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Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by FallenFairy, Sep 28, 2004.

  1. FallenFairy

    FallenFairy Senior Member

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    ok heres the thing. when ever i want to attack my guy ( meaning kissing, any sexual contact) i get too embarassed and scared. so i never really do annything to turn him on unless he asks. or he starts to kiss me. so how can i get over this fear and embarassment???

    thanx
     
    FallenFairy, Sep 28, 2004
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  3. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

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    Being kissed > kissing. I've been out with guys who always waited for you to kiss them and you just felt like you were doing too much and felt really self-conscious (never good in these moments). It's probably not ideal, but "fingers hooked over the waistband, pull him in" method seems to work rather well on most guys. I have the Dismemberment Plan to thank for that idea.
     
    SelfControl, Sep 28, 2004
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  5. madbeast

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    idk love, im sorry :( just remind urself how great ur guy is and that he needs to b shown it...just go for it, there really isnt anything u can do to get over it besides just DOING it...
     
    madbeast, Oct 7, 2004
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  7. lawngirl

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    are there any reasons you don't feel secure pouncing on him (like lack of trust, or lack of self-confidence)?

    has this been a consistant pattern through past relationships, or has it just recently developed?

    how long have you been together? do you feel secure with the relationship in general?
     
    lawngirl, Oct 7, 2004
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  9. Lunatic_Fireball

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    Aww, I'm really sorry that you feel like that. When trying anything you have to remeber you are with them because they love you and you love them. And no matter what, anything you do will be right for him...anything. That is the nice thing about a relationship, there really isn't anything to be embarrassed about. Just relax and let everything flow naturally and you'll both enjoy it and not have a lot of fear.
     
    Lunatic_Fireball, Oct 7, 2004
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  11. FallenFairy

    FallenFairy Senior Member

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    my fiance and i have noticed my lack of self confidenc. i have a bad self image. we have been together for ten months but we have known eachother for a year in a half.
     
    FallenFairy, Oct 7, 2004
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  13. lynsey

    lynsey Banned

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    I have the same problem. I will hop on a guy in his sleep and will be on top no problem when he is half asleep but when I know he is fully paying attention to me and not out of it I have a really hard time being sexually assertive.
     
    lynsey, Oct 7, 2004
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  15. MirakulouslyDead

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    ice up & see how it goes......he'd be in for a hella time :p

    nah, dont take my advice....actually i dont have any, im out .... man, i wish i had some crystalz 2night
     
    MirakulouslyDead, Oct 7, 2004
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