Help with this problem!!!

Well i know this girl and I really like her. I've only met her once but have texted her for about 2 weeks. I am about to ask her out on a date. Where should I ask her out to on the first date? take in mind we're teenagers. And also, I am failry inexperienced.

 

some sort of activity....mini golf, movie, walk on the beach/picnic....

depends what you're comfortable with and how much you like her...do you want the date to be romantic? fun? casual?

is cost a factor?

 

Go for a walk in the moonlight on the beach. If your inexperienced the darkness will help you out so so much (you have no idea how much) so you don't get nervous and it sets the mood without you having to.

Oh and buy dinner, something like subway cause it gives you energy. And if you eat at mcdonalds or have pizza you'll both feel the difference...

 

Movie and coffee afterward usually works for a first date because it's a fairly casual setting. You could chat over coffee and get to know her better, and even in the situation where you can't really think of anything else to talk about, you could at least talk about the movie you just saw. Who knows where the conversation goes from there? ;-)

 

no beach near me haha. Cost is not a factor.

 

From texting, you probably have found common interests with her, and do something on your first date that both of you will enjoy doing. PM me if you want private advice.

 

So theres this girl I met through a mutual friend. I got her number. I have been txting her like everyday for the past 2 weeks. Sometimes I tell her to "text me later" and she does. She doesn't ask many questions and seems sometimes boring in the conversations we have while texting. I think she knows I have a thing for her.


I'm not sure how to tell if she is interested in me or not? How can I tell if she is via text?

 

You can't really be sure without asking her. But if she willingly plays text tag and seems like she doesn't get annoyed by you, you're off to a good start!

 

wow...you gotta ask her to hang out man...text too much and dont hang out with her and you become a nonexistant person - reachable only through a phone

 

What's more important than knowing if she is interested, is knowing your own likeability factor. Ask someone who you can trust to be unbiased what they think is likeable about you, and also to point out some of your worst features. Sometimes we forget or overlook things that are an obstacle to others, which things could be improved, worked on. Like bad breath, or poor hygiene, or other such things. Taking out as many of the negatives as possible, including bad habits, traits, things we aren't aware of that others may find repulsive in some way. If we remove these negatives, it makes for more smooth sailing.

And by the way, brush your teeth,,oh,,and eat your vegetables,,haha,,

basically, what I'm saying is to do the things that YOU can, instead of focusing on the things that you desire from others. I'm not saying don't be "who you are", but if there are things that need improvement,,it's a good thing to know at least.

Don't pick your nose at the table, by the way,,

 

Also, Im fairly inexperienced. I'm smart, super athletic, good looking, everything but my social skills with girls arent amazing.

Where are good places to hang out?

 

So then, you have to ask yourself, why do you want to be with her? Just to get a little action? It's always best if you have something more to offer, like, say, intelligent conversation, money, dinner, or just friendly companionship. All depends on what she wants in a guy. It's always about making additions to the assets department, and subtractions from the liabilities.

Girls are often somewhat of a mystery to guys, and when they are, the guy tends to depend too much on the girl to call all the shots. Girls don't like that. They want a guy with some ideas of his own,,where to go,,what to do,,how bout this, how bout that,,

But honesty is sometimes a plus. It gives the girl the sense that she is being allowed in, if that's what she wants. Just don't give away the farm on the first date. Always hold something back for next time, some private area of your life. In some ways, girls love a challenge, a mystery. With some guys, it's best if they just don't say much, and leave them guessing. That way, they don't find out what a dumbass you really are,,haha. Too bad, but there's a lot of role-playing, acting involved in courtship. Like the peacock strutting his stuff, and the cuckoo bird,,,uh,,never mind that analogy,,

The laundromat, the grocery store, you can hit on some of them older ladies there,,haha,,

You mean, with her? Take her on a hike somewhere, a bike ride, a meal,,

If she likes you, she'll just enjoy being included in your life. Taking her home is an option, but only if your parents are cool. If it's stress city, better not.



By the way,,if you're anything of a geek, show her your computer, or something, just to give her the impression that she's being invited into your life,,but don't let it go too far in the geek department before you make a move on her. You don't want to leave her with the impression that you're more about this or that than about her. Girls definitely like to be the focus of your attention.

 

Thanks for the help. Im weird, right, im a bit of everything lol. I love sports but 2nd to sports are video games. I also have a problem with humor. Im hilarious around people im comfortable with, but others, im not.

 

You sound like you're just shy and a bit uncomfortable around chicks. They have a whole set of parameters that we guys aren't at first familiar with, like they're from a different planet, maybe a bit more advanced than our own, and we aren't sure how to speak their language, and if we don't get it right they might tell the rest of the aliens and they'll all come and zap us,,haha.

but the problem is that chicks are hot, and comfortable to have around, if you know what i mean, like a companion, but better than a guy companion, because they have these things on their chests and they're pretty and stuff,,haha.

But there's this feeling around chicks like you feel you have to entertain them somehow, and if you don't have an instinct for entertainment, you might get it wrong, or be dull, or something.

But just remember, chicks also have a mothering instinct, and if you're not all prepared with the jokes and the lines and the ideas, sometimes if they like you enough they help out by filling in the blanks. They just don't like to have to do that all the time, unless they're the really dominating types that you don't want anyway.

It's usually good to take them somewhere where you can have something to talk about, like an art museum, or a movie, or some place that's just awesome, or has rides. Something to get the conversation going, and not where all the other kids your age hang out either, or else it just becomes a comparison trip, and one-upmanship, and that sucks, because it will bring out feelings of insecurity. Go places where old people are, or just not all your school friends, where the two of you can be "alone" somewhat. Movies don't always do that, because there are other people there that you may run into that you know, so if you take her to a movie, make sure it's somewhere she's never been, somewhere special,,

Just some ideas, the main idea being to get her alone somewhere, where you two can talk one-on-one, and yet have enough going on around you that the conversation doesn't begin to get too dull or personal, unless that's the direction you wish to go.

Bon Voyage

p.s.,,one thing chicks like is if you talk about them, about how pretty their eyes are, etc. Get real interested in the shape or color of their eyes and they go googoo, or how their hair smells good, or feels. That's about the time you lean in for a kiss, or not. It's good enough that they know you're interested in THEM, and not just telling them your life story, though that has its place too. They want to feel as if they're filling a gap in your life, making it better in some way. When they have to listen to you tell about yourself, it's good, as long as it doesn't go too far, and just draws them into something private about you. As I said before, don't give away the farm on the first date, going on and on about you. It should end up a mutual thing, with each of you SHARING, not just a monologue.

Another thing,,while all of this is going on, all this small talk, you can be doing things with her hand, you know, noticing her fingers, holding something, just being playful or something. If you get to see her feet, don't say anything if they look strange or unattractive to you. If possible, just concentrate on what you like about her.

It's all about mutual discovery, like Lewis and Clark, discovering the beauty of America. Make it that important if you care.

Because of the element of discovery,,think about going places with her that NEITHER of you have been before, and discover things together.

 

Just ask her out already bro, geez.

 

Dinner and coffee, long walks on the beach, mini golf for crying out loud???? Yawn


Just take her to a party, you both get semi drunk lose your inhibitions and have a drunken fumble in your best friends parents bedroom. Thats the way everyone should do it, especially as teenagers.

Leave that boring hand holding shit till you are too old to give a fuck about everything else

 

Thus saith the f'king gorilla

edit: "Ugh,,let go out,,come,,ugh,,,me fuck,,wunh wunh wunh,,ughum, good,,"

 

Well, thought I'd offer at least one different opinion

Dont expect him to listen to me.


But Mini golf? Major LOLzzzz

 

go midnight bowling----or dinner and a movie---chat with her see if u got some chemistry---dont know if you get high---but get high withher if thats possible---concerts are cool if money isnt a factor--amusements parks are cool----water parks cooler---see her in a bikini----gotta talk gotta see if you have anything in comon---went out with alot of chicks as a teen---the most comment i got was ---hes all hands--lol but that never prevented a second date---just comments like were not having sex----which was a cool signal not to spend any more money on those girls---slow down a little ws way cooler as a teen boy u have sex on the brain---good luck

 

Hey man, it's not every chick that likes high altitude sky-diving, deep sea diving, or extreme spelunking. Sometimes they just need some dumb excuse for getting together and doing something while high, or not.

Doing dumb shit is like watching stupid shit on tv. Sometimes, just for a relief, and some variety, you want to watch something completely meaningless and stupid, just for the relief of not having to pay too much attention to the seriousness factor. Not everything has to be high intensity, or issue in a world-changing invention. Sometimes people just need an excuse to relax and shut off the "production" oriented mind.

Personally, I haven't been miniature golfing in years, but I loved it when I was a kid.