Homemakers

How do you feel about one person staying home and taking care of hte house? Does the gender of hte person matter? Is it a fair divide, someone being lazy, or the other person being controlling? What do home-makers mean to you

 

I use to be really bothered by homemakers because I was raised from a single mom. But now I kind of like the idea.

 

none of the above..

fine i agree one should stay at home,, but who says a household should be limited to only 2 adults working?

 

me too.... I always thought the two people should work and do house stuff in relatively equal portions

then my guy started doing housy things the other day and I realized I just love it, and that I wouldn't mind having a househusband (as long as I enjoyed my job and it was enough to support both of us). Plus he's a writer, so he could work from home and do housy stuff as breaks from work

ahaha... I want a househusband now :X I suck at cleaning/household chores, I only really like cooking and some sewing projects, I hate hate hate having to clean my house. I mean, I do it because it needs to be done, but I certainly don't enjoy it

 

Well, we currently both work and split duties around the house. Seems to be working thus far. I am not against being a stay at home mom though once we have kids, and he actually prefers that.

 

i don't have strong feelings for any of them...depends on the relationship and what works for them.

i didn't have a stay at home mom. my parents worked. i was a club kid, so i wasn't home anyways. most of the chores got done at night, after dinner. that worked for us.

need to find something that works good for you.

 

If I had kids I would make sure I could reduce my hours or be in a position high enough where I could bring them to work with me from infancy on like I am now. I would also want all my professional/educational goals to be fulfilled or still have a chance to fulfill them so there would be no chance of resentment. And sorry I'm totally sexist in everyway I would be the stay at homer if one was needed...I just couldn't be the breadwinner in a marraige it would never work for me...and it's purely biological in nature and normal for me to feel that way.

 

Lynsey, I completely agree with you on that.

 

same here I used to be such an ultra feminist and took a complete 180 after my first adult relationship. I want equality in the workforce and school but in relationships and in other parts of society let's just face it we're not equal and my life has been so much easier since I learned to accept that.

 

I think it's because I didn't have a stay at home mom that I completley want to overcompensate and have a perfect family and keep a perfect house when I am one myself.

 

perfect as in Leave it to Beaver? Nothing is perfect. I don't think it matters who does what as long is everyone is happy.

 

i want my wife barefoot and pregnant. i had a girlfriend whose boss was always on her case and she would spend the first hour with me together complaining about work instead of cooking/sucking/being cool/being quiet while i drank my beer/etc. i called him an asshole at her christmas party and i found out soon her career meant more than me. wrong girl for me i guess.

 

whoa I hope you're kidding Juan...sometimes you're too dry and I never know. I spend the first hour unless it's a first date bitching about work...tis life and I need to vent,

 

i am a huge fan of having a stay at home parent or homemaker if you will. to me the gender is not an important issue at all. the one thing i think that kind of situation depends on is common caring and understanding. the individual that stays at home needs to understand the troubles and stresses of the individual that works. the same applies in reverse as well. no party really has it easier than the other as they are both vitally important roles in the relationship. i think much of the reason for both people working aside from a financial stand point is because of the fact that the working party plays down what the stay at home individual goes through and does on a daily basis.

 

When children, especially young ones, are involved, I firmly believe that one of the parents, whether it be the mother or the father, should be at home with them. At least, when it's financially possible.

I've been a housewife and stay-at-home mama for over 6 years, and my husband and I wouldn't have it any other way. And get this, I still consider myself a proud feminist! I enjoy providing a happy and healthy home for my family.

Do I feel that my husband is controlling or that I do everything? Absolutely not. He works hard to provide for us, and I in turn care for the children as well as him and the house, but he also helps me out when he's not working. I truly feel that we have a very good partnership and respect for one another and our roles within the family.

 

that is truly one of the more inspiring things i have read in some time. i was beginning to believe that situations like that were becoming extinct. perhaps they are but atleast i know that they are still possible.

 

aweeeeeeeee see you can have perfection

 

perfection is a bit strong. i would say an ideal situation. that is just my cynicysm coming into play though.

 

I realize lounging round the House watching the tube
while eating bonbons
is demanding but I feel up to the Challenge
of 'House Whatever'.

 

If both people are contributing, I don't really see a problem.

If someones not contributing, then it's probably best to avoid 'em.