can't find anyone as open minded as you?

Anyone else feel like they can't find anyone out there as open-minded as them? You feel like every relationship you get in you are always the one trying to convince the other person to try things?

You have quite a few fetishes/interests but know that they wouldn't be accepted?

I, for one, am tired of it! For once I wanna meet someone who I can tell everything to, and they just accept it. How do the rest of you feel?

 

I feel ya

 

I posted a message on here related to finding girls who would like to watch me masturbate while they remain clothed. (look up CFNM). I fantasize about being naked for girls, especially my sister-in-law and love being seen naked on nude beaches and in the countryside too.

Anyway I received not ONE reply to my offer, not even to do it on cam or post a pic of me naked to any girl, so maybe we are all braggers rather that 'do-ers'.

 

I'm the same as you but i'm a girl. I wish my husband would be more adventurous and open minded about certain sexual acts but apparently i married someone who is boring as hell in bed. I don't know if he's always been like this or just now. He used to sleep around alot when he was young. I'm thinking he probably tried this done that, who cares about what the wife wants. Asshole!@ Me on the other hand has only been with 2 guys and he's my 2nd guy. Huge mistake. Should have slept around more when i had the chance. Still so much i want to try. Unless i decide to cheat on him, i don't think i'll ever be able to fulfill my own fantasies. And i'm not one to cheat so i'll probably die one day not knowing what really great and exciting sex feels like I depress myself.

 

I have a private ad on a back page, I get more mail/messages from swinger, couples, trans, bdsm, than you can shake a whip at... I dont reply back to 98% of them..

 

I'd suggest putting up a personal online, just be totally open about everything you want to try and see who takes you up on it. You can go for like casual one-time things or you can even look for a full-on relationship - you never know. Craigslists personals are surprisingly good for this kind of thing. Good luck!

 

Wow! That sucks AznMom!

It seems like you are really missing out on life over there. Have you tried talking about it? Maybe if you were a little more firm, things would turn around.

I don,t know if I could spend my whole life missing out on my sex life. I have done it for stretches and it was miserable! I love watching porn, eating pussy, getting my dick sucked( my favorite), fucking ass, and even letting a girl mess with my ass. I enjoy having sex where I can get caught, toys, almost anything you can throw at me.

I wish people where more open about their bedroom interests. I hate waiting until your deep in to find out the person you chose is a stiff in the bedroom. If we knew that going in, it might make a big difference in who we choose. I don't mind inexperience. I just don't like someone who just refuses to give you what you want/need.

My philosophy is simple.........


If I am the last guy/girl you are supposed to be with, then it's my job to try to fulfill your fantasies. After all, who else is gonna do it in a committed relationship?

 

well i tried.. put up an add on craigslist. i sent about 4 girls pics of my cock, but none of em ever ended up puttin out..

 

im looking for a gal just like that too..........we can hang out talk and do lots of fun horny kinky stuff. sighs.......

 

It's because many of these fetishes are dominating, towards women

- I want to tie my woman up
- she wont let me stick my fist up her ass
- I don't understand her issues with the gag
- Is it really so terrible to want to watch my lady tied to the crucifix and whipped?

Put the shoe on the other foot

 

I think that is pretty close minded.

 

You mean how I found that I could cum from getting my prostate massaged and would like a woman to participate? Yeah....... pretty dominating!

 

With pleasure.

I think you may be underestimating how many people, both male and female, enjoy pushing the limits of their own sexuality. Don't give up hope OP - they're out there.

 

Not all fetishes are about dominating woman. Alot of guys like to be dominated too. I don't mind dominating a guy if that's what gets him off. I used to tie my ex up and suck him off. And he even allowed me to play with him in ways my husband would never in a million years. Not that i'll even tell my husband the too too kinky stuff i did with the ex.

 

Sounds like some good stories............do tell!



It's not about domination for me. It's simply about enjoying sex. I dated a girl who love to put those nipple clamps on her pussy lips. I thought it was weird as hell, but I did it anyway because she got off on it. To me, if it doesn't physically/mentally damage me, why shouldn't I do whatever I can to make my significant other happy?

I feel like I owe it to the person I am with if I expect them to be faithful/committed to me. I mean, I am asking that person to have sex with me and only me during the course of our relationship. The least I can do in return is put some nipple clamps on a girl's labia!

We live in a society where more and more people feel like they shouldn't have to make an effort for things.I am old school even about sex. I believe you have to have to put in great effort if you want things to work. That's why I eat pussy with passion and effort! That is most of the battle right there....lol

Seriously though, I really don't understand people who don't try. I don't claim to be perfect, in fact, I know I'm not! However, I will try hard, and that's all I ask in return!

 

I feel ya. It could just be my age and the fact that many girls around me are less experienced, but I have yet to find myself in bed with a girl that's more experienced, or at least on the same level as myself. It's a little frustrating sometimes, but I'm staying hopeful that as I get older, I'll begin to find more girls that are sexually experienced and open to different things.

 

well my sitch is a little better, I found someone as wild and open minded as me, but I cant be with her ... So I just have to leave it at, "at least we had fun"

 

Hey, it's tough out there for us freaks, for sure. Took me a long while to get any good at getting my needs filled.

Here's my tips:

Craigslist is okay-ish. Like all online dating, it's better if you're real good looking or a woman. There's basically no young women there at all, though, excepting the unholy army of bots. Be sure to write well, ease up on the dick pics, include a face and clothed body shot in your ad, and don't expect casual sex, just no-strings-attached. Build a rapport, and slowly build up the sexual tension, then ask to meet.

OkCupid is better. You can get more in depth into your personality, include more pictures, and do some actual dating. Again, it's all about the slow build of sexual intimacy online if you want to have a sexual interaction in the first couple irl dates. There's no bots here at all, and their matching algorithm is pretty darn good. Say whatever you want on your profile. It's better to be honest and interesting than inoffensive. Send meaningful messages relating to your matches' profiles, not IMs or winks or message bombs.

You have to pay for it, but AdultFriendFinder has TONS of swingers of many ages. Sadly, not only does it cost money, but it's also a shitty website with tons of ads and even more bots than craigslist. But for sex partners, it may be the easiest place online.

Fetlife is for the kinky. If you're more of a swinger than a lifestyler, it's not the world's greatest, though there is a fair bit of overlap and some good discussions there, but I have known several people who've met there.

Don't underestimate local groups, either. There are polyamory meetups, kinkster meetups (called munches here in Portland, dunno if that's the same elsewhere). There are tantric sex meetups. There are swingers' parties and meetups. Not always easy as a single guy, but again, if you're smart, at all good looking, and have some game it should be fine.

Of course, best is through friends. Don't worry about getting a reputation as a bit of a pervert. That can only work to your advantage, if you actually are one and you're confident about it. And if you get good at that, word will spread and it will be easier and easier over time for you to meet women.

Speaking of game, you don't have to be casanova or staggeringly handsome. You do need to be cool and sexy, though. Relax, be calm, talk slow, look people in the eye. Have something interesting you're working on, a few good stories to tell of adventures you've had, and a plan and/or a philosophy to talk about. Spirituality is a good topic, particularly if you know a thing or two. And then, most importantly, turn your date on. Get her to laugh. Best date conversation for freaks like us and any girl we're really want to date? it's always gonna be sex. A well-timed sex joke is the perfect segue into the conversation. And then you can talk increasingly openly about it, about other people you know and what they're into, weird kinks and shit you've seen on the internet, test the waters on the kinky shit, stuff you can laugh about. Tease her, touch her increasingly often, absent-mindedly as you talk to her (this is important, don't look at your hand while you're touching her). Don't get too excited, now. Get her to open up about what she likes, tease her about not being wild enough. Tell her your ideas and fantasies. And finally, open the fuck up. If you're a sex freak, you've got to be confident about that shit, be willing to express it like you're making fun of yourself. If you hide it like you're ashamed of it you're gonna have a hell of a time finding partners. Confidence is sexy. She should be showing increasing interest, or going visibly distant, in which case she's probably not ever gonna be down, so change the subject and go straight to friends, see about getting her to recommend her freaky friends. But if she's getting more and more sexy, tease her about being turned on. Then make your move. now, don't be too clingy or complimentary or excited at any point. Be cool. Like, give her a teasing compliment rather than tell her you really like her, like 'I know we haven't known each other for very long, but I have to tell you, I really think you're at least halfway alright. Maybe even three quarters.' Really lay into the propriety and righteousness of people fucking, lay groundwork for her to feel open about her sexuality with you. That shit's key.

Anyway, good luck!

 

These man tend to gravitate from the average person though. We are talking about those who don't understand these fetishes, after all.

A man wanting to give a woman anal is commonplace, a man wanting his girlfriend to fuck him with a strap on is not so.

 

i know i wish i could find a guy who loves to play heroclix, go to comicbook stores and dess up at comic-cons,loves star trek, have grey hair,older, and loves handjobs, i really love giving them. and quickies anywhere