forgiveness

ok, well there seems so much negativity in the world which reflects the negativity within ourselves. i have falled to this. i do everyday. i do when i get pissed at someones comments to me. i do when i allow someones actions hurt my spirit.
currently i have been going through a really tough time with an angry husband. he has been trying to put me through hell. even flattened the tires on my car, which i drove on without even realizing(dont ask,)i have filed for a restraining order and they are trying to serve it to him.
but you want to know what. i forgive him. he is hurt and doesnt know how to handle things. he is grasping at all the wrong emotions. as do all of us when we treat one another badly. we are reaching for the anger and loneliness and sadness in us and not the reservoir of love. when you tap into that love....youstart forgiving. you forgive what others do to you and you forgive yourself. its wonderful. forgiveness is a selfish act. it releases you from harboring negativity. its wonderful.


now i normally post in my forum. but i felt there was someone who needed this. so here i post, prolly making myself look like a nut.
but geez.......we all could use a little forgiveness in our hearts.
can you think of the last time you forgave? was it big? did it lighten you?

 

OK I forgive you

 

I am big on forgiveness..
My ex use to verbally and mentally abuse me all the time. He hit me once, and that was the end of that.
But after a little bit, i did forgive him. It made me heal better and made me forget as well, it was like a release.

 

I am pretty good at forgiving people actually. i just don't usually hang on to anger very long.


I'm not sure that i would be quite ready to forgive your husband if i were in your shoes, you don't deserve this.

 

NOT to throw religious reference in her for its religious value but rather for its purity in thought and for how it really reflects the truth


forgive them for they know not what they do.

he's in a dark place and is grasping. i am going to face his shit with justice but i am not going to let it hurt me. i have far too much to offer myself then to get caught up in games or to lose my integrity as a person.

 

I agree with that statement. I have known many people who do really mean things or are extremely argumentative and picking fights....there is usually a point when I can see what is causing it, what deep insecurity or mistreatment that lies behind it....sometimes once i figure that out I wish that i didn't because it hurts me to know what is hurting them.

 

EXACTLY and i think that is why we are supposed to stand back from the situation and combat anger with compassion. because we all hurt, some people just don't handle it well. i feel for him. i truly do. i cant offer him peace but what i can do to help is to not get caught in his game.

 

for all the times others had to forgive me, i think i owe it to myself to be forgiving by nature, which i am

however, there is one person in my life that i will never forgive. other than that one case, i forgive...maybe too easily

 

IN some ways you do alex. but do you forgive yourself for your imperfections?

i am learning to do this now! and it feels like ecstasy

 

yes...i think i'm beginning to be more forgiving of my imperfections. actually its not so much forgiving, i just accpet them and try not to beat myself up over them.

 

i am usually pretty good with forgiving people... but when they try to manipulate me, and lie to/about me, it just really gets under my skin when they think i am stupid... if it pisses me off enuff ill let em know i know their bullshittin, and how i know... and just let it go...

 

I believe in forgiveness, but if a person has the potential to be dangerous common sense tells you to take appropriate actions for the sake of your own safety.


However, as a drill sgt. often pointed out, "Common sense is a motherfucker".

 

LOL....good one marc. i am learning that too. i am finding the balance of forgiveness and smart decisions. i am not forgiving him in a way that would bring harm to her or it. i am forgiving in a way that can do no further damage to me.

 

I guess that I have a problem with forgiving people, but only when they hurt someone close to me, people I care for, like family or friends. I don't care about myself, I would forgive easily in most cases. But not when it's about the people I love. I guess I should start learning how? It's strange, though, I don't really know why I react like that.

 

Good for you, Marie. Love ya.

 

well i am trying... but i am not there yet. one step at a time

 

I have a hard time with forgiving. When my trust is broken, I can't just shove it under the carpet. I really wish I could. I prefer to just walk away.

 

I can forgive but can never seem to forget and that's what I want more than anything.....

 

That may never be possible.

 

Which is why I guess I can saying that I trully don't forgive then....