So, I'm nearly seventeen. I don't find sex a big deal. Yet, I've barely done anything. I want to experiment and have a little friend. There's this guy thats totally hot and I have a BIG thing for him, he told me several months ago that if I ever want to try anything he's definately available, so I was like "yea totally " and we were going to, but havent texted in months. I dont want to ask him again or pressure him cause maybe he doesnt find me attractive anymore, but I reallllllly wanna go through with this..I just don't want to be considered some crazyass loser..Should I text him or what?? haha sorry, just posted this to the first forum I found xDD DONT HATE ON MEE
If you can trust that you're not gonna fall for this guy in a bigger capacity, then why not, but he sounds like a player. Are you that desperate that your first times of everything have to be with a fuck buddy? I'm just trying to establish why you wanna go that path?
Agreed...but at the same time...get you some if you don't plan on stalking him for the rest of your life... There is a reason they call it "Fuck Buddies". It's because you have no connection to them other than sex...and if you start fucking to much...well, you'll just end up heart broke if one decides to move on... Believe me...I know from experience and I'm the one that fell for her... What I'm trying to say is just be prepared for the consequences...
If you aren't experienced in "fuck buddies," feelings CAN and WILL get in the way. Just a warning. Don't expect much out of it except a lot of useless emotions and many tears.
Just make sure that you have a well thought out plan for safe sex. And then go for it. There will be good things and bad things about this experience, but you will definitely learn a lot. And that's the point, right?
Far more likely he's worried you'll get too clingy, or too clingy too quickly. Too much emphasis on your looks is stuff you get in your head from other girls, not really the guys Its so wrong how evil media multinationals portray women in the media; even though most of the negativity comes from those womens magazines that only women buy and read and chics like that girl from Jersey shore or Christina Agueliera get torn apart cos they stacked on the weight
You should meet someone you actually care about and have real, amazing sex with another soul. Don't just bump uglies with some dude who's fucked half the sluts at your school. You said you don't find sex a big deal, so then it's not necessary for you to go down the route of fuck buddies i have never gone this road myself but every single person i know that has has regretted it. Sure the meaningless sex is fun, until you realize you're spending a lot of energy into something meaningless, and then it hurts when you realize this person isn't even "yours". The emphasis tends to swing away from "buddy" and towards "fuck".
I think you are far to young to have a "fuck buddy" just because of your hormones and all of the emotions that you are going through this age, especially if you don't have alot of experience and if you are still a virgin. I think this is a very bad idea, because it hurts to get your heart broken.. and I could see this happening.. I would re-think this,
Texting him and telling him you want to get together isn't stalking. If he doesn't want to hear from you he'll tell you. And you can be direct. If you want a FWB then you can tell him that. If you want to lose your virginity you can tell him that, too. A lot of girls do that so it's not unusual. Good luck. (And you're not too young to have a fuck buddy if you want)
I never had the benefit of that, I would have done it if I had known a girl who was interested (I'm a guy)...hell I'd still do that now if the right ( and appropriately aged) girl asked me lol
Well, just ask him how he feels about you. That doesn't cost anything and you may be surprised at the answer. Even if he doesn't have a big thing for you it's always fun to fuck somebody's brains out that you have a thing for.
