I would like to know if bi-sexuals ever decide on 1 sex and become heterosexuals...or gay/lesbian? If you're bi-sexual and were to fall in love with someone...do you still feel a sense for the other sex...or does that go away and you can see yourself with that one person and never think about going back? I am a Lesbian...have always known. With bi-sexuals..i do understand..it's more the person not their gender..but sometimesi don't get it. My ex was/is bi-sexual and eventhough she hasn't been with a man in a long time...she has made comments that make me wonder if there are things about a man (unmentionables) that she missed. I still feel her more on the bi-sexual level. One thing i remember is we talked about 3somes..which i am not for..i'm selfish and she's hot..lol...but the way she reacted when i said i wouldn't be open to that...put something in the back of my mind. Any bi-sexuals here wanna help me understand this?
Well it's different for every person. Some are still able to be with someone else while with their partner. I have a friend that is bisexual and is in a relationship with a guy. At the same time he is okay with her "having fun" with a girl as long as he knows about it first. Don't get me wrong they are very much in love, but he is okay with it. (I am bisexual myself.) I think it has to do with the person that they are with as to weather or not they still have feelings for the opposite/same sex. Some understand and are willing to let their partner keep that part of their live. While some understand ,but are not willing to let their partner keep that part of their live. In the end it is up to that person what they do. Hope this helps.
So is it fair to say that most bi-sexuals prefer to be in open relationships with their partners? Or do many of them just live that lifestyle cause they have yet to find that one person to fufil them totally? I am still lost...
I am a girl, bisexual and I have a boyfriend. I still find women attractive, but i am not just going to have sex with one if i so fancy. We have discussed having an open relationship, and although, now is not the right time for us... it may be a possibly in the future. Being monogamous is a personal choice, and for now, I choose it
Being monogamous must not be an option if you're bi-sexual....that's what i'm getting from this...and it's funny because i never worried about my ex cheating with another woman...but i would worry over men. Makes sense now.
Why can't bisexual people be monogamous? If we are with somebody it we can be just as monogamous as any straight or gay person. Just because someone is attracted to both genders doesn't mean they have to be in a relationship with both at the same time, or even have sexual relations with both at the same time
But if you're still thinking about the other sex...than the one you're with...that is cheating emotionally. So..in other words...are you saying you start out bi-sexual but some do have monogamous life long lasting relationships with one sex...so then changing the category to straight or gay?
LEt me put it like this; If a straight person has been with their partner for 10 years, they are still attracted to members (other than their partner of 10 years) of the oposite gender yes? Does that constitute cheating, imo it doesn't. Same for a bi person; they may have been with someone for 10 years, but will still be attracted to people of both genders. Doesn't mean they will act on their attraction just because they are bisexual anymore than a straight or gay person would. To answer your second point, I don't think if a bi person remains in a long term relationship with one person for their entire adult life they would then be considered straight or gay. They will still be attracted to both genders but will just spend their adult life with the one person they love.
I'm a bisexual man married to a bisexual woman. We don't go outside the relationship for sex, although I think we would probably work it out if we wanted to. I think many bisexual people aren't "attracted to both genders" as much as they don't differentiate romantically between the two. If there was a third sex, I'd probably be attracted to that too. When it comes down to it, bisexuals, gays and straights all want the same thing: a connection. To feel like you've made contact with someone else in a meaningful way. There's plenty of straight people and gay people out there that never settle down. It's different strokes for different folks, no need to come up with generalizations.
with me it's more of I love someone but I every now and then need a little extra. I find it comes and goes it strength sometimes overwhelmingly. Then subsides and returns and builds to action strength again. I will probably never go total one or another.
I totally agree! Sure the partner that you're with monogamously may not be able to give you everything that someone in the opposite (of them) sex can but that is the sacrifice of being in that relationship. It would be like me saying that I'm aloud to cheat on my girlfriend with another girl as long as I only had anal sex with her because my girlfriend won't do anal. Sacrifice!
