could use some advice from women

hi guys and girls,
i've been running over the site for about a week before registering and i (obviously) have a question I want to ask. so i'll say up front that i'm sort of a freak occurance. i had a 1 in 100,000 men birth defect, the corrective surgery for which caused me to have an upward curved, shorter than it would have been, thicker than it would have been without the defect, penis. it's a little over 5.5 long ( if i bend it in enough for it to stick out straight) and it goes from about 5 inches around at the tip to like 7.5 at the base. it also has some pretty noticable scarring from the surgery.

in addition to that i have tiny tiny hands. for some bizarre reason i thought it was cool to skip meals constantly during my adolescent growth years. my hands are smaller than my sister's and my mom's and nearly every girl i've ever met. because of that, the girls at my highschool were pretty viscious and started telling everyone in the school that i had a micro-penis (even though nobody had ever seen me naked EVER). i've developed some really intense insecurities from it all that i'm still trying to work through.

i'm a monogamous kind of guy and i'm to the point in my life that i would like to have a meaningful relationship with a woman, but i'm terrified that i won't be able to satisfy her. i know some girls like really large penises and that's fine, but it would really kill me if i fell for a woman and THEN found out i was too small to please her.

so here's the real question: is there any good way to talk to a woman about this and ask her pretty early on what her expectations are? i'm not a complete clutz. i'm normal and confident all except for this and i've had girls showing an interest in me, but for the last two years i haven't been able let any woman touch me because i'm so hung up on this. i know you'll say i need therapy but what i really need is for some real woman with no personal stake in what happens to me to tell me how i should handle this.

 

First of all your size is in the average range so stop worrying about it. The old saying is "it's not how big it is but how you use it". There is plenty to sex besides just thrusting during intercourse. 75% of women can't orgasm from intercourse anyway so you have to provide (mostly) clitoral stimulation.

If a gal is that hung up on penis size, she is not worth getting involved with anyway.