ok me and my fiance have a baby together and i have one on the way he was living with me until about a week ago when i threw all of his stuff out and told him he was nothing but a fucking looser and a druggy.ok ok it sounds harsh but let me explain he is 19 years old we are getting ready to have 2 kids he doesent work he doesent clean all he does all day is sit around and smoke weed while im suppose to take care of our daughter be pregnant pay our bills cook and clean while he does nothing i dont think that thats fair at all. so one day i told him to clean the kitchen so he said ok well something came up and he said he would do it tomarrow so i said ok. well tomarrow came and he decided to work on his friends car and then leave to go smoke weed with his friends and when he came back i was telling him he needed to do the kitchen but he was being all rude about it u know showing off cuz his friend was there. so i decided that it wasent going to be like that anymore so i made him leave. was i wrong to have been so mean to him. i love him very much and i know he loves me. a couple days ago he would call me to see if anyone called for him and then he would tell me he loves me and then get off the phone but now when he calls he doesent tell me he loves me or anything anymore he says that i nag him to much. i know that i do but i just dont think that i should have to do everything exspecally because im a high risk pregnancy. i want to make my realtionship work please tell me how i can get him back and how i can make things different. and please tell me if im in the wrong or not i really need to know thanx alot tawnee
Not knowing either of you, and just from my first impression after reading your post, drop him. Cut him loose. You have a family to raise, and in this case I almost think they'd be better off with no influence than with THAT kind of influence. You seem to have your stuff together. I am sure you'd be able to find someone who's grown up and actually WANTS to care for and help raise some wonderful kids with you. Is he the type you could sit down with and talk to about this all? As adults? I'd give him the chance to step up, but if he doesn't want to play, send him away. You'll be better off in the long run. Since he's not working, financially he is more of a burden as well. Cutting him loose would actually help you out financially as well.
i may have to agree. you already have two kids youre gonna have to raise, why do you want to have to take care of a third (meaning your man). im all about givin people chances and letting them find themselves, but bro is a pappa so he needs a job, or a real good plan, or a trust fund, or something.
This is why abortion should be legal. So people can't be fuckups and responsible people don't have to pay taxes to raise your kids.
You can't fix him. Only through his own efforts can he can become responsible and dependable. You have to ask yourself if he (the way he is now) is good for you and your children. If his presence is making things harder, then he needs to go. Are you dependant on his money? (Dumb question; he doesn't work, the budget will be easier with him gone.) Remember to change the locks.
Fuckups should not have the ability to reproduce. I would support taxpayer paid sterilization operations for fuckups...
Wait a second.... you are saying that a 19 yr old male (male, not man) isn't being responsible? What are the chances of that!! Of course he isn't being your ideal mate... he is 19. Of course he isn't being a great dad.. he is 19! He isn't ready for the kind of life you two have started... emotionally, mentally or socially. Cut him loose. Once he's grown up, maybe he will be able to be a father for you children... maybe.
