girls, I can use your help.

I went to a date with a lovely lady. I think I like her very much.
And at the end of the date, we hugged and she said that she had a great time.

I just wonder whether I can call her today or not? I don't want to make myself look creepy or pushy. But deep in my heart, I just want to hear her voice. Will it be a mistake to call her now? Should I wait?

Her birthday is next Thursday and I couldn't be there for her, actually, she has plans already. I just got to know her yesterday. But I want to send some flowers to her on Thursday and ask her to give me one weekend day to celebrate her birthday with me, do u think she will say Yes to me since we only date for once.

 

Well if she likes you too she might be waiting for your call. And the flowers sound lovely. =)

However... if she doesn't answer your call don't be calling her a bazillion times. Leave a message and the ball in her court.

 

Thanks! I left her a message and haven't heard anything back yet. I hope this time will be different. It's been 1.5 days now.

 

bobbi, you seem sweet. with new relationships you should go realllllllly realllly slow.

since you already left a message, just chill and wait.

maybe do the flower too, but do not call again. like the other poster said, the ball is in her court. what are your ages? i am 25 and unless i was as into the guy as you seem to be with her, i may be a bit creeped out by flowers, even tho they are thoughtful. just my two cents.

 

Bobbi I have great advice but sorry cause you specified you only want help from girls


dont you know that
the soul of a woman was created below

 

Hi, Thank you for the advice. I just got a message from her:
I am sorry I missed you. I ended up having a very busy, full weekend. I hope you have a nice weekend and had a good start to the week.

What should I do? Should I call her now, or just let the flowers do the talking? Can I text message her that I adored her?

 

hmmmm. well, she returned your call. i would give a her a a "hey how was your day?" call and keep it casual. the adore part is something that will come later, you don't want to scare her off. don't mention her birthday, just send the flowers after the "hey" call and wait till she reciprocates.

 

ya dude..that message from her isnt exactly on the same level as ''adore her''...is it?....just play it cool and send her a birthday text and nothing more..

 

MMMM sounds like you might be drifting into the "friends " zone. if you go into this area ,your pretty much screwed. not to many guys ever come out of this zone. did you send flowers yet? hopefully you did .with a card saying " cant wait to go date you again" that way she cant put you into friend zone right away and may give you a shot. but if you get another date and it doesnt end with a kiss. sorry you go into friend zone

 

So you guys think I should have tried to kiss her on the first date? I don't know that, I thought it would be too quick.

 

Don't over analyze. You don't have to kiss/makeout/anything on the first date. It'll happen when it feels right. Don't push anything.

Also, I'd leave off the "adore" part, too. There's a 50/50 chance that she'll love it or hate it. But just in case she doesn't know how she feels about you yet, I'd just stick with something simple. Or be mysterious and don't even add a card. Ooooo. lol

 

Thanks guys. I just talked with my sister and she gave me a plan which makes a lot of sense to me.


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I'll send her flowers on Thursday.

I'll call her on next Wednesday and ask for another date.

Any indirect answer will be a "NO". Quit and move on.

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I just called the florist and told them that I don't need a card.

To me, "hard to get" is a stupid game. But people like to play this game, I'll have to learn it.

 

IMO if they start playing games like that, odds are that's all it is- a game. To them.
Do you want the real deal or do you want to play their games?

 

which is why he should only give at most a simple card for the birthday....no chump flowers....girls...tsk tsk...this is NOT the time for flowers....so many more appropriate times to give flowers...i cannot approve this plan...please veto the flowers vito

 

Dude, I already lost my mind. I tend to agree with all of you. I think I should just do what ever I think is nice. If she can't appreciate it, she doesn't deserve me.

 

Precisely!!! It's all a dam game at the end of the day and if it doesn't just happen then you're pushing $%(@ up hill. However, this is coming from a bloke who, lets face it, is very unsuccessful with women. The girlfriends I've had in the past were basically just instantly there and there has been little effort on my part. Be sweet, be secure and be focused and you MAY get the girl.

 

I have to agree with "unsuccessful with woman" part. I am having trouble to find a girl friend now. It is very frustrating, something is wrong on my side. I am not a ugly man. As a matter of fact, I only tried to date the girls who think I am handsome. So something is wrong, I need to fix it.

 

You're probably just trying too hard. A guy is most attractive to me when it doesn't seem like he's actively trying to find a girlfriend. Just do your thing and don't worry so much about it. Even if things don't work out with this girl, if you just live your life the way you want to eventually a girl will come along that fits right in with your life, effortlessly. One of my dearest friends is a great, great guy but anytime he likes a girl he tries way too hard to be nice and do nice things for her...and immediately gets put into the friend zone..at first, then I think he eventually slides on into the creep zone. You gotta be natural and keep some mystery.

 

I know I'm a guy also and my advise was not asked for but I'm with Rollingalong on this one. NO FLOWERS, you will just come off as some pathetic chump, flowers come a little later. The thing to do is to make sure she knows your interested, you have that covered. Now just kind of sit back and see what happens, maybe a call on her birthday, just to wish her a happy b-day. Then kind of subtly ask if she want to get together and do something sometime. Then you can see where that goes.