I started a new part time job at a car dealership. I am 19 but there is a co-worker there that has the biggest crush on me and he makes it so noticable. He is always complementing me, being super nice, brining me coffee and always saying how we should go to lunch. The thing is he is 32 years old. I am so torn though just because if he was younger everything would be fine. And I am so physicaly attracted to him. I know I am obviously too young, but can I go out with him on the weekends if it doesn't go to far? When is it crossing the line? Any advise?
My friend's 21 and is dating a 36 year old. I don't see the big deal. You have to ask yourself does his age really bother you, or are you afraid it would bother other people? If you don't want it to get serious, just tell him. However, I'd be a little more hesitant about dating a coworker, regardless of age.
if you date a co-worker everyone at your work place will know it. belive me they know things are going down already. the grapevine is ripe about you two and, some of it is dead wrong in bad ways! what is your boss thinking about this? what is their boss thinking about it. if this is just a stop gap job for you it might not be a big deal. if this is a long term job or, even a career for you; it will end badly for you or, him or, both of you.
If you like him, you can date him if you wish. Of course, you'll have to keep the relationship out of the obvious at work. Work is work, after all... but you can do what you wish in your private life.
who cares if hes older than you? i used to see a 30 year old, he was 12 years older than me. its all good.
Thanks everyone. I am not the one to judge someone by age ever, I guess its because, I am in the situation now I almost didnt want to take my own advise. Also just a side note, this is just a temporary part time job so I really have nothing to worry about IF it were to go bad or what ever. I see him tomorrow for lunch.
If your job is temporary, then it shouldn't be a problem to date a co-worker. In my opinion, age matters in high school.. if a 17 year old is dating a 30 year old or whatever, but after all that bullshit and high school is over, age doesn't really matter. If you like him, and are attracted to him, I would say go for it. How was the lunch by the way?
It went really good. I thought it would be kinda awkward but we get along so well. I am so glad that I gave him a chance and didnt let the age difference get in the way because he is a real amazing guy and hopefuly we can become great friends first and then see what happens.
the age shouldn't be a problem. except in he workplace. there WILL be caustic comments, assumptions and jokes. but there's nothing morally wrong about the whole thing. but we all gotta learn to be strong some time.
