Horrile girl trouble that i cant stop thinkin about

Ok, i want to start with saying that this whole situation has made me depressed, made me stop smokin everything and cut heavily on drinking. ok so im 17 and in high school. i started hanging out with a somewhat new group of kids back in december. i immediately became attracted to this tomboyish girl that was kind of the center of our group. Were always at her house and such. anyways i kept it secret until our mutual friend figured me out. and ways she ended up findin out too and basically my friends were cool about it, they would set me up in situations that would maybe help me move forward. anyways eventually i told her how i felt and she turned me down. i had to deal, it was tough for about 4 weeks but then i started movin on. anyways we all decided to take her out to dinner for her birthday so we took the train into the city had diner and got back on the train. anyways it was me and 3 others including her. so the two get up and leave and me and her stay there and listen to music together. anyways at this point im startin to get over her but i still want her. anyways we get back to her house and we put a movie on. during the beginin of the flick she just lyes down on me and we kinda coudle. i end up getin a bowner and i kno she felt it but she didnt like say anythin or try to avoide it. anyways after the movie ends ( by the way right now its me her her bro my friend and his gf there) anyways my friend and his gf goo make out somewhere else, presumably upstairs. anyways me and her are sittin there all cuddly and shit with the tv off. then later in the night we were more in a group lyin down and she just put her leg on me. i havent seen her since then which would be two weeks. anyways i was talkin to my friend about this cause now im confused as shit and now i want her really bad again. and he thinks that she likes another one of our friends so now im confused out of my fucking mind. i mean this girl is straightedge and im not but i gave alll of it up for her without asking. now im all freakin out, i dont kno what the fuck is going on and i cant take it anymore. anyone have any advise?

 

play cool,
like you are not intereseted any more

 

Don't act desperate as she will pull away. But remember she might be doing this to make someone else jealous! Nevermind. You should be more worried about where your life is going and your future. Relationships at your age are very difficult as your bodies are changing so fast and I am sure she is just as confused as you are.


Don't focus on these things so much, you have lots of time to find the right one. Just enjoy your teen years and if it happens it happens but if you focus on this she will feel that and be pushed away. I know it seems like the world right now but 10 years from now you will look back and think why did I waste so much time worrying about that stuff instead of just enjoying my school years. Build your self esteem, and your character by believing in your self and not what a teen girl thinks of you. If you do that they will see it and want a part of it.

 

She's right. As soon as that tomboy thinks you don't want her then you'll get yours. GL!

 

She sounds like shes not very interested in a relationship. If she already turned you down, why would she come back? I'd just stay strong and not get too attached.

It is great that you stopped smoking and drinking for her. It shows that you can put off material possesions for a real relationship.

Stay with her though, and move in when you think the time is right... but control yourself, you don't want to move too fast. Let us know how things turn out!