My question is about nerves and cumming. I'm having sexy times with a guy that is pretty tense in general. He's pretty tightly wound although he is funny, sexy, and intelligent. Anyway, I've been blowing this guy every few days for almost two weeks now and he just can't cum. I mean, blowing for hours. He's 29 and was up until very recently (like, a week ago, and yes, my handywork), a virgin with no experience beyond making out. So, he's been pleasuring himself for a long time, has pretty developed tastes and knows what he likes and doesn't. All he's known in wanking and porn watching. His tastes run toward smaller, younger girls with small breasts and also he likes things rougher, as do I. But, I am bigger, a size 20, with nice tits although not big. Is it me, or is it his developed habits? His nerves and inexperience have not kept him from getting me off repeatedly and I know that he is sexually attracted to me, at least as far as he can be...? Today is the first time he came and that was him jerking it into my mouth (which I found insanely hot). I should mention that we're fooling around under pretty stressful conditions. This is basically cheating on my part. Any suggestions/advice to help him relax would be helpful and welcome. Maybe I just need reassurance? I don't know at this point. Thanks in advance.
He's used to his hand. Practice. Also, -rep for "basically cheating". I don't like you *edit* err... -rep later, I've given too much in the last 24 hours. Hopefully you'll be banned by then, though.
if he's on any medication that could be a problem because a lot of medications reduce libido. and yea, he's pretty used to taking care of himself so it'd make sense that he's not too used to have a lady touch him. He could just be holding back because he doesn't want to embarrass himself by cumming in 2 seconds or something. good luck in the future! and don't get caught haha.
I hate to say this, but if he does not shoot his load then he is not into you. His being a former virgin is more of an excuse than a reason. My dick refuses to get hard for girls I'm not attracted to, and no erection means no penetration. Size 20 is quite large, and it does not help you unless he is a chubby chaser (i.e., he likes to fuck between the folds). Try going down to a size 5 or lower, and I guarantee your sex life will improve, and if you spread your asshole wide open in the bedroom your sex life will improve immensely. Every guy dreams of assfucking a thin model.
Sometimes getting blown does not cut it. Depends on nerves in the penis and what things feel certain ways. I get off easier with friction, so (for example) I was seeing this one girl for a while who gave the best blowjob I have ever had. She knew exactly how to work everything in the right way, it was awesome watching her go at it because she loved it and made if feel just fantastic, "girls gotta eat" she used to say. Anyways as I said they were the best blowjobs I have ever had, but I was not able to get off usually from it. If I did, then it was after a good 45-60 minutes of it. I have also been with people who can get it done in just a few minutes. So this is a weird case of one blowjob feeling the best, but a different one being able to get me off faster. My point is that everyone is different and sometimes the nerve endings respond to different things. If he does not seem to get off to your blowjobs, find out what you do, and tweek your efforts a bit. If you make it nice and wet, try not soaking it and use more friction and see where that gets you. Or vice versa.
I prefer giving oral over receiveing it, maybe that's the problem. Try sticking your crouch in his face while you do it and see what happens.
