General questions

I've been reading a lot on this forum, and I've noticed that I can relate to a lot of these people who have these online or long-distance relationships.

So I was wondering how normal is it to meet a significant other online? And how many people believe that a long-distance relationship (be it a couple of inconvenient hours driving, or half-way around the world) can work out for a certain period of time?

How many people have had these experiences and would you do it again?

Thanks!!

 

yes its definatley normal and many people do it. I dont think long distnace works out to well though. I think you need to be able to see eachother and have a physical bond as well. Not sex but cuddlign hugging and things. I think if you have long distance for too long you start making bad assumptions, and it just goes downhill from there. I guess I am kinda old fashioned though because I like to meet people in person, not online unless they are a friend of a friend or soemthing. Thats just me though. To each their own and if you can find true love online, all the power to ya.

 

I meet a lot of people online... the longest distance was a 9 hour drive from me, and things didn't work out with him. (There were many other issues besides distance, though.)


But I have a friend who is a singer and her band does weddings in NJ. And she had to perform at a wedding one weekend where the couple had met on match.com. And some of thier guests were fellow match.com-ers who were just meeting thier matches for the first time in person at the wedding. I thought that was really sweet! lol.

 

that is pretty cool

 

I totally believe in it... my mom and stepdad met on the internet. We lived in Florida and he had just gotten internet (we had it for about a year, at the time) and he sent her a message on ICQ just because he thought it would be cool to talk to someone from Florida. They hit it off, he flew down once by himself, then once with his kids, then we flew up to BC to see the town he lived in and everything... next time he flew down to Florida was to marry her and bring us back up here. They were literally THE perfect couple, the mixed family (my mom had me and my brother, 14 and 16 at the time, and he had two girls, 12 and 10 at the time) worked out awesome for us and all - we called him 'dad' and his daughters called her 'mom'. We were all so close, people never knew we were a step-family until they were told so. Unfortunately, they were married for almost five years and he passed away last year, three days after my own wedding (where he walked me down the aisle - my own "father" wasn't even there). She moved back to Florida and she's been talking to another guy from Florida, and she's planning to meet him soon. From the way she talks about him, he seems awesome for her... I'm convinced that dad sent him for her... it was a year on July 8th since he passed away, and the new guy moved from Oklahoma around the same time she moved back to Florida. She took her wedding ring off on the 8th (and put it on a necklace along with his) and started talking to this new guy.. probably not even a week later.
I know another kid that my brother is friends with, he met his fiance online, she moved to Florida (after they both looked at schools in their own states and she found one she wanted to attent in FL) and is living with him and everything. He's a total nerd-case, she's done modelling and everything, but once you meet them, you realize they're awesome together.

And sometimes I wonder what would have happened if my parents hadn't gotten married (mom and stepdad) and moved me up here - like I said, I'm married already, and I don't know if that ever would have happened if I'd stayed in Florida... but I kinda doubt it.

 

ive met almost all of my boyfriends through the internet, including the current one whoh im moving in with in a couple weeks and plan on marrying
long distance ive never done well with. my libidos too high to not have a bf to fuck regularly if i am dating someone, and i crave the cuddling/physical intimacy

 

It works better if you know you'll be living close soon...

Dunno. Right now I'm in a long-distance relationship (I needed to move for work to pay for next year's school), but we're moving in together in Spet.

 

Awesome story!! Gives a person some hope. Thanks for sharing! Sorry to hear about your dad, but congrats on your wedding, and I hope your mom likes this new guy.

 

Allonym: So have I, actually. Unfortunately, I've had some bad luck so far. But that could just be me! lol.

Spooner: I agree... if you plan on being together in the same place soon after, than it would make a difference. But I've told a couple of people already I'd be willing to move if things worked out...

I noticed a lot of people in this forum saying that they'd met someon in this forum and were with them or were engaged already. I thought that was cool.

 

i personally met my boyfriend in person, and we were friends first. but, i think anything is possible!