... That's like fairtytale love.

I'm starting to not even believe in this whole love bullshit

 

How does that old Skynrd song go? DON"T tell your woman that you love her,
'cause thats when your trouble begins.

 

I think a lot of the time, it can depend on how close you are as friends first.
A lot of "best friends" or just really good friends worry about ruining a friendship. My husband and I weren't especially close or anything when we were "just friends" (which was only about 4-5 months) but we did hang out almost daily, with other friends around. On the other hand, if one of my best friends had done what he did (just went for a kiss and let whatever happened happen) I probably would have backed away - fast. I'd definitely take things slower and be more careful, because 1) I wouldn't want to ruin a good friendship if we broke up, and 2) when you're friends with someone so long, you get to a point where it's hard to imagine being with them 'like that'... but sometimes, it's the other way around.

 

Hahah, I'd have to agree.

 

There doesnt have to be a big "step" from friendship to relationship, they are essentially the same. Think of it as an expansion of your friendship.

You may remain friends, you may want to kill each other in a month... the only way to know where things head is to go in that direction

"Love is a living thing that grows and changes, not a fixed model to be preserved in some perfect form."

applies perfectly here!

 

I'm pretty sure I sealed the deal when I asked this person specifically if she was into me. She made it seem like "oh no I like you its not that, blah blah bs" and we don't really hang much anymore, even though we're friends.

Who gives a fuck