sorry if i have posted this before, it's been a while since i've been on and cant find my old posts. basically, i'm finding it hard to be myself around the people i work with and also my friends. The main problem is that I don't feel that I can openly discuss my sexuality with these people. Alot of my friends, my good friends, are homophobic to a certain degree. Some don't mind it, as long as its not flaunted in front of them, some have never really been around gay or bi people to make a decision, and some simply just dont like it. and its the same with my work colleagues. I'm not one for making people uncomfortable, so normally once i've found out how someone feels about the subject, i clam up and never discuss it again. Its been like this for 5 years (since i realised is was bi) for my friends and 2 years for the people i work with. I would really love to be able to talk about guys in the way that my straight friends and workmates talk about women. I'm not ashamed of it, and never have been, but whenever i make an attempt, even if in jest, everyone goes quiet and its really awkward. I'm quite happy to discuss women with them too, and they have no problem with this, but it does sorta kill me that i can't discuss a very real part of my life. I can only truly be myself with 2 of my good friends, and absolute strangers. Its starting to get to me. Any advice?
Welcome to being gay. I had this problem too, but once I came out to my friends, I discuss it now, whether they like it or not, and they are still chill with me. I can't do it at my job though, that is a whole other story. If you do want to talk about guys though, maybe try making some girl friends. That way you both can share similar interests lol
My thoughts exactly. I mean it is understandable that they wouldn't 'get' it, being strait. I mean, as extreme as it sounds, say someone tells you they find your pet dog attractive- something you (assuming ) are not into- you just wouldn't know where to start response wise. It may seem a little repressive, but that's just the way it seems to work. I mean, it's a free country, keep doing it if that's how you feel you should be expressing yourself. If caring friends are what you have, they will warm to the idea and hopefully accept your comment. But unless with girls are a gay guy, don't expect anyone to agree with you. But then 1 in 10 people are said to be gay, so you never know
You need gay friends to be able to discuss your gay life. Most straight guys are neither intrested nor do they care. So, work pals are good for talking work. Gay guys are good for talking the gay matters.
