Do girls ask guys out very often?

This is a question to girls and guys, but mainly for the ladies of the board. I'm just wondering, do girls in your experience, ask a guy out? The reason I'm wondering this is because I'm quite a shy guy, I'm only 18 still too...

In my experience, only one girl has ever approached me, and I'm too shy to approach girls... this leaves me in quite a shitty place as in my experience girls don't ask the guy out, no matter how much they like them! I get asked all the time by my mom and sister etc, "Found a girl yet?"

Which is pretty damn embarassing haha, because girls have told me that I'm attractive, and my friends seem to think so too, so I don't really have any reservations about asking out a girl because of how attractive they are, it's more that I'm much to shy to do it . I'm not being vain/arrogant, but looks aren't my problem, it's just the damn shy/nervousness.

Now where was I? Oh yeah, in your experience, do girls ask the guy out...ever?

I know I might get mixed answers, mainly because no one here is from the same country as me (well a few people are I think), different culture etc will be a factor, but I'm still interested in your views =)

Bye!

 

You keep talking about attractiveness, but you do know there's a lot more involved in a good relationship right? Similar interests, ability to converse, etc. etc.

I asked out my first bf, after weeks of flirting and us both being too shy. But, that's the only guy I've ever asked out.

Realistically, most women expect men to ask them out. We're simply used to being pursued, not the pursuer. If you find someone you like (and please for the love of jebus have it based off of more than just aesthetics, those are things genetics blessed you with but intelligence or wisdom are a lot more importan tin the long run.... looks fade) then it'll probably be up to you to ask them out.

 

Last time I checked, I wasn't stupid either, so yes I know you need those things too. I just mentioned looks because the initial look is very important, that's all =)

 

sound like a confidence issue to me.

 

haha have you ever actually dated somebody for their wisdom?

 

Funny thing here, all the girls besdies 1 I've gone out with have asked me out, but most of them were because I held back from asking them, just to see if they would ask me The only 1 girl I ever asked out said yes, and she wanted to sleep with me way too soon, so I was out of there pretty quickly. I mean I didnt even know her, but she was bangin as hell so I thought WTF you only live once and approached her. But I dont sleep with girls when there is no established relationship, since I dispense eternal semen that spawns demons haha just kidding my son is an angel

 

uhhh.......what?! who does such things? :cheers: :love: now THAT's how it's done

 

I didn't call you stupid, I was just saying that you only talked about attractiveness and that a lot more goes into a functioning relationship. *shrugs*

Just for their wisdom? Naw. But have I chosen to not date attractive people because we had no emotional or intellectual connection? Absolutely. I suppose if I were just looking for a good fucking then it wouldn't matter, but I wanted a real relationship then there has to be more than just eyecandy.

 

Amen! except for the fucking for a good fuck part, no offense but I dont believe in such things

 

nor do I, it's more of a theoretical construct than anything (sort of a just in case, because I feel like at any moment my hormones may overload and I'll start humping the nearest attractive person )

 

i'm hardly asked out. i almost always do the asking out

 

girls tend to give subtle hints that they are interested in someone, rather than being all in your face about it. The guys who miss those hints are the ones who are always alone. Yes, girls ask guys out all the time, but they usually do it differently than guys do, and many guys are just ignorant of it. The guys who have lots of dates are the ones who imagine all women are attracted to them, and aren't afraid of approaching them, and aren't afraid of rejection because there's always someone else who might say yes.

 

The guy is 18... If you like Barbie Dolls, than the answer is, they won't approach you for shit. If you're lucky enough to like girls who aren't magazine covers and who'll act deliberately and not like they were told "they are supposed to" than you stand a better chance.

From here on out, work on being genuine, and do not attempt to control that which you can't. Rejection isn't up to the us, we all have to reconcile ourselves to that possibility. But the above poster is correct in that if you learn how to read signs, you'll be rejected less often.

Just make sure you learn how to distinguish genuine interest from cock-teasing. Cockteasers are much easier to come by, but they'll never have anything to offer you. It's all about their own little egos.

Barbiedolls/cockteasers vs. genuine women ---- LEARN to distinguish...

 

good call fexurbis. dont put the pussy on a pedestal...

 

Raul - I have been to New Zealand, and I don't think Kiwi guys and girls are that different than those here in California. Girls here do ask guys out (and may get the same rejections guys sometimes do), but rejections come with the territory. Expect them, but sometimes you might be surprised.

The internet is a great way to establish a relationship with a girl - you get to know more about her insides before you even see her outsides.

Kids here also hang out a lot in groups, which is not a date as such, but can lead to pairing up and then a date. Go for it.

 

Cool.

 

girls do ask guys out. unfortunately they all ask the same 10 or 12 guys.

 

I only ask a guy out if I'm pretty positive rejection isn't a factor (of course, this is something that never can be assured, but hey). I think if you supplied an adequate amount of hints that you do like a certain girl, and she's not incredibly shy/traditional, then the chances would increase in her asking you out.

So, it does happen. Don't feel bad, I get the shy/nervousness thing too (pretty bad I may add). I usually lose about 50 IQ points when I'm around someone I like and tend to act incredibly stupid. If you really think about it, many are shy around the opposite sex, so maybe take that into consideration and use that to up your confidence a bit because you're not the only one.

Peace =)

 

Plain and simple, every guy goes through this at some point. As soon as you quit putting the pussy on a pedestal, and talk to them just the way you would a good buddy, and be direct and to the point, it will all seem easy, because it really is.

Practice makes perfect, expect to stumble over yourself a few times and feel awkward. But once you get your confidence, it will come naturally.

 

There is always someone else who WILL say yes, no might about it.

Learning to pay attention to body language is very important too. There is a certain look in a woman's eyes when they are interested and attracted to you. And certain gestures, once you know what to look for its pretty easy to find.