hi everyone....i have an issue that i need some help with...my gf likes to have the lights off during sex...she's a little overweight but in my eyes she still looks sexy....i tell her that but she is just too over conscience over her body...so thats why she wants the lights off...ok, no problem there...anyways, heres the problem...i cant get off anymore and i think that that is the problem, that the room has to be so dark that i cant even see her face or body...i basically have to imagine what she looks like while we are having sex...and then i get blamed for not cumming and she starts crying and saying that i dont love her, but i do, and its just really frustrating....any advice on my situation?
night vision goggles =P nah man... how bout dimming the lights a bit with candles instead of room light. might be dark enough for her and light enough for you. plus its a romantic so might boost up your night
the guy above makes a good point about a possible comprimise. Dim the lights so it's still dark but that you can still see. The slip and slide should be enough to produce an orgasm but if its not, make her suck you off until you finish. She should be swallowing every drop anyways.
yep, a few lights like candles or a lamp in the corner is the way to go. utter darkness is not sexy. soft gentle warm lighting is (and its flattering generally speaking)
Cant she just wear light clothing? Or do it half naked. Or if the other ideas dont work help her with a diet.
I used to not like my body and stuff and i would want the lights off during sex but then i realized that my boyfriend wouldnt be with me if he didnt like the way i looked naked. Just have a sit down with her and try telling her that you love her no matter what size she is and you will always think shes beautiful. I would wear my shirt when me and my boyfriend started having sex, and then i would pull it half way down so it would cover my stomach, but now i just go naked. I know my boyfriend loves me for me no matter what i look like. Just give it time. She will eventually be comfortable enough to have sex with the lights on or with candles or something.
