Dumbass...

I swear I just don't know how much more of guy stuff I can take.

It seems like guys fall into 2 catagories. The ones who are pathetic and wimps and they just agree with you and apologize all the time no matter how they feel. Then one day they blow up like a damn volcano.

Then there's the guys who can't agree or apoplogize ever because it damages their stupid male ego.

Why can't guys stick up for themselves when it matters, and apologize when they fuck up?

ah, the rantings of a monday morning

 

did something happen?

i just usually beat my men

 

I've just had an awful weekend and the ol' man ain't helping much

see the positive mental attitude forum for details....

 

I think I am what you described...I standup for myself and I am confident but when I do something wrong, I apologize, mean it, try and fix it and try to improve. But I guess thats not what you wanted to hear. Oh well.

 

actually it IS nice to hear there are guys like you out there

maybe YOU should be my valentine!!
hee hee

I guess I'm just having an awful day

 

Don't worry, I'm having a (relatively) awful day too. Valentine's Day and I don't have a healthy history, though I think most people can second that.

 

group hug for all the miserable people today!!

 

yep, seems like most men are either wimps, assholes, or else currently taken (and those ones are rare). I usually end up dating the wimps, which drives me crazy.. I do not want to be the pants in the relationship! And they can never make up their mind (ie for a date activity).... men are just too much work 99% of the time

 

i really agree - they just dont say what they mean, do what they think they should, and always end up doing either or both at the wrong place and the wrong time. maybe i jus value emocions too much, but honestly, is honesty too mcuh to ask?
dont apologize if you dont mean it and dont blow up at something when you have no idea what your talking about cuz that jus sounds dumb in the 1st place
its weird im replying to this, ive never really had a bf, but maybe this is why i havent taken anythign futher....whatever

 

thats why i dont date guys anymore. i dont want to waste my time.

 

My question is; if you're unhappy, why do you stay? Being able to figure out that a relationship isn't going to work is a good part of what dating is all about, imo.

 

I never said anything about being unhappy.

I said I was pissed.

You never get pissed?

we "work" just fine. Just a few bumps in the road.

don't make a mountain out of a molehill- I don't like that either

 

uh, yeah...

 

Sorry, I should have been more clear. I was just generally commenting to most the people in this thread that were posting in such a vehement fashion about the guys they've dated. I know nothing of your personal situation and typically try and avoid giving specific advice to anyone about whose entire situation I don't know.

I'll answer your question, though. I get pissed alright, but usually only about things that make me quite unhappy; about things that I'm just not going to tolerate in a partner. I don't get pissed about much other than that, being as I'm quite a laid back individual.

When I do get pissed, though, I talk with the person I'm with and figure out how we go from there. Usually the things that truly piss me off are big enough deals that I'm gone instantly. ie: cheating. But the little things, like the simple arguments that escalate, I'm really good at working those out, at coming up with ways to communicate effectively. However, if it happens repeatedly, as in no progression is being made, I'm gone. It gets complicated when progression is being made but there is a "slip up".

 

well, aren't you just the perfect partner. hee hee sorry I just have a nasty streak in me today.

with young relationships (or mature relationships with young people) escalated arguements are quite natural, as we haven't fully matured yet. we're dealing with it. We just get on each others nerves sometimes. My boyfriend does both of the problems I stated sometimes. It's annoying. when he grows up a bit more it won't happen as often and when I grow up a bit more, I'll be able to brush it off easier. When I wrote that this morning, it was the center of the universe right then. Sue me.

Anyway, I get your point. I am happy in my relationship but he grates on my nerves a lot. I just had to complian.

 

I’m definitely not the perfect partner. I don’t look like Brad Pitt and I also want nothing to do with a relationship for the time being, as my last girlfriend was like a movie with a vital piece of information missing and her plot twisted right at the end. Karma has balanced itself out recently, at least.



Anyways, I wish you and your guy the best of luck going forward. And again, I should know better than to post on a Monday morning before I’ve had my required two cups of coffee.

 

A lot of women have this invisible set of scales they use to rate men:

If the scale tilts one way---you're an asshole.
If ti tips the other way---you're a wimp.

(and there doesn't seem to be a third option)

the only way to keep the scale in perfect balance is to leave.
Then she's got nothing to weigh and she starts rating herself.

 

yeah... boys can be buttfaces

 

I've said it before so many times in this forum:


MEN ARE COWARDS!!!

The wimps are cowards because they are scared they are doing wrong.
The ego-trippers are cowards because they use their ego to hide behind.

I do my f'ing best to fall into neither of these catagories.

I guess my goal being music I've been preparing myself for what challenges may come along and I can't afford to be the former. However I can't imagine myself as the latter.

Blessings

Sebbi

 

Oh please do Kayla! Make it hurt so good!