last week, i edited all my past posts here by substituting the words with ".deleted"... i seem to suffer a monologue... as my dialogue with others are unappreciated and i don't know why... maybe i don't posess the ability to sustain attention... or i am a dullard soul who cannot connect with other souls. mayb i should not say random words like "hm" or "oh" as much as this misleads the participant that i am bored, thus, leaving them to say less! the problem's scope does not only lie within here... for instance: instant messaging, phone, IRL interation... i really want to talk... it's just that it appears i am talking to myself all the time. there's also enough pressure for me to initate a conversation with people, maybe... i don't have that certain aura which draws and attract ppl for they to simply say "hello" to me first. sometimes i think of sewing my mouth together and not say at all... that thought is likely to be actually real as the pain in my head beckons meto do it.
you need to learn to listen, even when you're talking. Body language as well as what they say back to you should be big indicators of whether or not they're interested, if they have a point to interject or a retort to what you just said. Pause, give the other body an opportunity to speak, ask questions to be engaging (such as what do you think about that?)
Thanks for your advice, it also has made me to rationally analyse my non-verbal behaviour in presenting myself to others ... I should also ask my family or very close friends of how I should improve my interactions with others, but maybe it's different with every individual.... i apologise for my unreasonable post earlier...
