I think a womens response would be best sutied for what I am I about to ask. If not move it to the apporpriate place. There is this guy at my school and he has schizophrenia (I'm going to call him moe just so you dont get confused). I first met him in grade 10 we didn't talk really and then one day he calls me out of the blue and I never gave him my phone number. At this time I was new to the school and I didn't know my now close friend at the time to well. If I am correct I think Moe hacked my friends account and claimed to have a new cell phone and that he needed my number, so thinking it was just my friend I gave him my number. Well my friend turns out never had a cell phone. Anyways no big deal about that but then this guy starts calling me everyday twice a day, and I hardly know him. So I think well theres no sense in being mean to him (at the time I didnt know he had schizphrenia) and decided to talk to him. And he would get mad at me for the strangest things. He asked me who I went christmas shopping for and I mentioned another close male friend. He sounded angry and said WHAT? I shrugged it off... although I found it odd. Anyways later that week he calls my house at 1:30am and I had to answer. He asks me what I was doing and with that I replied talking to my friend on MSN. He then inquried as to what I was talking about I told him just stuff. And he got mad again and said WHAT, STUFF I CAN't KNOW? So after that I just avoided his phone calls. Well since then he still calls randomly , I try to make sure know one answers it but sometimes they slip up and answer. He's been calling me for almost 3 years. Anyways this is where I get really freaked out. He comes up to me in the library and starts talking to me and it was kinda of odd because he kept saying sorry, so I said dont be sorry if thats who you are dont apologize for that, cause he was being shy. Anyways he went to go do his work, at the computers and that was the end of that or so I thought. 30mins later he comes back and starts confessing to me what he is seeing and hearing so I listened and told him what I think is best for him to do. When the bell rang it was time to go home and he followed me to my locker and then to my bus where he hugged me. Now what he told me I cannot comprehend how that could be like to live with. What scared me about his opening up to me is he kept thinking that I was thinking he was a fag or that he had bad breath. I explained to him that I didn't think any of those things and that I was sorry if I gave him that impression. It scared me because of how angry he was becoming with me. Anyways when I got home a friend of mine said that before he came up to talk to me a second time that he stared at me for a good 15mins. Then it gets a little stranger for me. He calls me tonight form his dads house and he told me he was calling to say hello and to tell me that he loves me. I honestly didn't know what to say but non the less I was scared. He was so happy telling me this and I didn't want to hurt him by saying anything mean. Another thing is, is that there are other girls in my school who have told me that he's said the same thing to them. And that if your nice to him he will fall in "love" with you. He is becoming obsessive with me... and its a little worrying. I don't know what to do, I do not want to make this guy think that I "love" him. And I dont want to hurt him either. What would be the best way to let him down? Because I dotn even know if there is away because he gets so angry.I mean every time he comes up to me in school hes trying to figure out where I live and wants to know if I can go to his house, or he to mine. Any advice ladies?
You could just try and talk to him. Let him know that you dont "love" him but you do think of him as a good friend. It's not his fault that he has schizophrenia. Maybe hes looking for a friend, someone to talk to, open up to. He could be lonely and need someone. Just talk to him and set some rules with the phone issue, like telling him its ok to call but not more than once a day and maybe give him times that he can call, and then when he calls talk to him and be his friend and tell him what your doing and how lifes going. I dont really know what to do because i have never been in this situation but if i was i would either do what i just told you to do or if you really dont want to deal with it then ignore him as much as possible. At school try staying away from him, if you see him staring at you or starting to come up to you walk away or start talking to someone else and then if he comes up to you and starts talking then just say you have to go because you have to meet someone and dont give him time to talk so you can just walk away, but when you walk away or talk to someone else try not to be mean or make it look like your trying to be mean.
Might want to stick a "not" in there between the do and the want. I hate to be one of those unhelpful people but I think you need to go to someone in your "real life" who can help. Is there a guidence councellor you're comfortable with? If he's scizophrenic you need someone with the knowledge and experience to deal with him to step in for you. Although he is not intending anything sinister and may not be able to help himself, you are still being harrassed and you need to put an end to it. I'm sorry this is happening to you, good luck and I hope it works out well.
Thank pricecheck And I think maybe your right about going to the guidance consollor, I've been told that before. Actually I think I will do that... Casie I would say that to him but he would blow up... hes not stable enough to handle me saying that. I dont want to leave the guy stranded without help and I'm glad to help him...but I don't think its health for him to latch onto me in the way he does. I just I really dont want to hurt his feelings and its tough because I know either way I am.
honestly? tell him that you feel uncomfortable around him tell your parents about the extra contact if it continues, inform your school assuming of course that you no longer want to be in touch with him, which is how id react personally
You need to speak with an adult. Someone who is mature and knows how to deal with the situation. Find someone to discuss this with who is able to protect you and can really help you out, and not just dish out advice. Go speak to your school counsellor. I'm sure that they know who this boy is, they can probably help you both out.
He is sick. It's not his fault, but you need to be protected from his sickness. He is sick. He is also dangerous. You need for him to stay away from you, not call you, not.... You are a 17 year old high school student. It is not your job and you are not competent to fix him. Talk to a counselor, your parents, someone with the authority to keep your concern for this unfortunate fellow from turning into a nasty newspaper story.
