Depressing, Psychic Elder Brother and friendless me...

Hi,

I am 24 year old guy and I am working as a software programmer in a software firm. I was born to a orthodox parents who always insisted in good moral values.
I have a brother who was 8 years elder to me. And it so happened that my brother was beaten up by my dad for any mistake that he did in his childhood days and when I was born I was not beaten up like what he used to get.

This actually got deep in to my brother's brain that only he was tortured and I was a happy bird in the family. Ever since my childhood began my brother beat me for no reason and he always looked pissed off with me.

So I wasn't very much involved with him at all right from my childhood days and its so bad that I haven't seen any of my friend's brother's doing this to my friends. I have always felt pissed off with myself for getting such a brother.

It so happened that my brother ignored me during his marriage years ago and he is still ignoring me to the core. I am now driven to a position where I am no more feeling about it and also its been almost 4 years now since I have spoken to him.

On the whole my brother hates me...

This stuff has seriously made me very depressed and I don't have any friends in my life so far. I have been in my schooldays, College days and even in work life. This is really pissing me off and am very much afraid that I might be a person with no value in the society.

Any comments or suggestions would really help me.

 

I think you meant "psycho older" not "psychic elder".

Anyway...
You didn't choose your brother. If he is going to blame you for what his father did to him, that is his problem. You can't force him to include you in his life and it might be best if you just forget about him until he comes to terms with his issues. You are giving him power over you.

Whether you have friends or not is up to you. Just as he can't blame you, you can't blame him. You are 8 years apart. You were not even in the same schools as kids. Don't allow this to define your whole life.

I have an older sister who hates and ignores me, too. She never quite got over the trauma of not being an only child anymore. she is still insanely jealous of me and she is in her 40's.
I live my own life and let her live hers. If she ever decides she has a sister, she knows where I am.

 

Sounds promising bro... Thanks a lot... I just need to live my own life.

 

you could try seeing a therapist.

if it's really important to you, you could try to reconnect with your brother.

it may just be that your brother is an asshole and there's not much point in trying to connect with him

a more important issue is that you connect with someone

hope that everything works out for the best!