Do you believe in "the one"?

Is there one love for everyone or is it bulshit? Is there a destiny waiting for everyone or are you just lucky if you find someone you don't hate?

 

well i already had the one ....and that was fun for a few years but nothing lasts forever .....ive also had another one that i grew to absolutely despise ....and as long as you dont have to fake not hating someone ,and its not halfhearted sex ....your moving forward ...and fate deals surprise hands eventualy!

 

I believe in the prophesy of The One, but only because I choose to believe.

 

i definately believe that...my prince charming should be getting here any day now...

 

I certainly believe in the one and I happened to be pissed at her at the moment. If she knew what's good for her, she'd hurry up and meet me already.

 

maybe she got lost...

 

nope . . . . . . .

 

Its probably more likely that I got lost and can't find her knowing my ways.

 

with every fiber of my being!

 

i do not......

 

Their are a few 'maybes' and a few 'if onlys' ...there is always 'the one' ..

I hear what your sayin dhs....

 

you know, to be quite honest i don't know what i believe about love anymore. i've had 2 marriages, and both were supposed to be forever.

i think that, in general, a lot of people have hangups about what love is "supposed" to be, and lots of times these expectations get in the way of actual loving. people have all the romanticized, idealistic notions about what "true love" is, and often they're not realistic about it. love feels good & sex is wonderful but it's never going to be the fantasy most people think they're looking for, because love is not something that you find, it is a process that involves the participation of human beings.

there are what i consider to be "skilled emotions", that is they are emotions that need to be actively practiced, otherwise they atrophy instead of growing. courage, peace, love - and on the other side of the coin, fear and anger...these are the skilled emotions. we often say "i'm in love" or "i've found love" or "i have love", but seldom do we hear anyone say "i'm doing love" or "i'm creating love". we hear people talking about "making love", but usually they're just referring to sex. having sex with someone will stir up the emotions, but it won't create love. people have been confusing the two for as long as we have been human.

 

thats correct a good interaction with someone isnt a fet acomplis just cause they are the one that was ...perfect... for u ,,,you cant put no effort into something just cause it started out with favorable circumstances oversight care and mantainance are needed to keep almost anything going good or improving ...

 

I have doubts that there is "The One".


But, I think if you meet someone special with commitment and hard work they can become "The One".

 

Yeah I do...

 

all this business about "the One" sounds vaguely sinister in a tolkien-ish sort of way...(glances down at finger recently freed of handfasting band) "One Ring to rule them all, One Ring to find them, One Ring to bring them all, and in the darkness bind them..." *shudder*

but if one of you changes, or you hit a communication barrier, or the love stops growing and stagnates, are they still "the one"? what if the commitment to the relationship turns into beating a dead horse?

i'd really like to believe that there is "the One" out there waiting for me somewhere, to share my values and goals and dreams. but the truth of the matter is that prince charming is probably just as flawed and screwed up as me, because he would be just as human as me, too. the expectation of "One True Love" sets up unrealistic and often unattainable expectations, it implies something unchanging and inflexible and therefore, not growing. i want to believe that i can find a soul mate, life partner, travelling companion...that will last me the rest of my time on this neurotic chunk of rock we like to think of as home. i can't tell you how much i want it. but i also accept the reality that all we have to work with are other flawed human beings, there's no such thing as "when i'm ready", the future hasn't happened yet, and people will do anything they can to get in the way of their own happiness. myself included.

 

the paradox about the one is that it is a thing of the now ....it can last a day or decades . because its undeniable doesnt say how long it will last . and its durration does not measure its profundaty or significance. one cant control the frequency or durration of things .that exist .one can not bottle up magic or streach it out like playdoe ........i was with someone that became binary and polyploidaly bliss creating ....and we spent 24 /7 doin all k8nds of good shit and quasi amicably went our ways wit lots of good ... its a thing of now and is destroyed by compression and one doesnt mean it has to happen one time only or at all ...ya just neva know ...try and see what happens without preconcieved artuficial paradigms or expectationg ......and magic can reify

 

I totally agree on this

 

I think that "the one" is a quality we bestow unto those we meet that we could see being with forever. I have had several relationships which I thought were the one, and here I am single again, and pretty tired of getting jerked around by females in general for a while. It seems that some people never find the one per se, but they do start a relationship with someone and then get comfortable with that particular person. My ex had a very long, but rocky relationship with a guy during her senior year and two years after high school. He cheated on her, treated her badly, threatened the girl and her mother, and then threatened to kill himself if she left. They were together about 3 years, then apart for about a year. I met her then and we hit it off great, we were practically living together in 3 months. I did everything I knew for her, treated her right, took care of everything for her, and even gave her space and shit. We had spells of real closeness, then we would take a break for a couple days, so we could have fun with other people, but stayed exclusive. Two weeks before it ended, exactly 4 months into it, she asked me to promise me to marry her if if I had any idea of wanting to someday. So I did, and we got rings and all, but agreed we would wait until we were both out of school and firm in our lives to get married. Two weeks later, she ended it, saying she was scared of how fast we moved close together and that it wrong. She claimed she needed more space and time to be away from me. So I said okay. Two days later, we were exchanging shit back, she had almost totally gotten over it already. She said she still loved me but wanted to be best friends. The next day, I foud out her ex had stayed the night she called it off with me, and they are back "in love". She claims that "he's the one". I had everything that girl needed and wanted in a life and husband, and she still has the same for me, except she's not showing it to me anymore. She was the one for me for sure, and still may be some day, but for now, I am going to look for another "one" because I am ready to grow up and have a fun but adult relationship and she isn't. I am redy for life to move on. She is trying to dig up a rotten past and cut the bad parts out of it to sculpt her "the one" from a stale, lifeless, controlling bum.

 

you cant force anything into existance cause you think you know how it should be ...you may experience different perceptions of what exists , but love is undeniable and we dont shape the universe ....nor do we exist apart from existance everything is everywhereand one .....we are here to feel the part that is ourselves in integration with all ..the whole ,.....realy cool stuff can happen in life!!!!!!