Do you believe in casual sex?? Does sex mean nothing??

I don't believe that sex should ever be casual.

Here is my personal definition of "casual sex".

Sex without feelings, planning to have sex with a certain person over and over when you are not in any type of relationship, sex with multiple people in a short amount of time, sex with a friend for fun.

Tonight, my friends and I went to a party.

It turned out that her and her friend were planning to have sex with two guys.

Friend A's brother was going to have sex with friend B and friend A was going to have sex with her brothers friend.

In the same area.

Now, am I the only one who sees that as incredibly fucked up?

And also, am I close minded for believing that at 15-19 year olds shouldn't have such vivid sex lives?

I am all for sex before marriage.

But I don't think it should be so consistent when you are so young.

Maybe because I am a virgin, I'm lonley and I'm lame I do not understand what sex is all about.

I don't want to be so disgusted and bitter because of my friends doing these things..

Am I alone?

 

everyones different. i like me a girl that i can fuck after a couple of hours meeting

 

Perhaps it is people like you that give me such a complex about casual sex.

Thank though.

 

I don't believe in casual sex..

 

youre a virgin. you have a lot to learn. the end

 

I am 15.

 

Hmm, I often think that having sex with someone just to be doing so (not someone I've just met) would be really fun.. The idea of a fuck buddy sounds pretty interesting sometimes, but I've grown up enough to know that (for me) some things aren't worth it.. Too many problems *can* arise and I don't want to deal with it.. I have no problem with ppl that are into casual sex, but at the moment it isn't for me..

 

I'm a bi guy, and I've gone with both sexes though more with guys. From what I've seen, guys mostly like to do it and get it over with, though sometimes a relationship will get started that way. That just seems to be the way that guys are wired, gay or straight. I do however detest guys who are selfish assholes in bed, especially straight but "curious" guys who are cheating on their wives as well. (This is surprisingly common in my experience!)

With women, I've found that they like to get to know me first, and I have no problem with that. It seems that women are wired more for relationships, and that's understandable since women have more to lose. I am of course very open with women about the fact that I also like guys. In fact I usually present myself as strictly gay until I get to know them better myself. If nothing else it takes the sexual pressure off, and it allows us to become decent friends first. That doesn't usually work with guy-on-guy relationships, if you don't have sex right away then you probably won't have it at all.

Interestingly, once they get to know me better, some women get very intrigued about what I may actually be able to do for them. It seems that bi guys are perceived as better lovers than straight ones. I really can't say whether there is any merit in that argument, but I do know that a gay or bi guy who's rotten in bed tends to wear out his welcome in gay circles pretty fast.

This differences in wiring and in lovemaking abilities, and the resulting attitudes toward casual sex, might be an interesting point of discussion and it's certainly in line with this thread. People with significant bisexual experience may have some of the most interesting observations as they have personally seen both sides.

 

I think casual sex is alright if done in moderation, with the right person, and both people know that it is just casual sex. Come on, everyone has some sexual tension that needs to be satisfied every now and then.

 

It is OK as long as both partners understands thats what it is. When one person thinks its casual and the other doesn't thats when you have problems. Sex isn't a game but can be fun with a fuck buddy as long as both of ya know thats all it is!!! I had a fuck buddy for about 5 years that all we did was have sex and that was it. We got together, drank a bit fucked all night and that was the lot. No strings we both knew it and that was that. SO if both of us where single (and a couple times when we wheren't) we would get together for a great fuck session!!!!!! SWEET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

edit: to go with the other thread he was 9 years younger then me too!!!!

 

Casual sex is actually good if you have that 'sexual chemistry', go for it.

 

its a personal thing.

I know i cant do casual sex, it takes to much of me and it cant just mean anything.

but thats me, i know loads of guys who do it without a care, but the ones who do it the most are also the ones with the biggest issues.

and heck, if you have built up sexual tension, just use your hard

i dont like the idea of younger women being used by guys doing it for an ego trip, i think if more women were taught that they could get sexual pleasure from themselves without needing to be some drop kicks score, then maybe so many wouldnt end up getting hurt and regreting it.

but if both parties know the setup and are cool with it, well its a free world and all that

lol, when did i get so old

 

It is a free world but I still find it terribly degrading to just fuck with no meaning behind it.

I don't know why I feel the way I do.

Some people say I have morals and some assholes say its because I am a virgin.

I hope that when I actually do have sex I have enough self respect to not waste it away on lust.

It's not like I want it to be magical.

I just want to be able to remember the times I have sex and be happy about them.

Sex is something I never want to regret.

But to each their own.

I just wish that I could be like most people and just not care.

 

But why would you want to not care..?

 

I myself do not believe in that. I think that sex should be done with couples who truly love each other and in doing so actually shows your partner that you won't just have sex with any person you meet.
And any one who says being a virgin is "uncool" or stupid is wrong.

 

I had a sex buddy for a couple of years and we had an agreenment that if we wereto start dating someone we wouldn't sleep with each other, no feelings hurt or anything like that, just sex. I see nothing wrong with it. At least your not sleeping around with a ton of people. we also knew about each other partners before we started doing it.

 

Sometimes casual sex is just what's in order. For instance... I kinda got started rollin' rollin' rollin' on some beautiful ecstasy and I happened to have casual sex all over again with a cute little 16 year old guy whom was rolling with me! Wanna hear something funny in addition to that? I had casual sex with him the week before we rolled together also! The sex was sooo good!

 

the first few times I had sex was pretty casual. Nowadays, I tend to want to be able to connect with someone mentally before I jump into bed with 'em and connect physically.

 

Wow.

Ok.

..........

 

I'm not into casual sex. I'm not against it,but it's just not my thing. There are too many complications it seems.