Faking it??

Does anyone or has anyone done this? I don't really understand why you would fake an orgasm. After I have sex with my honey if he asks me if I "got there" I'll say yes if I did, and if I didn't I'll say no. Hey, he can always try again next time. I guess it could be different if you're with someone that you're not that comfortable with or don't know too well, but I wouldn't be having sex in a situation like that in the first place - thats just me. Any thoughts on this?

 

I've done this before. Usually the only times I've done it is when hubby is determined to "get me there" and I know I'm not gettin' anywhere no matter what. If I tell him it isn't gonna happen he gets disappointed and sometimes he seems to think it's his fault (sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't), either way it's sort of a blow to his ego even though I don't think it should be. When I sensed he was in that frame of mind, I faked it just to get it over with already. Sometimes when you can't go, sex becomes boring and long and drawn out and even tedious!

Edit: Just wanted to say that I haven't really "faked it" in a couple of years, though. I am working on being an honest person in the sexual area, so for a while I've been honest about when I'm just not gonna be able to go.

 

hahaha i know exactly what u mean... i hate when its like can we please just get this over with already?! lol

 

I used to fake it sometimes with my ex husband, just to have him hurry up and get the hell off of me. But toward the end of our marriage, I didn't even bother, and I'd snuff and snort and tell him to hurry the fuck up.

I have times now when my bf will wanna do something and I am just not in the mood.....I've learned that a good old fashioned BJ will usually keep him from wanting it so bad. What man is going to argue with a chick about her orgasm when his manhood is in her mouth?

 

Nah, I never fake it. If I don't come, I don't come, not the end of the world. It's not like we will never have sex again.

I know that drawn out, boring thing. I just say "I isn't going to happen for me, just finish up, so we can go to sleep. (or go to work or whatever.") Bear and I have been getting it on for 25 years, so we can say about anything to each other.

I usually beat him to it, though....LOL

 

No, I never fake it. If I get off, I get off...if I don't, I don't. If I really need to, I'll just get myself off while my boyfriend watches me and relaxes. It doesn't bother me...

 

yeah.. i have this thing about having an orgasm.. i cant! the guys are always bad or keep on complaining that it takes too long... i have no problems getting off myself though.

 

Please dont think I'm being condescending, I'm not aiming to be...

Nisha, youre still young, I didnt have my first orgasam with a guy till I was 16 and a half, and many of my friends much older, and it wasnt till I was with a guy for quite sometime that it happened, and even then, not all the time. I think as you get older, and not all that much, cos I'm only 19, sex gets much better, cos you get better at willing your way to cumming, and guys seem to get better at it. I think i have only ever cum once by pure pysical stimulation, so I usually have to close my eyes and imagine a plethora of sexy images all at once before anything happens.

Plus, older guys are usually better in the sack than younger ones, though this is not a rule.

 

Personally, I'd like to know why guys always ask "have you cum yet?" or "did you cum"

I hate being asked that!

 

One of two things

1. They really care.
2. They want to assure themselves they are doing it right.

 

Actually once I had a guy ask me in a *very* uncaring sorta way "alright, did ya nut yet?" So of course I said yes and of course I lied to get him the fuck off of me. ewwww...I hate that I slept with that guy.....I hated it as soon as he said that too.

 

I think that most guys don't really know what the heck they're doing when it comes to satisfying a woman sexually (--athough they might think they do). If guys really knew what they were doing, there'd be less need for faked orgasms. Also, I can't understand why a guy would complain that it takes too long. Either he should learn to do it better, or put in however much time it takes in order to please his partner, or both.

 

One thing I don't really understand is...wouldn't a guy know if his girl didn't cum? I mean, when you have an orgasm, your muscles really contract down there, right? A guy should be able to feel that. So I don't know...it's kinda silly to lie about it. Or...the guy is just a dumb fuck who doesn't know what a girl orgasming feels like...I don't know...lol.

 

NO WAY! I love Jer, and there is no reason to lie to him about stuff like that. Usually, if I can't cum from sex he will go down on me anyway, because he loves to make me cum. If I just don't feel like it, but I know he wants to get off, I just go with the flow and tell him to cum because I don't want to tonight. Like Maggie said, I'll have sex with him again, probably better next time because I will have some pent up energy there.


I have lied before, to people that I didn't care about. But in all honestly I shouldn't have been having sex with people I didn't care about anyway, because they didn't care about me enough to find out if I came or not.

 

My last girlfriend I could only really tell when she was on top. She enjoyed it more with me being on top and said she came more and easier, but for some reason it was more difficult to feel her muscles contracting in orgasm while I was on top. Admittedly I often wanted her to be on top, so I could feel her getting off, simply turned me on more.

 

I've never faked orgasm. I've never felt the need.
My current boyfriend(and first "real" one) is the only guy that I've ever been with that's given me an orgasm. And it wasn't even during sex, it was with his fingers.
But that doesn't mean I don't love having sex with him. It's not about getting off for me, it's about being with him, and sharing my body with him and having him do the same. He just enjoys it a bit more.

 

Well... I haven't faked an orgasm in as long as I can remember... Maybe when I was 15 or so... Frankly, I don't see the point. My current boyfriend greatly appreciates this, since he never has to wonder whether my expressions (I get quite vocal) are sincere or faked. It just seems like, if the guy (assuming long-term) ever found out about a few faked orgasms, if he didn't realize at the time that they were fake, he would always wonder every time you have sex from then on... That's not good for the ego in the long run... If he can't understand that sometimes you're just not going to orgasm (wrong mood, wrong time of the month, etc.), he has a few things to learn.

I think it has more to do with becoming more comfortable with your body & your own sexuality. At least, that's the case in my own experience. As I became less concerned about whether I was doing things right & whether this or that or whatever was really normal, the easier it was to get off. And, when I became comfortable enuf to guide his hand to the right spot while he was fingering me & tell him how to rub that spot, it got much much easier for my bf to get me off!

 

I totally agree, it almost ruins any special mood I was in if a guy asks that, if he can't tell then he wasn't paying attention in the first place.

I've only faked it once, bad choice of guys and the sex only made me regret it so faking it ended it quicker.

 

yeah just as you want to go and cuddle and be couply the question comes.....its ok though...i warned my guy not to do it...ever.


i dunno i never faked one because i never had to but i kinda find orgasms...dull.
weird as it sounds but i really think they are kinda dull.

 

i've faked it a few times in the past, mainly due to me not being in the right mood or just not wanting to carry on...