Broke Up.

i broke up with my bf of 5 months. we both love eachother but his dad doesnt want him seeing me anymore because im in high school still and 'not religious enough.' its a long story but basically he has to listen to his dad.

im sad, lonely, but suprisingly in a denial that is keeping me sane. maybe i saw it coming, maybe i'll just feel the real hurt later. ever happen to you before? i love him still very much and it does hurt, but i kind of have this denial or soemthing.

 

Me and my bf, we are toghether for 6 months and two months ago, we were just about to break up becouse of his parents. We just started to see each other not so often and his parents didnt know that we are together. After week or two, I went with me in his home and his parents were normal. Now, we dont have any problem.

I want to say... If there are any chances - try to save your love, you will realise after some time that nothing is as important as you two.

And if there arent any chances... Im sorry for you girl, Im sorry for him and Im so sorry for your love... Be strong

 

really sad when others step in and wish to break up people. Sorry you two were the victims of parents wise ideas.. Maybe later you two can rehook up till then, chin up, deep breath and look forward, hope for the best for ya.

 

Laura I Love You And Everything Wil Work Out For The Best!! I Love You!

 

Not religious enough?

....You might be better off in the long run.

Sorry you had to go through that. That really stinks. They are only hurting their relationship with their son. (((hugs)))

 

Two evils:

1. religion
2. parental influence.

I highly recommend not listening to me, but I'd run. Love is a demon - it'll play on your emotions until you cry too much or do something silly in order to satisfy your wish.

 

Awww.. I'm sorry hear about the breakup. I myself have had to break up with a girl before we were fully ready to, and the experience was rather painful... So I can understand how you feel. It may still be possible for the two of you to get back together at some point, if his father's attitude about your relationship improves in the future. If so, then great. It would probably be a little tricky right now, so I would just be patient about it if I were you. If you two don't believe getting back together will be worth it, then... Well, it happens. Really sucks hardcore, but it does.

Just remember this since you DID seem to be very happy to be with him, and that your relationship seemed to be a genuine one; even though it didn't last as long as you'd wished, the relationship was worth it. Love IS a wonderful thing even though it is very fragile at times...or perhaps BECAUSE it is fragile at times.

Hang in there. *hugs*

 

thanks guys. im hanging in there. i had to take down all the things in my room directly related to him (pictures and that) and so that was hard, but atleased its not all in my face anymore. i didnt throw the stuff away, which kind of scared me cause its like i know im not over him and wont be for a while. i do hope things level out because i did and continue to love him.

but your right alternative thinker, id rather be heartbroken now with our memories than content without them. i learned so much for him, and for that, i love him even more. :/

 

He honors his father more than you. Time to get out girl! You wanna live wih that father-in-law for the rest of your life? Always waiting on him to 'listen to his dad?' Sorry to say, you're better off without them. It is a package deal, you know.

 

yeah, if his father has that much control over him, what kind of husband and father do you think he'd be someday? Chalk it up as a learning experience. You don't have to get over it, you know. You can scream and kick and break things. You can throw yourself into a hobby or make art or write poetry. You can cry yourself to sleep every night. And all of those things, or anything you do that helps you cope, that helps you express these mixed-up feelings you are experiencing, are good. ((((hugs))))

 

Awww, I'm sorry sweetie.

{{{Huge hugs}}}

 

yea, thats what ive been doing. as much as i hate this breakup, i LOVE being able to really get down to how i feel with it by writing and all. great advice! thanks

 

What nonsense is this about the parents being blamed and being made the "bad guys"?

Sympathies truly, dietcoketree, and I hope you manage to find peace somehow, regardless. However I have to disagree with some of the comments made here. This is just one side of the story. As much as I'm sure you're a good person, diet, there can be a whole slew of reasons why his parents think the way they do and why you may not be a good match.

 

HE is a way too old to be controled from his parents!
Why the hell he must do what they want?

 

yea, my point exactly i made to him. but it all boils down to hes not ready to be on his own, lame i know, so he needs to abide by his dads rules until he moves out, and his dad doesnt want him dating a girl who is A.) in highschool B.) not religous.

i am both. :/

 

His dad sucks!
And your bf should be stronger!!!!!

 

This sounds very reasonable.

 

i know. it makes me think that maybe he didnt love me at as much as i did him, because my mom wasnt thrilled with us going out either, but i put that aside because i cared about him, and now he has given up. WHY CANT LOVE PREVAIL!?

 

Love? Do you truly believe love is possible when it has not been tested?

I find it a bit strange when people jump from a certain emotion to "love".

Try to accept that people come from different families. Perhaps it's not such a large deal and your mother hasn't put her foot down or given you drastic ultimatums. Maybe his dad has. It's a terrible situation and I really am sorry but hopefully you'll be a little more careful about how you choose your partners. I'm afraid this doesn't always stop at the twenties. There are people in their thirties (and in some cases or in a few cultures, beyond that) who are still under the influence of family members.

In this case, since you're both a little younger, I'd say to just take it easy. I don't find his dad unreasonable in the least. Love (whatever the hell it is) can prevail. But patience is a different thing altogether.

 

so what should i do?

im sure i sound nieve or whatever, but i really dont know what to do. i told myself that i would just move on and that this is just a situation that im better not getting into even more, but its so hard to keep going on through the day knowing i cant talk to or see him later. should i move on? or should i follow my heart and tell him that somehow we will make it work because i LOVE him and if he feels the same, tehn somehow it will work?

ugh so confused.