Help...Never had a boyfriend

Ok, I'm 17, almost 18. I am NOT ugly, i have a good personality, and am not a prude, but for some reason i have never had a boyfriend. I want one badly. I've been asked out before, but by creepy guys who are a year younger than me. I know guys like me and find me attractive by the way they act and talk to me, some have blatantly said i was hot. So what's the deal, are they all just whimps. And its not that I'm shallow, I don't care about looks all that much. I have been really attracted to guys who aren't all that physically attractive, but the guys i do like and could see myself with all have girlfriends.

So for the guys, if you like a girl and want to date her or what not, what is it that stops you from making a move. HELP PLEASE, I'm sick of all these ugly sucky personality girls getting great boyfriends.

 

Wanna go out with me? JK! JK!

Ok so it's kinda hard to tell what your problem exactly is from your description, but it kinda sounds like your waiting for Mr. Perfect.
I am sorry to say this, but u will never find a guy that is absolutely, 100% perfect. I you keep waiting for a guy like that to ask u out, u'll be single for the rest of ur life.

Another thing, usually when you try too hard to find a guy, it's harder to find it. Just try to chill and when a guys asks you out, don't look @ the guys cons, just focus on the pros.

You mentioned that you're not ugly, but when it comes to real relationships, the physique is the thing that you should least worry about, don't be concerned about that. It's all about your personality and your actions.

In my opinion, the best way to approach people that you want to go out with is not approaching them like that at all. Become friends with the guys that u like, I mean real friends.. and if there is chemistry between you guys, it'll eventually show up.

 

Actually, you are probably just having problems because guys your age are assholes. And it's a bad idea to date guys who are much older than you at your age, so ... wait until you turn 18.

As a general rule, when you are eighteen it is safe to date guys who are around 20, who will be at about the same maturity level as you. If you're in the US though, don't go older than 20, since older guys will "get bored" because you can't drink legally yet.

It's a delicate balance, you will strike it. Just don't worry. I didn't date until I was eighteen, and am not going to again until I am 21 -- it's not our fault, just that men and women mature at different ages.

 

Because highschool girls are the epitome of maturity...

 

Never said that. But high school boys are usually still less mature, and you couldn't argue that, could you?

Hell, I'm not entirely mature either. But guys my age are a lot LESS mature. It's just a fact. There's usually a two- or three-year gap at least between males and females, with girls in the lead.
So if you figure, a seventeen-year-old girl is not all that mature ... a seventeen-year-old guy is bound to be a complete asscap.
I give extreme credit to the people who managed to survive dating in high school.

 

Um maybe it's you attitude especially from the last statement you made about your friends. IT could be that.

 

Good point. I somehow missed that.

 

you call your friends names and yet think you dont have a "sucky personality"? interesting. are you sure its not your attitude thats turning others off?

anyway, if you want a guy you gotta put yourself out there a little. dont be afraid fo taking the first step, of flirting first. have you considered any dating sites? there are a few free ones out there that ive had success with, i can let you know which ones i fyou want.

also, contemplate trying to be nicer to your friends instead of being bitter about your lack of a bf and taking it out on them, mkay?

 

I'd still disagree, but I suppose it depends on how you measure maturity. You could argue that the gap in ages represents equal maturity, but I'd take the cynics road and say that girls like older men because they a)have more money and b)make them feel inflated levels of maturity while guys like younger girls because they are dumber and easy to meld to your liking.

 

a 16 year old girl would have a more mature understanding well no maybe 17


to the OP simple if no guys askyou out ask one out you like
stop thinking theres something wrong with you realize your good enough to get who you want take a chance & ask some1

is there some1 in particular you want to be with?
if not, theres no point in just being with some1

 

If I wanted to be like you, I'd consider your advice.

But I don't.

 

LOL, i understand why you would think i need to work on my attitude by that statement, and i was thinking of revising it. because when i say friends, i don't mean the conventional definition of "Friends" i just mean the people i am around, they aren't really my friends b/c i don't exactly like them. But its high school and you have to hang around SOMEONE at lunch so i got stuck with these people.

You see, maybe i should elaborate on my situation. I go to this all girl school and its full of rich kids, it costs allot to go there. But i am dirt poor and i don't pay my own tuition because i got a scholarship. So i am allot more mature than the guys my age, and the girls. The girls i hang around are really immature and VERY spoilt, and i really dislike them. i have had a job and worked since i can remember and these girls get brand new cars for their 16th birthdays who haven't worked a day in their whole lives. So i think thats another big problem for me. i am more compatible with guys who are in my situation, who have jobs and who are around 20 or 21. But i can never go out with them cause they cant get over the fact that im only 17


I am way too shy to ask a guy out, maybe that my problem, but iv never met a girl who has initiated the relationship.

 

beauty is in the eye of the beholder, maybe that's why you can't get a boyfriend, let alone a friend with an attitude like that.

 

Why don't you make the firs move if you like someone? It's 21 century god damn it! It won't kill you, or your pride.

 

I don't think you should be conceited because of your money situation.
If you find a respectable guy, he'll like you for who you are, not for what you look like or what you owe.

Am sure as soon as you change your mentality, people around will start noticing the difference and u'll start getting more male attention.
Have more confidence.

 

???^^^ What do you mean change my mentality, whats wrong with it. Also, why are you calling me conceited??? I'm the opposite of conceited. All i meant was that im not repulsive looking so that cant be the main reason for not being in a relationship.

 

and no response to the concept of you putting yourself out there, flirting first or asking a guy out first?

 

I think what he means is that you think you are betther than them because you have had to work for things. You are judging them because they have money.

 

^^^ I dont think i am any better than them, i just dont like them. You are allowed to not like ppl.

And about that "putting myself out there" i would make the first move, but i usually can't. It seems all the guys i am attracted to and can see myself with already have girlfriends.

 

ugly people get lovers too