Have you ever found that you've completely fallen platonically for a friend, but have a small crush on them (romantically), simultaneously? You then do battle with yourself over whether you genuinely like them as a romantic prospect or are just confused because you adore them so fiercely as a friend...Is there any familiarity to anyone else in this brief, yet over-detailed account of love-related confusion and angst?
Unfortunately! But such is life, and how wonderful are those emotions. If you have a crush on them platonically, truly I'm happy for you. It also indicates they are worth looking up to in some way (I hope), and in a sense, people whom you may call wholeheartedly - your better half. A friend you can be honest with, a person whom you can align with and understand. This can feel intoxicating and so wonderful. But be careful that you do not lose yourself in your love for their personality. From their perspective you may slowly fade into a mirror image of them, a follower, when the person that drew them to you just disappears. It is a very powerful feeling but curb it when you can, and above all understand your own self. There are bound to be limits in any close relationship or friendship. Things that they would do, that you would not, and vice versa. Recognize them, and learn from your friends. Try not to be so easily influenced. Having said that, it's natural to want to emulate them in many ways. But know yourself. Allow them to learn from YOU too. _________ About moving it to the level of the "romantic", it is up to your own discretion and your own confidence. Couples aren't clones of each other either. Again, know yourself and your own limits. If you don't yet, then maybe consider thinking seriously about it. Especially if that "angst" is getting in the way of you functioning in other parts of your life.
mm - me n a gal used to laugh so hard we almost cried,and we'd go skating n to shows n stuff but nothing sexual ever happened - well apart from play fights - but then she met someone and i met someone and the fire between us couldn't exist at the same time without making the other parties slightly jealous - this happened and it all went a bit stupid and our friendship ended which was a real shame
Thanks for the advice. I don't think mirroring should be much of an issue, as we have completely different personalities. And yes, it is great. I think romance is out of the question, as I'm enjoying the friendship too much.
I found my friend is in love with me and has been in love with me since 7th or 8th grade. We've been really good friends since 6th grade which is when I liked him....
Well...the girl whom i am crazily in love with was and still is my best friend. Like I want going after her at all and one day i just realised to myself, I love her, and in more then a friendly way. havn't stopped thinking about her sence =P
yeah, that can be pretty interesting. Just don't battle with yourself, you don't have to know everything right away, let it flow and you will know, it's very easy to subconsciously and consciously manipulate your emotions into something they are not. Have fun.
Agreed. Let it flow. You two will still be friends until you figure out your feelings. Once you know what you want for sure, act on it. Until then, ride it out.
Everybodys different..but with me, I would rather have a good friend than a lover.... Friends tend to be around Much longer and are usually more loyal when things go bad
me and nick were friends before we started dating. actually...most of the guys i've gone out with were friends first. and yeah, i get how somebody could be confused on whether it was love or if it's just a really great friendship, but i know i love nicholas, but we're also great friends.
Lover ..... Friend Friendly lover lovely friend where's your focus who/what Are you Sex is nice But it is Not what it is all about So if there cannot be friendship without sex - What kind of friend Are You When we relate to this life as a temporary place - And recognize we go On then we See that sexual /romantic relationships are But the intermingling of spirits as they pass To hold on and possess does no one any good All changes and the best we can do Is hope for the best for each To wish the passing Self be all that they may Be Grow On my dear friend grow On Love remains forever true - I shall not turn my back on you - or you - or you Honoring Connections Honoring Change Living with what is given Loving With an Open hand Both to Hold And to Let Go Love Is - whether you embrace it or not is the question And if you try to limit it ...... ? Do you win ? Love IS Blessings to all Namaste
it always starts out as friends, then it moves on to somthing much more powerful...then after the whole thing is winding down, u arnt even really friends anymore
i got this dilemma right now its wierd. i met this girl 2 weeks ago and we've been hanging out every day for a week now. whenever we are together we constantly talk and shit. i realised a few days ago i was in love with her, probably because she'll call me every day and we'll talk on the phone and she'll pick me up and we'll end up going somewhere and hanging out. i know she likes guys who fit my physical description but i just dont know. also, we live in vegas but she is going to Reno in August. so im just like fuck. i wanna be more than friends but i think its too early to go there right now, and i dont want to ruin a fun relationship. im so confused and in love lol. >.< and id be more than happy to just make out with her, i dont even care about sex at all
Its great one of my close female friends went from friend to g/f but there's been a mutual attraction from when we first meet last Aug.
