Sorry if I get a bit graphic here but I really need some advice or comfort. I'm 11 weeks pregnant and the night before last, I wiped after going to the bathroom and noticed some sticky, dark brown discharge. I have no spotting (nothing in underwear) or cramping but I got freaked out! I called the midwife yesterday and told her. I also explained that my husband and I had sex the morning before. She told me that it probably wasn't a big deal, that it might have been blood from my cervix getting bumped during intercourse and that I don't need to come in unless it continues or becomes bright red or if I experience cramping. My second prenatal appointment isn't until Oct. 17th and I don't know if I can wait that long to find out if everything is okay. Have any of you had a similar experience during your pregnancy or any of you midwives have any advice?
I myself never had it during my pregnancies, but I have heard of a lot of women who have, and had absolutely no problems with their pregnancies whatsoever. Hang in there sweetheart, and I'll be thinking of you! Big hugs...
Oh, one more thing. I'm not sure what your midwife's routine is as far as appointments go, but maybe, for your peace of mind, you could ask if she'd see you before the 17th? There is no sense in having to worry endlessly, and it would put your mind at ease to know all is well.
that happened to me too a couple times when I was pregnant. your midwife is right- blood. You don't have to worry as long as its not bright red ( i freaked too when it first happened)
i had it with both mine too. no big deal as long as it isnt a lot and it dosent turn to bright red or cramping....
Thank you for all your reassuring words. It's nice to hear that it's more normal than I thought and that it doesn't automatically mean miscarriage. I called the midwife center back and they bumped my appointment up to Oct. 3rd (2 weeks earlier). I think I'm even more anxious because I've only had one appointment so far and it was too early to hear the baby's heart beat. I just want to make sure my little one is okay and that everything is progressing nicely. I know you all understand . Good news though...I only had that brown icky stuff for about a day and so far today, only clean swipes (again sorry for being gross).
More BTDT I had it with #1 at about 7 weeks. And #3 about 8 weeks. I'm 13 weeks along with #3 now and all is fine ((((hugs))))
don't worry about being graphic....If you weren't so graphic, you'd never get answers to your questions....not to mention, this forum is full of mommas...I'm sure most of them have seen just about everything discharge and bodily function-wise....if anyone can appreciate your concerns without being grossed out, it'd be a momma...
That's true. I thought about that while I was apologizing for being graphic. I'm always just trying to be so darn polite but I didn't really think I would be offending anyone. I know Mom's can handle just about anything!
I have come to discover over this past 10 months that more things are normal than any of us expect, or at least than I expect. We miscarried during our first pregnancy, so on the second one we took no chances. I think the doctors got sick of us. Even now, he is almost a month old, and I am making people mad, telling them they have to wash their hands before they hold him, telling others they can't hold him because they coughed, etc...
Well, unfortunately my spotting did turn out to be a big deal. I went to the midwife and she checked for the baby's heartbeat with the doppler. She couldn't find it so she sent me to have an ultrasound. They found the baby but there was no heartbeat and and no blood supply going to the baby. They said it stopped developing at about 8 weeks. I was supposed to be at 11 weeks pregnant. Since then I have started bleeding heavily and am in the worse pain both physically and emotionally. I know I am not the first person to have a miscarriage but it still hurts so bad. Any of you that have had a miscarriage before have any advice on how to move on?
I am sorry to hear of your misfortune. It sucks. Like I said in my previous post, we lost our first one, and it was rough. I was so excited as soon as I found out that my wife was pregnant, and it really tore me up inside. I was pissed off at everything, I felt "what did I do wrong". I though it was my fault for not taking care of my wife properly, my truck had an exhaust leak, ect...... Really though, it seems to be fairly common to lose the first one. I looked at everyone else who just had kids with no problems and didn't understand. Sometimes the woman's body just rejects the pregnancy. The advice I have is don't give up living. Was your man supportive of the pregnancy, if so he is probably a bit sad to. I tried to hold my emotions, I had to be strong for my wife and I both, but I was hurting. The two of you should get out do things together, ect. If you still have some of the prenatal vitamins, keep taking them. If you really wanted this child, try again. Like I said, I was so paranoid during the second pregnancy. Also, if they do the DNC to get anything back out of you, make sure you take good care of yourself. A few days after the procedure, my wife had to go back to the ER because she lost a lot of blood from her vagina. Just remember that it isn't the end, and there are still other chances. It just wasn't the right time yet. Good luck to you, and I hope you feel better soon. Sorry again to hear the bad news.
Thanks HippyLandscaper. My husband is really tore up too so I know how you felt during your wife's miscarriage. He was falling in love with the idea of being a daddy but....we are both there for each other. The first night, we stayed up crying and talking. Although we are both sad we are both filled with hope and determination not to let this ruin us. We are going to wait until we are emotionally ready to try again. I think I will probably be really paranoid during my next pregnancy also. How can you not be after having to go through something like this? It gives me more hope to know that you and your wife tried again and now have a healthy baby. Oh and thanks for advising me to keep taking my prenatal vitamins. I haven't been the past few days because I didn't want to have anything to do with being pregnant. Now I realize that it's probably a good thing to keep taking them, especially since I was taking them before I got pregnant. Thank you all for your love and support.
oh...I am so sad to hear your sad news and just wanted to send you loving and hugging...I too had spotting in my pregnancy and didn't reply to your thread cause mine sounded a lot worse than what was happening to you. My doctors put me to bed from about the 11th week and so I stayed for two months till I was deemed ok to move minimally...ie round the house but not round the block. I wanted to say hi and tell you my story but I figured it might be a bit scary since so many of the other spotting stories were so positive in thier outcome. I do hope that you have lots of care and loving and also some good advice as to whether it is really neccesary to curate(DNC) as I have been told this is not so all the time. Please take care of yourself, swallow those vitamins and get back there again and if it ever comes to the same point again know it is ok to sit in bed and chill cause sometimes that will get you through. loads of loving and hugging to you and your hubby. stephanie
Honey, I want to offer you a huge hug. I know the pain, I've been there twice. I won't lie, I had an extremely difficult time coping emotionally afterwards. I couldn't even be near pregnant women or babies. It just hurt too much. I envied the women who had pregnancy after pregnancy with not a single problem, that never had to endure the pain of miscarriage. It didn't seem fair. I lost my very first pregnancy, and I was terrified whether or not I would be able to have a child one day. But not long after, I was pregnant again, and this time everything went perfect. I must admit that I was obsessed with miscarrige in the first trimester. I must have been to the bathroom I don't know how many times checking for "signs". I was honestly a wreck. But all was well, and I had a beautiful, healthy baby boy in the end. Then my pregnancy following him resulted in a miscarriage. I was devastated. I had woke up to cramping, and when I went to the bathroom, I saw dark red blood. I was hysterical. I called my doctor, who told me to come right in, and after an ultrasound, found that my baby did not have a heartbeat, and I was in the process of miscarrying. I had not actually miscarried yet, and the horrible thing was, my doctor sent me home saying to take Tylenol for pain, use a heating pad, and come back in two days to be sure the pregnancy was fully gone or he would perform a D&C. I went home, a sobbing mess, not knowing when the actual miscarriage was going to happen. I was cramping and bleeding more, but the next day was really bad. I knew it was happening then. I felt such pain in my heart knowing it was happening and that there was nothing I could do. When the doctor said that we could try again in 3 months, I didn't even think that I wanted to because I was hurting so much emotionally. But, wouldn't you know it, after the 3 months were up, we were pregnant again, this time with TWINS! (BTW, I had switched doctors after the insensitive treatment I felt I had received) I know that the pain you are feeling right now seems unbearable. Believe me, I know. But over time, you will begin to heal. So many women have miscarriages yet go on to have many happy, healthy pregnancies. I myself am one of those women. If you ever need to talk, let me know. Many hugs, much love, and healing...
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Give yourself time to grieve, but don't let it consume you. You will know when it is time to move on....
oh hon! *hugs* You have so much support and love, that with enough time to pass, you'll be ready for that little person to come. I can't imagine how I would feel if I lost this baby. I had a miscarriage before, but I was relieved because I wasn't ready to be a mom. But now, I'd probably be in the same boat as you. Anyway, *hugs again* Rest up, cry and hug when you need to, and TALK!
I know it's been a long time but I just wanted to say thanks again for all your love and support. I haven't really been on the forums since then until now. I haven't really felt like talking much but I'm doing better now. Feeling hopeful about the future and about someday having a family. Guess now's just not the right time.
