Guys always staring....

Hey! Well i guess i have big boobs and a big butt..:& but its annoying because in alot of things i wear it tottaly shows off my cleavage and my stick-out butt..i mean im not ashamed of them. but a little while ago usualy i wore tight clothes and such to get 'attention' but that was a while ago - and i realized that i was getting the WRONG kind of attention. Even when i try to dress LESS SEXY, guys always stare at me and check me out really disgusting like, even old guys in their 30's-40's (i'm 16!). and i feel really self consiecuses and low when an older guy tottaly checks me out, it kinda makes me afraid of them. this one time, this older guy walked passed me and tottaly grabbed my ass as he 'brushed' by me and said 'excuse' me. i didnt say or do anything, i jus got kinda scared. i really wished i could of done something, but i was too afraid. what can i do when guys stare at me and do things like that? I want to stick up for myself, but im not sure how or what to say? i don't want to them that its OKAY for them to do that.

But now i decided i didnt want to wear clothes that showed off my boobs and butt,b/c i didnt want to give off the wrong idea. It realy sucks that us girls have to watch the way we dress because guys and as well as many girls judge you on the 'way' you dress. and its sad that we cant show off our body without getting some creep leering at you. but anyways, what are some clothes that are still cute and comfty but you know, cover my boobs? and my butt? lately i have been wearing more flowing knee length or lower skirts and flowing shirts...but i dont know! im also trying to cut back on the makeup..but.. what do you think?
Thank you to anyone who replies :sunglasse

 

oh you dear sweet young one,men will stare at a woman for many kinds of reasons,generally it is because they are thinking dirty thoughts,but not always.for example.....maybe he was gay and liked your lip gloss,you could have reminded him to call his girlfriend because you looked like her....the list is endless,granted most men are yucky in their own special way but let me ask you an honest question without you taking it negatively,how would you feel if they didnt look?honestly,i would wonder,whats wrong with me?!be thankful.......and also careful

 

ha, well yea alot of good reasons there goddess....but i mean i guess i would think 'ugh do i look ugly today or something' if they DIDNT look....but i mean, i jus dont like the 'looks' i get by old guys and other guys who like tottaly stop and leer at me and you could jus tell they are tottaly like looking at my boobs, its just really disgusting! regular checking out is alright...but not the gross kind...know what i mean????

 

I dress in a way that lots of people would think is provocative, but I do remember when I hated this dress and how I used toget annoyed because even when trying to look unsexy, tops were still stretchy round my boobs unless I bought frump clothes and that made me feel ugly.

I usually give people the finger is their look lingers to long, you have a right to dress how you want and feel good

you could always snigger and stare directly at their crotch.

 

I got this when I was younger I

wore clothes that wear not more revealing than most would dress for the place
when a dirty old man looked at me I would say discretley-do you want me to let everyone know how you are looking at me?
it works

 

When people stare, especially dirty old men, I find that it works best to just stare at them right back untill they feel uncomfortable and turn away. And I mean stare, with that look like "I dont apprechiate it asshole". I mean, not to be rude to someone. But if someone is blatently staring at you at you feel uncomfortable you have the right to let it be known.

 

There are three choices for you.

1) Look like an object of sexual satisfaction.
2) Look like "just" another girl.
3) Look like a girl who is so great and wonderful that a 'nice' guy will become your devotee.


1) - This choice will be easy for you and may be it will be painful for people around you to communicate with you like a human being.

2) - This choice will be very tough for you, given that you always want to look like the thing that guys crave for but cannot get.

3)- This choice is ideal and it will only happen to you if you are successful in life and not by your looks or your thoughts.

 

Men are visual creatures ~ there is no way around this ~ they will look PERIOD.​

No matter if you are wearing tight stuff,,loose stuff whatever,,, if they find that there is something cute about you,,,they will look ~ it makes them happy ~ ​

Women are beautiful creatures that men like to look at!​

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If I felt uncompfortable ,,I would stare back at them or say " how are you?'"​

Throw them off a bit ,,,,,ask them a question,,,,make them think about something else. remember,,men are NOT multi tasked ,,,,,so asking them a question will take away the LOOKS,,, at least it would be soo bad then a guy that is just staring not thinking about anything else.​

 

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lol, good point​

 

I can only speak for myself, but, lately, I'm seeing beauty I've never seen before. So, please forgive me, if I seem like I'm stareing.

 

there is a difference between a guy looking at you because he thinks your pretty and one who is eyefucking you. the first one I don't mind the second unless I initiate it I find very uncomftrable

 

See, I have the SAME problem when I'm in a bathingsuit. And I never know if it
is positive/negative attention ( as in beuty / ugly). The difference is....I'M ONLY 14!! ( eventhough I look like 16 , some people I know even thought I was 18...)

 

my breasts aren't bit and i wear not tight tops but ones that are just fitted comfortably.....the one or two days i wasn't wearing a jjumper or zip-up over it i had some child say to me "give us a go of them apples will ya"

and another guy say "she's got some pair of tits on her" to my friend.

it annoys me.

i don't dress in a sexy way because im not comfortable in doing so at all and if im in baggy clothes i feel very uncomfortable when people in cars stare at me...its just weird.


the worst of course is builders and boy racers in their suped up cars screaming sexual remarks at you......i mean....who thinks thats a compliment?

i think its rong.


i mean theres an obvious line between a girl who's obviously objectifying themselves and who wants that sort of attention and a girl who is doing the complete opposite.


in night clubs down here you get men in their 40's with slicked back hair and shirts that are halfway open like they were gods gift to women leering and hitting on people young enough to be their daughters.....and when i say daughters i mean 17/16 year olds [some clubs allow girls of the age of 14 in depending on how done up they are...kinda seedy] and then just stand and leer and make sexual gestures. i mean....these people seriously need to re-evaluate their lives. and try and score with someone their own age. and if they find that no-one their age is on the pull it might be logic enough for them to stop and realise that in fact what they are doing is downright seedy



i apologise it just makes me angry to see old men hitting on kids.

i don't mind a look...women do it too...we're just less subtle ans use our peripheries....but a leer...i really dont like..even from people my own age. creeps me out

 

yeah, I sympathise. Leerage is just sifty and gross. Espcially when its accompanied by groping....just eeeew.

And what is with the honking thing? do they perhaps think that we will strip then and there?

It's not my fault that i have boobs - and it would be nice if people(boys: a certain couple in particular) looked at my face when i talked to them. It would be nice to be treated like a person with opions that could be repected rather than a pair of talking breasts.
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That's just a myth, sort of like women being able to drive. I can carry on a conversation just fine staring straight at a woman's rack, and during sex I often ponder the meaning of life and possible solutions to the conflict in Israel.

 

good goddess, I -HATE- when guys leer at us chicks, especially older guys hitting on young girls. You can tell the difference between complimentary checking out and nastiness.... At my old job (cookie/coffee store in a mall) I kept getting these 40-50 year olds hitting on me so I started talking to my coworkers about how I wish I could go dancing at the bar, but I was only 16, then gave them this "hello I'm jailbait" look.

Another form of ickiness that irritates me is when guys are like "hey, what's up" on the street when you're by yourself and they're in a gaggle... do they really expect me to jump them then and there or what? Oi. Enough ranting on my part!

 

those guys are rude then if your going to check out a girl you do it when their not looking everyone knows that. but just ignore them if they give you any looks, or learn Jeet Kune Do, if you feel really threatened

 

followd by groping....oh lord....there's more to expect?!?!?!?




*runs and hides under rock*



the honking is just rediculous...my friends love it....it really makes me want to throw a rock at their new ricers......show tham *raaaarrr*



i think the work place is sometimes worse. like what you said about people chatting you up and stuff. in new mexico my brothers girlfriend is a waitress in a club i think or something and they had a catholic school girl night........WTF?!? mjust imagine then people...ugh...*shudders*




the gand thing would just scare me to hell. i mean one guy or two is ok but like it happened to me at night during a festival down here and i nearly lost my life.it was only about 1am but like....the streets were mobbed with weirdos and drunkards.


*shudders again*

 

I think the problem is that there are many women who use their breasts as a means of attracting men, and that men have become conditioned to leer. People here shouldn't be complaining about "dirty old men" who leer, but the women who sexualize their breasts. It's sad, because men could be devoting their time to important intellectual/philosophical matters, but instead we're induced like pavlovian dogs to leer at breasts every time a large breasted woman passes. I admit that I do it, but there's many a time when I find it offensive that a woman wears clothing that promotes her breasts--it's an unwanted distraction, and makes me feel uncomfortable.

 

Well, that's true in a way...because if a girl TRIES 2 get that kinda 'attention' then she shouldn't complain about it. BUT, alot of girls don't TRY 2 'sexualize' their breasts....and guys still leer none the less. It's not OUR fault that we have boobs, so it shouldn't be OUR fault if guys leer at us. I guess I'm not trying to say who's fault it is really...because I suppose its natural that us girls have boobs, and the guys look. But still, they should be respectful enough not to make you feel uncomfortable. I mean, they should learn to control themselves! And like Lynsey said, "there is a difference between a guy looking at you because he thinks your pretty and one who is eyefucking you." I also think that a girl has a right to still wear whatever she wants and be proud of her body, and shouldn't be blamed for 'tempting a guy to look at her'. It's just sad that us girls can't walk around wearing whatever we want without some guys disrespecting us.

Oh...and I know what you girls mean by those guys in the cars! Like I'd really take a ride from some guy i never met before in some dumb car, or give my number to some guy whos screaming or whistling at me from his car! I'd like to throw some rocks 2 Geneisis!