Equallity in the bedroom?

I was wondering, well, When I go down on my girlfriend, i try to do my best to please her. I ask her things like "do you like this" or "how do you want me to lick you" etc etc. I let her posistion my head, and stuff like that. you kno, trying my best to please her how she likes it... but when it comes to me, it's like a 5 minute jerk fest trying to get me off. She rarely sucks, and when she does its LITERALLY for like 20 seconds, and just the tip in her mouth, no actualy tongue or mouth usage. I don't really think its all that fair. It makes me feel like she doesnt enjoy giving me sexual pleasure. When she does suck, she rips my penis from her mouth saying how bad precum tastes and spits and wipes her mouth. She usually puts my dick in her mouth for about 20 seconds before i cum, then takes it out. again spitting at the increased flow of precum. How i look at it is, wouldnt any of you, guys or girls, feel bad or awkward is right before you came, the guy jerked his head back and spit and commented on the aweful taste, then fingered your to climax, or for the girl to jerk her head from your cock, and do the same... it makes me feel pretty damn bad. I'm not a very sexual person, but still... comments? none of that you fucking loser shit ok. serious comments only.

 

I say, do on to others as they do to you...

 

COMMINCATION that is the key to any relationship. Tell her. Not why she is actually doing it, but some time when you two are talking about sex. It's not that hard to do. Just don't be an ass about it. It could hurt her feelings and she jsut wont do anything pierd.

 

why should he be considerate of her feelings, when she isnt of his?

 

I tell her all the time how i feel, as a matter of fact i just did.. alls that accomplished is now shes sad. but i know nothing will change from it.. this has seriously almost destroyed any urge or desire for sex.

 

why is she sad? but its okay to make you feel like your not worthy of a blow job, and make you feel crappy about that situation, but she's sad..
I dont understand people sometimes...

 

Maybe she just really really hates giving blowjobs, and is trying to do so to make you happy, and is failing at it? I mean, going down on a guy isn't for everyone. Personally I really enjoy it, but I certainly understand not enjoying it. Maybe if you guys employ a different method to get you off, such as toys?

I mean, if she's so revolted by giving bj's and precum that she's spitting and saying how gross it is, that's a pretty fucking huge hint that she isn't having fun doing it. Don't try to force her. It's just not the right activity for every couple.

 

Well that certainly doesn't sound fair to me. Love is a give an take thing, and that applies to every aspect of a relationship.

I'm shocked that your girlfriend would behave that way towards you. I wonder how she would feel if you ripped your head away from her and commented on how disgusting SHE tasted. I'd say to stop going out of your way to please her in the bedroom. Why bother if she's going to be that way with you? Sheesh!

Peace...

 

While I agree with this to an extent, does she really have to act the way she is? I mean, telling someone it's difficult to perform a particular sexual activity is one thing, but complaining and bitching about how "bad" he tastes? That seems pretty severe to me! There's got to be a better, less harsh way to handle the situation instead of spitting out part of him, right when he can see it, and making rude comments as well. I just don't agree with that, it seems cruel IMHO!

Huggles...

 

I am sorry dude but pre-cum does taste horrible so i empathize with her in that aspect. Maybe she doesn't like giving head or maybe she feels 'bad' as in like slutty when she doesn't. Trust me from past experience the more you pressure her about sex the more she's not going to want to do the things you bug her about. Being 'begged' for anything sexual is the biggest turn off in the world.

 

alright telling her she needs to give you head is not talking about your feelings adn I am sure that if your bugging her for blow jobs all the time that her desire for sex isn't so strong.

 

How exactly are you communicating this with her? That really effects things. It all boils down to your approach and how you express your feelings.

Peace...

 

It's not going to work out.

Dump her.
Get a new girl friend.
Let her get a new boy friend.

 

Do as I do and hold her by the back of the head and MAKE her enjoy atleast one healthy wad. Maybe this will make her see the light when it comes to blow jobs. Bitch simply needs a lesson.

 

There's another deeper problem.

"Equality in the bedroom"? Sure.

But someone has to be dominant. I love a girl who can be seductive, but even when she is, even when she has been the initiator, even when she has taken an active role at the outset, in the end the man has to become dominant.

Only one partner spreads.
Only one partner is "invaded" {entered if you prefer, but only one partner is.}
Even when the girl is on top, the two partners have gender based veiws of the situation.

She always thinks -- We're together now.
He always thinks -- I'm in her now.

 

Lynsey, actually i never beg her. on occasion ill hint around that im in a playful mood, but aside from that nothing of the sort happens. what i DO, is AFTER i go down on her, i use playful terms like "do i get a turn?" or "maybe youd like to play with me now?" stuff like that. not likeing precum is one thing, but to go out of your way to make me feel about as bad as u possibly can... and if she feels so bad or *slutty* ..well she doesnt object to me doing anyting and EVERYTHING she wants me to do.. so i cant say i agree with you.

 

Okay, this bothers me somewhat...
Just because he is a guy, you all think that he shouldnt pressure his girlfriend to give him a little action in the oral department..But I can guarantee that if it was a girl saying that exact thing but about herself, it would be different..
If she doesnt want to do it, then thats fine..but she doesnt have to say rude things to make him feel bad...she should just say it without insults and then be done with it..
Cause if I put myself in his situation, I would be upset too...

 

Haha right on, everyone is usually so biased about these matters, whether or not they're willing to admit it...

 

you can see the threads where girls say almost the same thing about their partner, he wont go down on me, he wont eat me out and such..
and the replies are like, he's missing out, why does he not like it, is he crazy, and all this other type of stuff..
But god forbid a guy cant get no oral action and the claws come out. People saying, dont make her do something she doesnt feel comfortable doing and communicate with her, be careful of her feelings and so forth..WTF??? am I missing something here, or is it just me

 

Suprising what passes for equality around these parts... Ah well...