Coming out yesterday, I'm 19...

Hi there I am 19 years of age and yesterday I told my mother that I am gay. Her answer was: Oh, I know! It was clear to me. We don't talked anymore about that. What are the next steps I must do? Is it so easy? I think about 'normal' coming out stories, but this is not one of those stories.

 

well telling your mother is a big thing. just take it step by step and be yourself!

 

My way of coming out was i was walking down Kennington high road with my Mum, and some lad passed us by and i said "Whooa hes got a nice arse" and my mum just looked at me and started laughing. From then she's known i was gay!

 

mom's tend to know.

 

im sure my mom knows... but shes blinded by her strict religous beliefs.. she thinks gays are just lost.

 

I remember when I told my momma, I was all worried about it and when I finaly outed it I was suprised to find her saying "whatever makes you happy dear, just so long as it isnt too freaky." it was followed by a joke about how I dont need to worry about adding to the population.

 

I'm pretty sure my mom thinks something is up. I'm bi so that makes it harder to tell i think, but she sometimes accidently calls me Robert, her gay younger brother.

 

nah dude coming out Bi to your mom is easier than gay, you still have a 50% chance of blasting out a grandkid.

 

Well atleast you had a chance to tell your mother....mine caught me in the act of sex with another female!

 

damn, thats lame, and prolly hella akward.

 

Ditto. I think parents (and more specifically Moms) know...but are in denial and hoping it isn't true.

I think its like a whole grieving process. The parents have to realize they'll never have the whole dream of a daughter-in-law and 2.5 blood-line grandchildren.

 

Well most parents live in a little land called self blame. They think that because your different then something about how they raised you caused you to become gay and they inturn blame themselves and think they are bad parents because now you will spend your life suffering bigotry and hateful discrimination just because of who you are. Most people still believe that sexual preference is a cause of enviromental factors and not just how you are.. so they try and deny that you are gay because then they can avoid having to blame themselves. Its one of the hardest things to convince your parents of that your who you are because its who you are and that it is no fault of theirs for how they raised you.

 

After many years, my father still asks if it was something he did wrong. He was strict but no more strict than my friends parents. He still thinks it was him who caused it. My Mum thinks she probably mothered her eldest boy too much and this triggered a part of my brain to think I was partly female !!

Thankfully, now they only say these things after a couple of drinks on a night out.. now they can see that I am treated with respect by all I know... and they love my bf to bits... so they think it "suits" me

 

Its usually harder for fathers, isn't it?

Their is the religious aspect too. In my situation, to ever be truly accepted, means my parents would have to alter their religious beliefs.

They still think its a "lifestyle", and "choice", uh...

 

Ya... What sucks is when you didn't want kids, and your fiancee
at the time claims that she's infertile then few months later... Surprise she's knocked up... What's worse she's a religious pro-life wacko.

 

same here

 

if i was a hetero i would find that hot!

 

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