Does marriage mean sex is boring??

I have been married about 1 1/2 years now and still have sex a lot with my husband. I am not a really freaky person in the bedroom, more passionate I guess. I talk to friends and neighbors and they make it seem like it is neccessary to have toys and involve other people and that if you don't do these things than sex becomes boring and eventually will cause problems. Is it possible to have a healthy sex life with your spouse without involving all the extras. I mean just be happy just the two of us. Like Kama Sutra and all. I am not into sharing my husband nor is he into sharing me with others for sexual reasons. Just curious to know if some of you out there have experience in keeping sex good without involving all the extras...thanks

 

I wish there were more people out there with an attitude like yours. When I was married, all we needed was each other. We didn't need toys or any of that crap. I think that toys can be fun once in a while, but for me, I never got bored with what we could come up with ourselves. I would never share my partner or be shared either. What is the point of being in a "marriage" if you are going to fuck other people? That is just my opinion, and I feel others can do whatever turns them on, so to speak...I just don't want to hear about it.

I think you are totally normal, and if you can keep the flames going by just being with each other, then that is awesome. It can be done. As long as you work at it, a marriage can be so satisfying, even without adding any "extras".

 

I'm a virgin, so I'm sorry that I'm really no help at all. I think you answered your own question. From the way it sounds, you and your hubby both sound happy with the way things are going. Why would you need more than that?

 

Everyone's different. If sex toys and sharing works for your friends, then it works for them. I am with you, though. My husband and I don't need all that stuff either...and our sex life is anything but boring.

 

Obviously, if you're happy with what's happening, why knock it? Alternatively, if you want to try something out (toy, new position, interesting location) why not? If it's fun, you might as well.

I've been married for three years and with my wife for five. Occasionally things get a little boring, but then we figure something a little different to do and it's all fun again. Why the philosophical objection to toys? I can easily understand the objection to sharing with other people, which I have not done.

 

No sex toys here, or other people either. But you need to be passionate and inventive and romantic to keep sex fresh over the decades. If, after more than 18 months and more like my 18 years you find things have gone stale, maybe some toys may help.

18 months isn't long, keep an open mind.

 

I'm not sure what "toys" we are talking about, and some I might consider a little bit wierd.

But sexy clothes are not weird.
Interesting locations or positions --- not weird.
an occasional mirror -- not weird.
Those things are fun. And any guy would agree.

 

ooooh a mirror...I like that. Thanks I am normal!