i have a few questions concerning to know if im actually good or if my girl is trying to make me feel good lol we just started hooking up 2 weeks ago and have been taking it relatively slow...still havent had sex yet but anyawy-- I ate her out for the first time last night and this morning, she said she orgasmed both times which I am sure she didnt lie about...if you bring a girl to an orgasm, does that mean your automatically good? i mean, i know its hard to bring a girl to the big O and as far as i know this means im doing it right.. the reason i wonder is because i did some research on techniques and shit of how to eat a girl out and things to do and not to do...it says not to suck or lick on the clit too hard or too long but after i warmed her up and she was really wet, thats pretty much all I did(lick and suck on the clit)...I feel like she only orgasmed because i was licking it so intensely that her body just forced the orgasm out but that the whole process wasnt actuallly good...am i getting too anal about this, or am i right? basically my question, in summary, is if I can get a girl to orgasm, does taht automatically means it was good? is there such thing as a "bad orgasm".. and 2ndly...she says that she likes it slow and sensitive when I finger her(this was a week ago, so this is a new story)...she told me that what i was doing was great but she usually likes it like that...i went really hard a few nights ago with fingering her and she was going crazy screaming and moaning, and then today when i did it sensitively she wasnt screaming as loud as she was when i was going intensely... basically my 2nd question is if she screams and moans really loud one way, and then moans quieter and softer another way, does that mean when shes screaming really loud that that technique is better?
bad orgasm=no orgasm i've had better orgasms than others but an orgasm is an orgasm really. damn dude u are kinda anal about the whole thing, and examining it quite a bit, isn't the point of sex to have fun? just do the technique that u think she likes best.
I think it's very important for a guy to spend some time researching what makes a woman feel good. I hear too many girls talk about guys who have no clue how to please them orally and digitally. A guy should at least take the time to learn the basics of the clitoris and g spot. As far as different techniques, it all depends on the girl. Some really like it slow and intimate, some like it hard and forceful. Some like clitoral orgasms, but most prefer a G spot orgasm. G spot orgasms are the most intense, but you have to know where to find it first. The G spot can be an elusive little bugger if your clueless. Some girls think they like it a certain way, only to find out they like it a different way too. That's where good communication and experimentation really helps. You should always listen to your partner but your partner should always be open to trying new things. Finally, yes, sex should be fun. But the ultimate goal of oral, digital or any other kind of sex is to provide pleasure to your partner. If she's not cumming, then chances are she's not having fun.
vary your techniques sometimes slow m sometimes the teqnique that makes her go wild repetition gets boring although my guy knows sometimes to drive me insane other times he does it soft and slow
