So, I have only had sex about a dozen times at the most, and have only ever been with two different girls. It feels great, but I still am lacking a lot of experience to make it as great as it could be. One issue that I have been experiencing lately is losing my erection just before penetration. Like, my girlfriend and I will have a great forplay session that lasts about an hour, and during the whole time I'll be perfectly hard. But then, just as I slip a condom on, I start getting soft. In addition to that, since both of us are pretty inexperienced, there tends to be a lot of fumbling around as I try to find the right angle and all that. Before I know it, I'm completely limp and the whole thing is pretty much ruined. My first thought was that it was probably just a result of a lack of experience and confidance. But then I got freaked after thinking it could be due to a subconscious fear of sex or something. Was just wondering if anybody here ever had the same thing happen to them, or knew what could be the cause. Like I said, I have had sex successfully before, so I know that whatever it is, it's definitly not physical. Any thoughts?
I think you're thinking too much. The more you worry about it, the more likely this is to happen. You're way too young to have true ED, so I wouldn't even think those words. One thing you can do to take the pressure off of you is not to necessarily have intercourse every single time. Masturbate each other or have oral sex instead. Those things are lots of fun in themselves anyway, as I'm sure you already know. Also, you don't have to do foreplay for an hour. Once you're sure she's aroused and ready, go ahead. I'm not saying to hurry ... just that once she's ready for you, it's not necessary to continue the foreplay.
