Having an abortion

Thursday morning I have made an appointment to end the 6 weeks of stree Ive gone through, and have an abortion. I know I am making the right choice, and I have no doubts. But I am scared of the process. I know it is said it only takes 5-10 mins, but I have always had a fear of gyno exams for some reason (this is why I never went to get on BC) Can someone maybe give me some advice on how to relax about this?

 

Dunno how to help you relax other than give you (((hugs))) and wish you the best.

 

It might help to have a close friend or family member go with you. They probably wont let you bring the person inside the office, but it may help to have someone to talk to before and afterwords.

 

im so sorry. at six weeks ive heard it's very quick and only about 30 seconds of pain. ive also heard that you get cramps similar to very bad menstural cramps for a few hours afterwards-theyll keep you there for an hour or two afterwards. pick a clean welcoming facility. youre insurance will try to refer you to planned parent hood but i literally saw hookers in there and it was pretty dirty and this one woman was showing she must have been like 5 months and they let her terminate it. physically you should be ready to go back to work the next day. i would get some counseling too afterwards and make sure 100 percent that this is what you want to do and examine other possible avenues. abortion is very easy for some and very hard for others so emotionaly no one can tell you how youre going to feel.

 

Never go alone. As a matter of fact, you usually have to bring someone anyways. Even if you just get local anesthetic, you may be too weak,crampy,and nauseas to drive or walk alone.Besides, you will want to see a supportive smile waiting for you.

If you go local, the procedure is two to five minutes. If you get sedated or knocked out...you have to stay atleast 30 minutes afterwards to be observed.

I was incredibly nervous, my main fear stemming from my fear of needles.But if it's the choice you make,most women feel relief and calm post-abortion.

I can't say how you will feel down the road, but I never regretted mine. I have two daughters that needed me more. They were all I thought about before,during,and after.

Pro-lifers use scare tactics to sway women from making the choice, they also try to make women who have had abortions feel like murdering pieces of shit.Don't let them do that to you.Most of the rhetoric they spew is lies stemming from some false morality.

Your abortion will be in a clean,safe,sterile environment performed by accreditted and liscenced,trained,professionals who care so much about your right to an abortion that they put their own lives on the line to go to work each day.

Just remember them, those who fought for so many years,and the 1.5 million people who marched in washington in April 2004....they support you and will continue to support women worldwide.That will keep you strong.


As for relaxing about the whole doc poking in that area. Just remember, you dont have anything they haven't seen before and that they will be as gentle as possible. You can always speak up if something hurts and they will always warn you about anything cold,sharp,or funny feeling. A nurse will be present to hold your hand and even though he/she wears a mask, the docs will throw you a smile....just watch their eyes.

Good luck and I hope all goes well for you.

 

oh also dont search the web for answers you'll come across prolife websites that will make you feel like crap. i was debating having one but knew it would kill my ex so i didn't but i had complications and had to get one anyway.

 

all they gave me was ib profin i had no anesthesia.

 

That doesn't even make sense. Legally they have to use Lidocane(sp?)or a comparable numbing solution.

Even Planned Parenthood wouldn't perform an abortion without pain meds.

So either you went to an illegal clinic in the Appalacians or you are lying.(this assuming you mean after the abortion all you got was ibuprofin.)

Afterwards, I could see you getting Ibuprofin.I got a Vicodin afterwards and a perscription for Ibuprofin.

Ugh.That kind of statement sounds like it came from one of those made-up testimonials from WWW.Christiangallery.com where "women" claim that their abortions were performed in dirty buildings by a sadist wielding a vacuum cleaner.

 

they give you a shot for numbing, you'll probably hear a vaccumn like machine , it doesn't take long at all, after they normally have you go sit in a recovery type room for a little while... when i had mine i had to sit in a recliner type chair and they gave me a heating pad to lay on my stomach to help reduce the cramping and they gave me a drink a snack.. don't be surprised if you still have morning sickness that day, i got sick 3 times on the way home... it takes awhile for the hormones to go away that cause you to get sick... best of wishes to you

 

Then again, they might just help you avoid making an irreversible decision that you could regret for the rest of your life. Here's one that has had a very positive impact on many young women:

http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

 

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please please please....no pro-life propoganda...this girl has obviously made her decision already...don't sway her...

 

i went to planned parent hood mine was medically reccomended due to complications but honestly i prob would have gotten one anyway. i was only 5 weeks and was barely even still adhered they used a syringe not what they typically use. i was not given anything but ib profin-trust me i know and the place was very dirty. why would i lie about that fuck you for even having such horrible manners and little tact where you would call someone a liar before you even know their circumstances.

 

lynsey, I wasn't there when you had your procedure. But, I have never heard of a legal abortion where no numbing medicine was used. The cervix is also easier to dilate when the meds are used also. They may well have used it, and you weren't aware of it. Also, ibuprophen can cause more bleeding, and is almost never used before a surgical procedure. Sometimes when we are in a scary situation, we don't remember the details right. When I had my first baby, I had a horribly long, painful labor, and I thought they did things that they didn't and I missed a LOT of what actually happened. Dilating a cervix, with an instrument (which is what needs to be done) would be unbearably painful without Lidocaine or something similar.

But let's not attack each other, Okay. Abortion is a HIGHLY charged issue, especially when womyn are talking about thier own experiences. Let's try to remain civil. Questioning is one thing, attacking is an other.

 

My abortion was at 5 weeks and was completely non-invasive. I went in, got an ultrasound, saw a counselor, had a blood test, had to have a shot in my ass (I have the paticular blood type that needs one), and I just took some medication, came back after 3 days, saw the counselor again and took another pill, then had the abortion at home. It was painful, but didn't last long. I think they gave me some painkillers too, i don't remember. I think you have to be pretty early in the pregnancy to have that non-invassive option. If you are able to do it non-invasively (is that even a word?) I would have someone you are comfortable with there with you the day you take that last pill, just for support/safety reasons. Go up to an abortion clinic, talk with the staff, see if you like it there (that's important), and learn about your options. If they aren't helpful, caring, and nice I would leave and find another place.

 

Here's my advice. Don't do it.

I am a prochoice, but I know the emotional pain that accompanies something such as this. You may see it as a quick solution, but in reality, you will live with that choice for your entire life, regardless.

Please think about what you're doing. Not just with your pregnancy, but with yourself.

 

Not trying to attack you at all sweetie, just telling you what I know.

 

she's already decided to have this abortion. i feel very woman has the right to decide whether they want ot be pregnant or not. first we have the choice to use contraception, and if in the eventual case this fails and the pregnancy is not wanted, well, abortion is there.
i dont condenm women who go for it, having a baby is a HUGE responsibility, it doesnt end until this creature is a full grown adult, even beyond that i should say!!
I feel giving it up for adoption is worse, you're left wondering how the kid is for the rest of yor life.

 

I think that you have a point in what you first said...

This person has already decided to have one...we should only be supportive and answer the questions she's asked...not try and convince her that her decision is wrong...

 

Most adoptions nowadays are open, with birth mothers choosing the adoptive parents and largely setting the terms of the placement agreement.