I am madly in love with this girl and I have recently told her that I love her. We have great chemistry together and she makes me so happy... The problem is that she's straight and I know that for a fact. The confusing thing is that the other day she told me she loved me more than a friend BUT she said she wasn't into me like that because she's not "into girls like that". She says she just wishes I was a boy. I don't understand, she loves me more than a friend but isn't physically attracted to me? Is that even possible? I am so confused, any advice? Thanks!!
Hi Lilac, I understand perfectly what your friend is trying to say to you. She is not feeling chemistry with you but she enjoys you deeply as a friend. If there is chemistry on her point it is not sexual chemistry. I have always found women''s bodies and personalities attractive but only tried sex with a woman once in my life. I realized I felt no chemistry and have never made love with a woman since. I was raised in a commune that had many homosexual and bisexual members and I did not have to worry about my families reaction. There are two women in my life that I feel a strong bond with and if there was chemistry I would desire them as lovers. I have hurt a few women in my life who desired me, for much the same reason that your friend is trying to get across to you. She loves you and so be happy you have a good friend who can become a long time friend in your future.
So what do you think she meant when she said she loved me as more than a friend? Blahhhhh I actually had some hope :/
It's not too uncommon for ladies to tell their friends they love them. I tell my friends all the time, even my guy friends. More than a friend though, she could be trying to find a soul mate or partner, they don't necessarily need to be sexual relationships. Sounds as if you're two good friends, don't ruin it.
Yeah she was talking to me about some other guy last night... I don't get why she would do that because Ive told her that I have feelings for her... Like I'm her friend and want her to confide in me but this just hurts too much :'( but I guess it was a good thing to help me realize I have no chance. I stopped replying to her because I was and am still hurt.. I don't know what to do
I think the best thing you could do is explain to her everything you just shared with us. Sometimes having both parties aware of the circumstances yields better results than just one side. If she knows how difficult it is for you, maybe she will have some ideas for helping you get over her. Maybe she'll even help you find someone else...after all, the best way to deal with a void is to fill it with something else. Good luck! I hope you find someone soon who will sweep you off your feet and give you the response that you hunger for. May the force be with you.
Ok I'm back again... So we started talking again and I told her that it hurt me because my feelings aren't reciprocated. She said that she still loved me but not enough to become a lesbian. Then the other night she told me that she was upset after seeing a picture of me and another guy on Facebook... She is leaving me so confused! She also joked around and asked me what I got for her for Valentines Day except none of us texted each other on actual valentines day. Is she playing games with me/messing with me?
She's just confused and scare to go all the way. You can either wait or just move on. If I was in your situation I would just move on, and date other girls. It seems that she's get jealous when you are with someone else, so just continue dating, or w.e I guess if you give your attention to someone else she will realize how much she likes you
I guess so... I'm also thinking that she's just using me. I don't think her and that other guy worked out so now she needs someone to talk to... Ugh whatever we've both initiated conversation through texting twice and I don't know if I should initiate again...
Haha she definitely is. Texted me tonight because she's stressed out over work.. She only ever texts me when she's feeling down/wants me to help her and make her feel better. Idk whether I should see this as a good thing or not but the whole idea of her using me is helping me get over her faster
If she is not lesbian or bisexual as she stated to you, then why waste your time pursuing that side of things. There is of course no reason you can't be friends, just forget the romantic/ sex side of things.
Yeah I know she just gives me mixed signals and I guess it gives me some hope. But I'm in the works of getting over her! Thanks everyone for advice
Treat her like shit. Voicemail her calls. Ignore some texts. She's using u for flattery it's not like she's used u to pay her bills, its not a big deal. Treat her like crap. Don't cave and she will be all over you in four days.
