GF masturbating to ex

Just found out my gf masturbates to her ex (they were more fuck buddies than a boyfriend girlfriend). She masturbatea getting fucked by his dick size which she says is "BIG" over 8 inches. She "loves big dick". I am only about 5.5 inches (not big ya i know) How should I react to this? We have been dating over 5 years and she felt really embarassed about telling me that. No idea how to react any suggestions appreciated

 

Two options:

a) you asked her that; in which case, you`ve made your own bed to sleep in. But, you probably asked because, deep down, you feel she`s out of your league.

b) she told you that; in which case, she`s out of your league.

Couldn`t you just be happy you fucked a hot chick through some lucky circumstance and rest on your laurels? Did you have to be so damn ambitious as to be her equal despite being her inferior?

 

I would say it was alittle of both. While we were having sex she said she masturbated earlier... I asked what she masturbated to... She said big dick in her... I said whose big dick an thats how it started. I dont feel inferior to her at all other than the fact that she seems to just want more

 

Jesus Christ she must not like you very much if she actually told you that, furthermore you're a bit too curious for your own good especially if the answer could potentially get you butthurt enough to start a thread on here (dw I've been there). IMO abort it doesen't sound like shes the girl for you or like your the guy for her

 

wait... 5 years!? holy shit

 

it took you 5 years to realise your girlfriend is a cumdumpster?

the world is cruel.

 

How is she a cumdumpster for liking that?

 

i wouldn't be happy if my girlfriend said anything like this to me.

but i apologize

each to their own.

 

Bullshit on this and bullshit to everyone who has replied so far.

OP, have you talked this over with your GF? Do you feel like you can't satisfy her properly? Have you tried incorporating sex toys, like a dildo/vibrator into your love life?

 

I would be more concerned if she was masturbating for her ex.

 

Best answer ever.

I'm impressed.

 

It`s been 5 years. Would you say you`re both with each other out of comfort? Possessiveness?

 

She uses the vibrator often esp. When she rides me. I got her a big dildo which she likes but she says its to cold sometimes even when we use warming lube and let it sit in warm water

 

think she fucks you out of sympathy,more than likely she was disappointed with your 5 inch from the start but you must have had other things that keeps her with you,when you fuck does she cum bet not, she as told you she likes big dicks so if she masterbates over her ex and she as told you then there is more to come she is sounding you out next she will tell you how many men bigger than you she as had and how they all were better than you .

 

m...are you sure that your problem is just the sexual part? perhaps you should ask her if she is still into him. I am girl and its very difficult to fantasize sex with an ex partner that means nothing to me anymore...

it takes something more, at least for me to reach that point where a man's dick is in my fantasies and it has to be a much better reason than his size...

now every woman is different and do not think this of taking a judgement, i just wanted to tell you that there is also this aspect that perhaps you should be more concerned in..at least for your own peace of mind..

 

I would be out of that relationship asap. Unless she was really sweet about telling you all that ("I like big dicks, but I'm always AMAZED at what you do with yours") then she obviously doesn't care about you enough to be in the relationship.

 

not care because your personal emotions are meaningless. it makes her happy. be happy for that. it sounds hard, but its completely not. stop living in your mind, creating reasons you think should matter when nothing matters. you are welcome friend

 

OK this may be a little harsh. First of all we all masturbate to the people we've been with. We all have a highlight reel or a spank bank (right, everyone?). Does that mean we should be hearing about it from our significant others? - fuck no.

now.

The fact that you know she does this and that she ''loves big dick'' and all that... it this because you keep asking her all this stuff and setting yourself up to hear shit that will hurt you? Because if you are doing that - STOP DOING THAT.

On the other hand, if she is just telling you things like that out of the blue to hurt you or make you feel inadequate for some reason, then I hate to tell you this but sir, your girlfriend, is a bitch and is trying to make you her little bitch. If this is the case, stop acting like a little bitch, and kick her to the curb.

 

She couldn't be more insulting in my opinion.
I don't know how you found out -- it's wrong to begin with and even more to blatantly admit it to you!
If she loves you, she should love every part of you and she obviously still has a thing for him - if she was over him - and in love with you, the thoughts of having sex with him would disgust her!
She could get a vibrator -- there are other options but involving the ex in masturbation is more than wrong.

She needs to cut him loose -- or lose you.

 

So fucking what? When I masturbate I also sometimes think of sexual encounters with people other than the girl I'm with and hope to be with for the rest of my days. I don't think that's showing infidelity any more than thinking of complete strangers - I mean that's the whole point of masturbation, that it's a safe and harmless way of indulging fantasies which wouldn't necessarily be appropriate to act out.

As for what she's trying to tell you by letting you in on this side of her private life, that's another matter again. It could be she's just trying to push your buttons, or it could also be she's one of those persons who thinks telling you these kind of things is a form of emotional openness. Either way it's kind of annoying. Maybe I'm just more 'conservative' in this regard, but, bar the odd rant on hipforums and maybe - maybe - amongst bros, I'm not really for sharing these kind of personal details. Like I don't see what good it would do my partner if I told her I, on occasion, still spank it to a memory of a beautiful girl who wronged me, but was really rather excelent in the fellatio department.