ok so i'm a gay male..and well..im not out .....so basicly everyone thinks im straight..and well i dont want to brag or anything but girls just keep bugging me and liking/loving me.i then have to break their heart and lie that they are not my type. everytime i try to avoid meeting new girls and such...i get new people on msn adding me..random girls calling my house...girls staring at school..and well i cant take it anymore..how the hell can i get rid of these girls without people knowing that im gay?if someone finds out im gay my whole life is ruined..i need my time to tell people when im ready,but girls are getting in my way..its flattering and all but i had enough..i need some advice:{ thanks in advanced i guess
Well speaking as a straight guy who had 2 gay friends and we would go out and hang out at places I agree with ya. I dont know what it was but them girls would draw to Danny and Tony. It would get worse after they said they were gay. I mean what is it with these girls? I have heard some guys are the same way with Lesbian women too. I wonder if its like a mission or something for a person, totally crazy and all but yeah. Either way I feel for ya but at the same time you can be envied too. Best of luck to ya I wish I had the answere to this one. Im not sure if all gay men face this issue but you are not the first.
You stud, you. If you're not comfortable coming out yet, just say "I'm flattered, but I'm not interested in dating at this time". It's not entirely a lie, and you're not saying anything that would make them feel bad about theirselves.
well it depends, do those girls mind gay people? idk but most girls that ive meet seem to like gay guys haha, but idk how it is by you. maybe tell the ones who you know arent against gay people. i guess this is a hard situation but... it all depends how accepting your friends and school on gay people...eeeh i cant give good advice :'(
How about if you tell the girls your only into friendships right now....that way you dont have to hurt them....they can still be around if they want..and you dont have to out yourself. Girls can be wonderful friends to have !!
As I see it, you aren't lying when you say that they aren't your type. And it's also true that you're not looking to date a woman right now.
its not that easy telling people, even my bestfriends....you never know it might just spill or something..im not taking any chances anyway..about the "lets just be friends" i cant just say that to every girl...geeez...thanks for the advice thou my school is very anti-gay friendly
It's really too bad that your school isn't very friendly toward gays... I guess you should just do what you've been doing, even though you don't like doing it. "Sorry, I'm just not interested in dating right now" sounds fine to me, even if it breaks a girl's heart. That's kind of happened with me before people knew I was gay. It also explains why my "girlfriend" of like 2 weeks from the beginning of last year and I never really clicked... Best of luck to you.
