Is it just my raging selfishness and jealousy, or is it really messed up when the person you're going out with refuses to learn to dance with you, regrets not going to prom with you(twice), refuses to go to dance lessons with you, and then is not only invited to a dance event by another guy (whom she had a crush on before me), but also offered private dance lessons for four hours before the dance...and who tried to teach her before and she hated it so much that she refused to try it again, and yet she totally agrees without a hitch... ...and don't get me wrong...after telling me that she'd be doing these lessons with the snake, she then told me that she'd "like it" if I would go to the dance with her... ...and she already knows that I hate this guy(who I've known longer than she has) because he's a disgusting womanizer who loves to show off his sex books and even attempted to make her orgasm by whispering sweet nothings into her ears and rubbing her arms and lats and back(which I completely forgave her, but not him, of, and which she thought was "excusable" because she was thinking of me the whole time) when I was going out with her but wasn't present(he invited her to a concert and they travelled via limo)...anyway... ...am I right that this is messed up or do I just totally need to chill out and let the woman I trust go off with the man I trust second to least?
It sounds like you have better intentions than she does.. I'd go into self preservation mode at this time.
i probably would freak out too...is there any way you could tell her how you feel and why you feel that way without her getting on the defense?
First...I'd just like to mention that she's not going to run off with this guy and start having sex or something(hell...the guy's an attractive 22 year old virgin...that's why he's got all those books about sex..he's clueless and desparate and she and I both find it funny) however...he does have a tendancy to "lewer" her and many other women into his strange sexual experiments... and I honestly don't want her alone with this person who calls himself a man... . second...I have talked to her about it...she seems to think that because I don't want her alone with this guy, it means that I don't ever want her to go anywhere without me...when in fact, what I'd really like is if she'd just bring me along whenever she went out dating her former crushes and boyfriends...I told her that as well, and her response is that she wears different masks for different friends...she used to tell me that I was able to see through all her masks...the truth is apparently that I'm just not allowed to see them at all. and yes...he's been her friend for over a year now...while she's been telling me that I'm her _best_ friend for over four years... you know...it's almost like she's ashamed of me...like she can't have me around her other friends...especially around her past boyfriends because I might intrude on their conversation...but if she's having conversations with them that she can't have with me around, then she's obviously not in the right place... since she tells me "everything"... ok...problem solved...I gave him an etiquette lesson on how you don't ask friends girlfriends on dates and how you don't mess with a guy's girlfriend if he can kick your ass(even if he won't because you're not worth it)...and how...so yeah...basically I asked him if he knew of any dances that'd be going on...then I asked him if he'd like to instruct the two of us in preparation for the dance...then I asked him not to mention anything else to her before I do...(meaning "don't ask my girlfriend out on dates" _and_ don't tell her that I want to take her to this dance because I want to make a big show of it and be all corny and give her a flower and show up in a suit and ask her then).
aww...the corny thing is good....my boyfriend does the some thing about not wanting me around certain friends and it really pisses me off too. these certain friends are normally of the female gender too.
