This is really troubling me... There's this guy that I'm really into, but he has a girlfriend. We've had sex and screwed around a few times since the beginning of the year, and we've always talked. He's really into me sexually and he's always on me about it. However... he begged for me a few weeks ago and I stupidly obliged. He cheated on his girlfriend... with me. I feel really bad because she's a really nice person and I feel stupid, but I know I wanted him. We're so good in bed together and I have to make myself stop wanting him, mostly because my care for him has gone way beyond sexual. Now he won't mention sex to me or anything after our last experience, and I'm really confused. He barely talks to me now. Does anyone have any advice, etc.? I'm clueless here.
If a guy slept with you and then, no hear .....he used u for sex. As u know many women look for more than just sex, and men look for just sex, especially at that age. ( not all of them).
From a guys point of view, He is using you as a sex toy, does not bother to clean it before he is tossing you away. He will never change that, man thats like being told you can test drive the car as long as you want, or barrow as much money as you want and pay it back when ya can. Girl you know its happening you just prefer not to see it, come on anyone is better than that. Dont allow yourself to be undersold, your love is worth a return and commitment, not just a roll and later.
Yeah... I pretty much skipped all that sexual stuff then, I just want steady relationships, I'm no player. I think its alright if you are up front with your partner that it is just sex, you'll be fine. I had sex with this one girl a few times that had a boyfriend on the opposite site of the country, but we both told each other that it was just sex, and it didn't complicate anything. Oh, and btw, not all men want just sex (just to make it crystal clear).
Yeah, he kinda didn't make it clear at first that he just wanted sex, especially when it started, which was when he should've told me.
No, do not tell his girlfriend what happened. Let someone else do the damage. He has slipped once, and he will slip again. You feel guilty for being the "other woman", don't dig a larger dung heap of karma for yourself. Pull yourself together, gather some dignity and walk out. You realize what you've done wrong, so learn and move on. To be brutally honest, this man is the pits. So are you but you were fooled once. Don't subject yourself to it again.
Yes bad idea to tell other girl, had you not slept with him but rather refused him then it would be ok, but your best bet is just let the rat rot, he will screw up again once he looses you. Right now it should be about you, get to feeling better and move on. Sorry dudes do this but yup it happens. Seems one thing we all agree on is your better than that and deserve more, so follow the masses and let somebody else see you for what you really are not for what you could do.
this guy's a cheater. If he cheated on her, he'd cheat on you if he left her for you. He will cheat on every woman he dates until somethign major happens to make him want to change his ways. It's a sign he has low self esteem, and he needs the "conquest" to make him feel like a man. Get over it. Go find someone else.
I disagree with some of the above posters...I think you should tell her. This is why. If someone cheated on me, I'd hope the other person would tell me...because chances are, dude isn't going to tell her. And he might just keep doing it behind her back (in fact, chances are, he will). This runs risks of disease on her part. And as far as kharma goes...if she doesn't fess up...if she finds a man, he might cheat on her...and if no one tells her, think of the risks she runs. You were wrong for sleeping with someone with a girlfriend...it's time to be responsible and tell her what you did. It might clear yours...and it will save this girl from getting a disease or getting hurt any longer from this chump.
perhaps sleeping with you made him realisre that he really did like his girlfriend after all, and maybe hes trying to make it roight in his head by ignoring you. I feel for ya babe. Have strength
